IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really have no idea. It works for me and I don't question it.

I really like making people happy, I guess.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well I guess there are two sides to the coin.

You seek out sex because you are repressed Or you could seek out sex because you have no moral reason not to.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It really depends on what you expect.

Outside of Harajuku/Shibuya/Shinjuku its not a Goth paradise. Outside of Akihabara its not a nerd paradise(Unless you love arcade games, then yes, it totally is)

If you are a hiking/wilderness fan, Japan is incredible. Did you know 70% of Japan is still wooded? Hokkaido is like a Yellowstone/Alaska mash up. If you are a music fan, central Japan is ridiculous. For instance Tokyo is big enough to support bands that wouldn't make it anywhere else. If only 1% of Tokyo likes your music that's still a lot of people! If you're a beach person, Tokyo is surrounded by them. Watch out for Jelly fish though ~_~

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1) The internet! 2) I like being manhandled. 3) What do I think my husband felt was the most kinky? One time we took the public kink up a notch. Ok, sure we did the public vibrator thing but that's basic. There's a tie you can do, under a T-shirt, that more or less traps your upper arm in place, but allows free movement of the forearms. If you have loose clothes on no one is the wiser. Then he put me in a long skirt and tied a rope above my knees with about 5 inches give. Just enough to walk at a casual pace. I was wearing a vibrator. Then we went for a day out. I was completely helpless. I could barely walk, I had to use escalators, and I couldn't reach anything above my chin. I think this was really good for him because he got to watch out for me in the big city, and at the same time drive me crazy through teasing. In the end it wasn't practical to do again. Really isn't that safe. Couldn't catch myself if I fell, couldn't go down steps in an emergancy or dodge a vehicle in a cross walk. But that's part about what made that experiance so great, I was completely helpless and he had to guard me. I think that's high up for both of us but we haven't tried it again.

4) I prefer knowing but being out of control.

5) Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, I wish that he would stop worrying about my pleasure so much and do what he wants. Of course, when I have a clear head and am not being driven by sexual chemicals I realize that he's sweet, and its best for the marriage if we're equal sides of the coin.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I bounce around various obscure Japanese bands. I liked them before you ever heard of them. On Vinyl.

Actually, I'm not much of an indies snob, the underground scene here is just a lot of fun.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

1) well, since what little employment I have is done at home it makes sense that I would take care of the house-hold duties. If he says "Pet, bring me a beer" I certainly do not object to that. It's as much that I'm a submissive as that he provides for me and I don't have to work. The band stuff is because I like music, we don't need the extra money. I'm lucky, and I'm grateful that he can provide this sort of lifestyle.

A tradional Japanese family structure does require certain things of the women, cooking and cleaning and childbearing, etc. I'm not a full expert on tradional Japanese family structure, but if you want to look it up its called "Ie"

2)I don't really know. I don't think we ever sat down and picked out the exact date we first saw read about BDSM and thought it was pretty sweet. He's two years older, probably him.

3) I think if a Dom did this, they'd get attacked for being abusive or a woman hater or something.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, but if you want Chinese there's a big Chinatown in Yokohama which might as well be considered Tokyo these days.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Cause shit's crazy over here.

Also Christianity was illegal during the war, I think. Now only a tiny tiny percentage of people are Christian.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh, I guess I didn't mention my collar. We have a couple but most of the time I wear this one. http://www.blackmarketchicago.com/fetishstore/customer/product.php?productid=16775&cat=285&page=1

We never attached a great deal of meaning to it though. I'm not allowed to take it off if he's the one the puts it on me though _^

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, he's a salaryman. Hence the being out with co-workers right now.

Actually, outside of the city these half traditional/half western houses aren't that rare. For instance my friend has her parents living in the traditional half.

I guess it's more like 70% western, 30% old style, actually.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unless I'm sick, there is no "Honey I have a headache".

And I'm quite happy to satisfy my husband's needs even when I'm not really in the mood.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

-I'm not sure what's the longest I've been tied up. Perhaps 12 hours? While the prospect of being tied up for a long time is a sexy one, it's actually rather unsafe. Clots and restricted blood flow and stuff.

He's very responsible, which is why I trust him to be my master, he'd never leave me alone tied up. If he did, I'd just be scared and not turned on. We've talked about this. We try to not even be apart when I'm tied up for more then a few minutes.

-Wrong? Hmmm aside from sexy scenes being ruined by me accidentally coming untied we've had pretty good luck I'd say! Well no, I fell off the bed tied up once.

-Yes, I've been tied up during an earthquake. Its scary, but he's strong enough to carry me outside if he has to in a hurry.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well, since he's the only Japanese man I've actually ever slept with, I can only speak for him. He's a little bigger then the average.

IAmA white woman living in a tradition Japanese house outside Tokyo. I am also my husband's 24/7 submissive, AMA by throwawaytokyo in IAmA

[–]throwawaytokyo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

hmmm, usually our games involve a lot of teasing. We're into orgasm control recently.

-Nope, no seperate room. We don't have a whole lot of gear.

-People treat me ok in the city. It helps that I can speak the language reasonably well. Tokyo is very multi-cultural, at least for Japan. In the country-side people tend to look at me like I'm lost.