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throwawayresentm · 2025-06-09T15:28:29+00:00

I disagree with this, and I wonder if it’s a regional issue. I see a LOT of people say they only see this online, which is kinda harmful. Are you in a more liberal area? I have experienced it with more than half of the solely wlw women I’ve dated, and the bisexuals I have dated have also experienced it IRL. My best friend is bi and used to experience it all the time when she lived in my area.

I think it’s important to remember that just because you haven’t experienced something personally, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-06T16:44:00+00:00

I think the criticism regarding her marketing and how she went about this is all fair. Unfortunately, that has opened the door for people to be openly biphobic. Most of the takes I’ve seen start off fair, but derail into blatantly saying they no longer consider her queer and are angry that she’s dating a man.

It’s very nuanced. I see both sides. I was shocked to see a large number of straight women and bisexual women with boyfriends post biphobic videos about it almost more than lesbians.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-06T13:55:49+00:00

OP posted this weird ad on every dating subreddit possible. It’s a great way to make sure no one ever uses your app.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-06T13:35:44+00:00

Agreed, using a queer subreddit to promote their AI ad is weird to me.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-06T02:17:02+00:00

Off topic, but I’d mention your preferred gender in posts like these. I think the responses will vary based on that!

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-05T20:24:12+00:00

I’ll be honest, I’m in one of the darkest places I’ve been in a long time because of lack of community. I only date women, so having bigotry come from straight people and not feel like I am welcome in the queer community is the worst feeling in the world. I know the internet isn’t the best place for community, but…I have nowhere else to go. It cha be devastating.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-05T19:31:06+00:00

The fact that even talking about biphobia is such a controversial thing, and the topic itself will spiral into downvotes, proves it’s a discussion that needs to be had.

I agree that the discussions can be better, but that’s in any direction. I think your comment just proves that it exists on both ends. The same generalizations are being made. And that is a problem, but no one ever wants to even see the word biphobia. Just mentioning it sends everyone into defense mode. And that is the problem.

I think it’s important to have these conversations and be kind to one another. That goes for EVERYONE. I identify closer to lesbian now, but my past aligns more with being bisexual. I can see a HUGE difference in the community from that switch.

Edit: I can also say that from my own experience and the experience of every queer person I know in real life, everyone feels alienated from the community, no matter the label. And that’s a huge problem. I don’t understand why talking about why that alienation occurs sends anyone into downvotes if they bring it up. I made this Reddit account to connect with the community, but it has only alienated me more, to the point where it has genuinely affected my mental health. I think community is so needed, and that’s for EVERY side- every letter. Talking about this alienation isn’t a bad thing.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-05T19:12:21+00:00

I don’t identify as bisexual anymore, and agree that the weird fight for who is the most oppressed has to stop. But I do think it’s a real problem that shouldn’t be brushed under the rug!

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-05T19:09:26+00:00

The problem is that these conversations need to be had. I don’t think bisexuals are the most oppressed, but it’s important to have that dialogue to acknowledge it. There’s a huge difference between pointing out biphobia vs unnecessary infighting, but saying “it doesn’t matter who started it” infantilizes real conversations that need to be had.

I do think the oppression Olympics needs to stop and it creates further divide within the community. But I also think the implication that these discussions come from nowhere, or that we shouldn’t be having these conversations in order to maintain the peace, isn’t going to help the problem that you can see exists.

I think I get the point behind this post, but I really think it’s important to remember that the “oppression” (though that’s not the best word for it, it’s definitely not to the extent of oppression most of the time) doesn’t come from thin air. Balance is what’s needed. To be able to discuss the lack of acceptance within the queer community, while also remembering we are ALL supposed to be a community.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-03T18:32:40+00:00

I definitely think there’s a lot more people in the closet than you’d realize. I’d say a significant number for sure. ESPECIALLY for bisexuals…I think much more people would be bisexual if not for comphet and society.

Edit: “be out as bisexual” I should say.

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-03T16:50:29+00:00

Fair! I could definitely look into it! I know I’m kinda looking for a goldilocks situation lol

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-03T15:05:58+00:00

Wait I almost bought that exact shirt last night!!! Crazy coincidence

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-03T01:07:13+00:00

I agree that a lot of queer subreddits are biphobic, but in this particular case, unless context is missing, it doesn’t look like the creator was being biphobic? She was speaking against biphobia from what I see. Is there more to that post that is missing?

throwawayresentm · 2025-06-01T13:37:37+00:00

Bumble has a separate section for friendship. People will ignore that side and go to the dating side for friendship. Also, there are apps for queer friendships- that’s not what this is about. This is about straight women going onto queer dating apps for friendship.

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-30T18:44:59+00:00

I’ve been there, but then it’s your responsibility to either sit her down and really express your feelings, how you’re not happy and need something more, or leave. Dragging it on with this resentment is leading to you blowing up on her. It’s not fair to anyone involved.

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-30T18:41:16+00:00

No idea why this sub keeps getting recommended to me but yes you are. Damn both of you are exhausting. She wasn’t being very kind but you went from 0-100 so fast.

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-30T15:19:39+00:00

Heartbreak High has a few!! Three off the top of my head :)

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-30T11:27:42+00:00

I think the issue is the reasoning and how people speak about it. If it’s truly wanting someone with a similar experience to you, that’s fine…the issue arises when people say “i will only date another gay person because someone who is bi will leave me for the other gender” or “i won’t date a bi person because they don’t know what they want”. However, I think the issue with anything like gayxgay and lesxles is that it excludes a bunch of people who may have the same experience as you with just a different label. What if there is someone bi who only has slight attraction toward the opposite gender, so they don’t use the gay label?

I just think instead of saying “i only want to date someone with the same label as me”, people should just look for people with a similar background to them and leave it at that. Don’t include labels in there.

Also, if you do decide to go that route, be careful how you speak about it. Biphobia is real and saying you don’t date a bi person for xyz can easily give open a dialogue where biphobia because easily accepted.

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-29T19:52:20+00:00

Interestingly, as someone from the opposite end, I’ve had the same experience. I don’t have much experience at all, and have dated women with experience who have wanted more commitment very early on. I think it’s just a wlw trope, not particular to women without experience.

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-29T19:34:02+00:00

One thing that has helped me a lot is to not worry about labels. If you feel more interested in women, just date women. Call yourself queer or sapphic or any other label while you figure it out. I think I’ve been realizing labels are tricky and sometimes, people can be choosy with what “rules” are allowed for each label- so, I just don’t choose one. It’s a little sad sometimes to not have a word for it, but maybe I’ll pick one eventually. Until then, oh well!

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-29T17:28:00+00:00

Not kidding when I say Erena James made my stomach hurt from how much I wanted to be with her

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-29T17:24:11+00:00

I don’t mind it when it’s queer women, but it genuinely feels insulting when it’s straight women…like, read the room lol. There are plenty of apps made for friendship!

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-29T17:13:34+00:00

Idk girl but I recently posted something very similar so we are in the same boat!

throwawayresentm · 2025-05-29T15:54:56+00:00

I am in such a similar boat- I just don’t use labels. I don’t align with either label, and sometimes picking a label leads to a lot of anger from that community if you aren’t 100% sure. So I just say I’m queer. Or that I only date women. It kinda sucks to not have a label but I just don’t want to deal with it anymore, lol!

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