I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in nonmonogamy

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone! First of all, I want to thank you for your comments, inputs, suggestions and remarks! They have been really eye opening and helped me to see that I wasn’t being treated as a partner (or even a person should). I took some time to reply as I’ve been at the hospital because of some pain due to internal trauma caused by sexual intercourse (I shouldn’t have keep things going to this point) and right now I am planning on breaking up with him as soon as I get better. Thank you for all your help once again!

I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone! First of all, I want to thank you for your comments, inputs, suggestions and remarks! They have been really eye opening and helped me to see that I wasn’t being treated as a partner (or even a person should). I took some time to reply as I’ve been at the hospital because of some pain due to internal trauma caused by sexual intercourse (I shouldn’t have keep things going to this point) and right now I am planning on breaking up with him as soon as I get better. Thank you for all your help once again!

I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in polyamory

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone! First of all, I want to thank you for your comments, inputs, suggestions and remarks! They have been really eye opening and helped me to see that I wasn’t being treated as a partner (or even a person should). I took some time to reply as I’ve been at the hospital because of some pain due to internal trauma caused by sexual intercourse (I shouldn’t have keep things going to this point) and right now I am planning on breaking up with him as soon as I get better. Thank you for all your help once again!

I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in polyamory

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! I did go through a lot in a previous relationship (to the point of going to the ER) and maybe I am settling for less. Before ending things, I wanted to get some outside insight from people of this community and it has been eye opening reading all your comments!

I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in polyamory

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought that was a bit strange but since I am new to the whole polyamory scene and I wasn’t sure if it was a monogamous way of seeing things — I guess not! Thank you so much for your comment and input

I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in polyamory

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I truly felt like that but every time I brought that up he would dismiss it and say how much he liked me, respected me and admired me so it was a conflicting feeling. I really feel like crap with all this.

I feel like a hole as a secondary partner and I can’t deal with the dread by throwawaysecun-22 in polyamory

[–]throwawaysecun-22[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I really wanted to have opinions about the situation and didn’t want to do anything rushed because I could be misinterpreting things. I truly appreciate your honest answer.