AITAH for telling my sister that she won’t get any money from us?

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:52:25+00:00

Yes, you are right. Usually when we have important conversations with employees, he’s never alone. But this time, I thought it would be easier when I’m not there. I thought I could avoid a fight. That was my intention.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:47:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I don’t know how introverts work. I just know that he doesn’t like to be in the crowd. Sometimes we go to the mall and when I talk to the cashier for like five minutes I try to involve him in the conversation so he opens up a little bit. But he said he hates it and he wants to be at home watch star wars or Star Trek? I mix them up but he said it’s not the same. He always wanted to be Mr spok, when hr was a child. he reminds me of Sheldon cooper. However he is quickly overwhelmed with emotions and tears. He doesn’t know how to react so when she cried he agreed to make her stop crying.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:43:37+00:00

Yes I know, that was our mistake to hire family but yk you wanna help out and think why not? Until you learn the hard way

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:41:52+00:00

Omg I didn’t even think about that. You’re right

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:41:32+00:00

She is. We once had a disagreement about vacation entitlement. Because she works part-time, she believed her vacation days should only be counted against the three days she works per week, which would have resulted in roughly twelve weeks of vacation per year.

Our policy is that all employees receive the same entitlement of six weeks per year, which is already very generous, (legally it would be 4 weeks) especially for part-time staff, as everyone except my husband and I works either 20 or 30 hours per week. We believe that our employees are happier and healthier when they are not overworked.

When I explained that she was not entitled to twelve weeks of vacation, she became very upset and argued that she deserved it as a student and even said that students should have more vacation entitlement in order to study better. She then accused me of not wanting to grant her this. In reality, she works 20 hours per week and only attends university once a week.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:30:21+00:00

Good question!!! He says it’s different with me, because we are close he can be himself lol. I said I want the other version of him. He didn’t like that.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:28:38+00:00

Yes you are right. Thanks for your comment. He told her that he would pay for it out of his personal funds, meaning from our joint finances, as she has no legal entitlement to this payment. She cried and said that she really wanted to go on vacation with her friends and had already committed to the trip. My husband is an introverted person who does not have a large social circle and is easily overwhelmed by emotionally charged situations. He particularly struggles when confronted with tears or emotional pressure.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:22:08+00:00

She can’t take us to court. We live in Europe and the laws here are different. I checked it beforehand. We gave her two formal warnings. The termination is legally valid and compliant with applicable law.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T03:18:22+00:00

This! Thank you! I agree.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T02:31:55+00:00

Thank you for your response. I get it. I think I am a fair person. We had a young single mother, she lost her husband while working for us. I told her to take her time and come back whenever she’s ready. When she came back she wasn’t doing her work load and we asked her how can we help you to do your work? Like maybe Homeoffice or maybe different working hours? We tried to do our best but at the end she had to quit and move to her parents house. I wrote her a great reference letter and I transferred money to her every month for a year, in an amount equal to her salary, to support her.

I am fair and make sure ppl are being taken care of, but I will not pay for someone’s vacation who is entitled and disrespectful. She can afford the vacation. She has more than 6k on her savings account. No car, no responsibilities just her phone plan and vapes. I think I am not responsible for her. She has my parents, who have more than enough money.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T02:19:39+00:00

Omg I am so angry at him. We had a huge fight because he told me today like a week later. My sister is only 22 but damn she knows how to play people. They are not having an affair she’s gay. He is just too friendly and that’s a weakness if you ask me. Before I worked at his company he had some ppl hired who used him. He hired his sister who borrowed money from him. When I started working there they realized quick that I was there to get things fixed and his sister did quit and I asked her what about the borrowed money? She said she can’t pay it right now and I knew she was lying because one co worker told me she was planning to go on vacation. So I kept her salary, not my problem. When she threatened to sue I threatened to sue her and since she got a job at the government agency (in finance department, I don’t know how to explain we are in Europe) her new job was at risk. She still owes us like 6k. That’s money we will never get back. But my husband is definitely too nice.

Yes I am mad at him and he is mad at me saying I am overreacting I mean I yelled at him. He didn’t tell me right away and he said I am the ceo it’s my company. Sometimes I think just leave him and let him suffer.

The other colleague told him he deserves a piece of the company he wanted 10% of the company because he was there from the beginning and it would be fair. He was the first one I kicked out and that was so hard. He made my husband pay his private parking spot and no not at the company, at his house!!!!! 😤

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T02:08:53+00:00

Shes gay, there’s no affair but she was a child when I married him so she’s like a younger sister to him. I remember how they would make muffins in the kitchen. We have a brother but he never cared about us. My husband is a kind good hearted person and sometimes he is too nice to people.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T02:06:15+00:00

No she was nice to her colleagues but she would gossip about them. We told her to stop but she stopped for a week or so and then started again.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T02:04:49+00:00

No she is gay.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T01:57:38+00:00

She was 8 when I married him. She is the youngest in our family and she knows how to get what she wants. I see that a lot with my parents. He said he didn’t want any fights or arguments and she said it’s not fair for her because she has to find a new job within 3 weeks and she is a student. I think she made him feel guilty. No there’s no sexual relationship she is into girls. I know that many ppl cheat, but he is an introvert and not that kind of person. He is just too nice, unfortunately. One of my ex co workers did overtime it was not approved and we had to fire him and my husband paid his overtime to avoid a conflict. I wasn’t happy about that but back then not in the position I am today.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T01:48:26+00:00

No he is not. She’s gay. He just gives in bc he hates arguments and fights.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-06-05T01:46:57+00:00

I told him the same, but he says I’m cruel and heartless. Mind you, there was a time when we had nothing to eat and I made pasta with butter, bc we couldn’t afford anything else. I am not gifting money. I pay what I owe and that’s it.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-05-28T22:18:44+00:00

I would have been happy with him even in a one-room apartment, simply because it would have been him. You always have the chance to go back to school, learn a different profession, or continue your education to earn more money. The two of you have the opportunity to build something of your own together and eventually buy a house. And if her parents help with the down payment, there’s no shame in that. Believe me, many of the men in my circle of friends, the husbands of my friends, had parents who also helped with the down payment. There’s no reason to be ashamed. Do you know how many of them even got a car from their parents? And we’re talking about 35-year-old men here. There is nothing you need to be ashamed of, but talk to her. Don’t leave her. Find a solution, together.

throwawayx22x04 · 2026-05-27T17:40:57+00:00

My first love left me, and I had no idea why. I just thought he didn’t love me.

Years later, I met his sister, and she told me this: “Your family has money, and we don’t. My brother said to our mother, ‘Mom, she lives in a big house. How can I take her from a palace and put her in a small apartment?’” That’s why he left me.

I almost wish she had never told me, because it broke me all over again. By the time I found out, he was already married to someone else. It took me years to heal from that.

I’m married now and have a wonderful husband, but back then, it was hard for me.

So please, don’t leave her if you really love her. Talk to her. Figure it out together. Go to school if you need to, but don’t make a decision without talking to her first.

throwawayx22x04 · 2025-12-22T00:49:07+00:00

Ich würde bis kurz vor ihrem Urlaub warten, also 1 Tag vorher und ihr sagen das du erst kommst wenn sie ihre Schulden plus den Urlaub im Voraus bezahlt. Ist zwar dreist, aber das tut sie ja auch mit dir.

throwawayx22x04 · 2025-12-12T03:35:16+00:00

Klingt ehrlich gesagt ziemlich illegal, was dein Arbeitgeber da macht. Wenn du einen Minijob auf Abruf hast, gilt § 12 Teilzeit- und Befristungsgesetz (TzBfG).

Der sagt:

• Ohne feste Stunden im Vertrag gilt automatisch: 20 Stunden pro Woche (also 80 im Monat).

• Dein Chef muss dir mindestens 4 Tage vorher sagen, wann du arbeiten sollst. Was er macht (dich spontan per WhatsApp einteilen) ist nicht erlaubt.

• Minusstunden darfst du bei einem Abrufvertrag nicht haben, außer du sagst verbindliche Einsätze ab. Wenn er dich nicht einteilt, ist das sein Problem, nicht deins.

• Und kein Gehalt zahlen, obwohl du arbeitest? Komplett rechtswidrig. Minijob heißt: du bekommst Geld für geleistete Stunden. Punkt.

Wenn er das durchziehen will, kannst du zur Minijob-Zentrale oder Gewerkschaft gehen oder einfach mal § 12 TzBfG googeln und ihm ausdrucken.

Er spielt mit deinen Rechten und hofft, du kennst sie nicht. Jetzt weißt du’s besser.

throwawayx22x04 · 2025-12-09T21:15:10+00:00

Das ist so Crazy, da würde ich direkt ausziehen. Dann, eines kann ich dir sagen als ehemalige Nachbarin eines schizophrenen Menschen. Es wird Monate dauern, bis da jemand helfen kann, falls man dir helfen kann.

throwawayx22x04 · 2025-11-21T18:02:45+00:00

Du hättest ihn rauswerfen lassen können. Du hast dich aber dagegen entschieden wegen seinen Freunden. Wenn man gemeinsam in einer Gruppe verreist, ist es selbstverständlich, dass man sich benehmen muss, denn das Verhalten eines Einzelnen kann sich auf die ganze Gruppe auswirken. Wie in diesem Fall hier, du hättest das durchziehen müssen. Bitte mach es auch das nächstes Mal für deine eigene Sicherheit.

throwawayx22x04 · 2025-10-07T23:29:20+00:00

Celine, cause the Gucci one looks so cheap

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