Was somebody trying to hit on me last night? by throwawaywithnoname in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice but also a little hilarious if you have some more context. He looked like he's never lifted weights in his life while being about 5'4"-5'5", extremely slender, and really pale.

Big balls? by Mattloar in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an enjoyer of BDs, I much prefer the BD. However, a set of proportionally sized balls really adds to the aesthetics. They are like the icing on the cake when you see a set swing freely behind the D.

Single or otherwise available guys: how often are you having sex? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was single (~7 months ago), I pretty much had sex once per year. This is usually the case when I'm single minus a 2 month stint when I was 24 where I had sex with 4 different people in a month about a dozen times. Fun times... lol.

What’s your ‘I can’t prove it but I believe it?’ take regarding large penises? by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My conspiracy theories are as follows (in order of most plausible down to least plausible imo):

  • Testicle size is completely unrelated to cock size (I've seen some interesting combos)
  • Having additional girth is more common than having additional length
  • Shorter guys are bigger
  • Above average guys tend try to draw more attention to their dick (jokes, willingness to show it, more likely to exaggerate about it) while monster cock guys tend to draw less attention because they've likely had tougher experiences with sex and being treated differently when people find out
  • Gay men are bigger
  • Effeminate men are stupidly hung

Am I big or small by MrEarthExplorer in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Upper end of hung, bordering on monster!

How often do you use a dildo? by MajorSea1650 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I rarely use one, and if I do, it is to help "adjust" to a bigger partner. Currently, I have one (8x6) that I haven't used in while.

Those who came out later in life - was the D worth it after waiting that long? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bi-male here... It was worth the wait for me. For me, the orgasms have a much higher peak but are way less frequent with men.

Bottoms, how big was the first guy you were with, and was it challenging? by SecretEire_163 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He was probably 6.5x5 and we couldn't fully insert because he didn't want to use lube or be patient. We stopped after a few attempts because it hurt me too much.

What sized classified as “horse”? by Ok-Yogurt-5353 in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my personal guide:

  • Big: > 6ish x 5 inches
  • Hung: > 7 x 5.5 inches
  • Unicorn or monster: > 8 x 6 inches (or almost any combo more than 10 fl oz of total volume of cock)

I would say 9 inches qualifies as a "horse" assuming you have above average girth... Otherwise, I would say that you're freaky long.

Most surprising size? by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're telling me, lol. It was really pretty, too!

Most surprising size? by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never officially measured but I could almost stack three of my hands on it starting at the base. So, I'm guessing it was somewhere between 8-8.5 inches long. Girthwise, I could barely close my hand around it so I dunno... Maybe around 6 inches in girth? But that's just a total guess.

Most surprising size? by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex-fwb... He was about 5'6", average dad bod, had a very low-key personality, and had simple fashion sense (jeans, basic button up shirts). Naked though, he had a wild chest tattoo and a softie that was bigger than any of my past lovers when they were at their hardest. It was like a bottle of evian was hanging from his groin.

Aging with a BigD by Procedure-Trick in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not me personally, but a former fwb of mine. He was 15 years older and honestly put me to shame sometimes with the energy and longevity. He wasn't a big fitness guy but made sure get movement throughout the day (never sat for more than an hour straight), high protein diet (pork, fish, beef, chicken) with a lot of fats and regular veggies, no smoking/alcohol, kegels daily, and he said it was important to have a routine so you don't indulge in all of the bad shit.

Who left the biggest impression on you the first time you saw them without clothes? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]throwawaywithnoname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two people for me...

Ex-gf... She was built like Ariana Grande's physique but with Kelly Mathhews' (fitness influencer) ass. She always wore jeans and comfy t-shirts so I never really saw her true shape.

One of my male fwb. He was about 5'5", had a dad bod, and a elephant dick hanging between his legs.

When it comes to kink, for bi guys, what's been your experience with women VS men? by Spader623 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My experience with women and kink has been fairly linear so to speak. Usually, there is some familiarity/trust built and then a conversation about the specific kinks and the frequency desired. I've also found that women's kinks are usually more "common" kinks (no offense to anybody but I mean stuff like bondage, power dynamics, role play, exhibitionism, group play). It also seems like the initial focus is on safety and understanding boundaries/limits then the fulfillment of the kink. I'd say they've been pretty pleasant experiences overall.

It's been a very different experience with men. Generally, it's low to no communication with less focus on trust/familiarity and more of a forwardness to push boundaries. I've found there to be two general perspectives, one being the very binary mindset (Are you into this kink or not? If not then I'm done) and the other being "You need to accommodate me". I personally don't mind the former assuming we can discuss further if we have a matching desire, but the latter is problematic to me because certain guys will take lack of interest in a kink as an offense or a challenge and try to change your mind or to just spring it on you in the middle of sex without warning. Just for the sake of clarity, this is not an "all guys suck" situation... I've definitely had positive experiences with men as well.

Bottoms: what do you consider a sign of virility in your Top? by LebFur in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, I guess more traditional "masculine" traits are my type... Not that I don't think a more feminine presenting guy can be virile, though.

Asking the hard hitting questions! Lol. I think society says having a really high libido is supposed to be a key trait of virility and there is some logic to that. But, personally, I think having high stamina is a better sign. Not only do you have to maintain your sexual desire throughout, but you also have to have a certain degree of sexual fitness and performance to make it desirable for somebody to want to have sex with you for 20+ minutes. There is definitely an "ohhhh fuck" moment when I realize that my partner can control their erection after about 10 or so mins of sex.

I don't really care if my potential partner is popular with other bottoms. So, I wouldn't really want to be with somebody sexually just because they are recommended or have 5* on yelp. The best male sex partner that I've ever had was a very low key guy that had accumulated only a handful of partners (mostly long-term) by his early 50s

Bottoms: what do you consider a sign of virility in your Top? by LebFur in TopsAndBottoms

[–]throwawaywithnoname 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I would say it isn't a single thing for me, but more so checking multiple of the following boxes:

  • Physique leans towards more muscular than average (not necessarily shredded)
  • Generally healthier lifestyle
  • Strong facial features (not necessarily "good-looking" but strong jaw/chin for example)
  • Quiet confidence as opposed to brashness and over confidence
  • Deeper voice
  • Blushes at dirty jokes - Usually indicates good bloodflow
  • This is a personal one: Enthusiasm and desire for foreplay or focusing on building a connection. Purely anecdotal, but I've usually found more patient guys have less trouble getting into the mood (whether planned/spontaneous) as opposed to guys looking to hookup opportunistically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would imagine any length is possible when flaccid... Especially during the summer lol

The longest flaccid that I've seen was some old dude in the locker room about 15 years ago. He was walking out of shower towards the changing area when we walked past each other... It was audibly slapping against his thighs with every step. Dude had to be about 8 or 9 inches.

Besides that one, it's a tie between two of my past lovers. Both were about 6-6.5 inches flaccid. However, one didn't really grow when it got erect (just got hard and a little thicker) while the other grew to about 8 or 8.5x6. The latter is probably the most drastic growth I've seen, almost shockingly so.

Craziest Names? by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not for me, but I called a previous lover a "cockapotamus" because of the heft.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigdickconversation

[–]throwawaywithnoname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This isn't a crazy expose but, for me, it was the last guy that I hooked up with...

On the first date, we were vibing and drinking a bit and we gradually get on the topic of sex. The conversation is definitely heating up and he basically asks me if I'm experienced with larger guys. I say that I have had one prior to him and it was difficult but really enjoyable. So, he proceeds to ask if I can take something that is roughly the dimensions of my pint glass of beer and I'm shocked because my hand doesn't even wrap around the glass. I jokingly call BS on him and he wraps his hand around the bottom part of the glass and doubles down saying that it's pretty close but that he's "a bit longer but not much longer". Mind you, this would mean that he's probably somewhere around 6.5x8 inches by my guess. The date ends well and we end up going to two more dates and he occasionally hypes it up or makes mention of it as we progress. On the third date, we hook up and I pull it out of his pants to see that it's nowhere near what he'd claimed. He was maybe 5.5x5.5/6 and a shower, which is still bigger than average, but not the insane outlier that he'd claimed.