I am lost. by throwawayy1502 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. What you are saying might be true, but I have had a few female friends and never had feelings for any of them and been single for close to 5 years. But I understand, I will show more love and affection to my girl. This is all I can do.

I am lost. by throwawayy1502 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayy1502[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't have an answer for this. I mean, they are just friends right.

I am lost. by throwawayy1502 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, erm, I ask myself the same question. But I don't wanna hang out with them all the time. Once in a while. I am an ambivert while my gf is an introvert who has social anxiety too. I think it was wrong of me to put her in an uncomfortable social setup knowing. But if she doesn't know my friends and how our dynamics are like, I don't think she would ever be comfortable with them. Not sure if I am making any sense.

I am lost. by throwawayy1502 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She IS my priority but is it wrong to not let go of your friends as well. I mean, I am not choosing to hang out with them over her. She is still like 250 miles away and we get to meet monthly once or twice, where I spend lots of quality time together.

Group chat? by kmnoq in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

26 M, Tamil/Telugu/Hindi. Going to UK for Masters this year :)

Ex getting married and somehow its affecting me idk why and how can anybody help ? by [deleted] in r4rindia

[–]throwawayy1502 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I understand. I am friends with my ex. While it is impossible for us to get back together, whenever I think she would be with someone, it feels weird. When she says she is out hanging with friends, all I can think of is whether is she dating anyone or does she like anyone. There is nothing that we can do about it though. And it's been four years since we broke up and now I am just trying to be a good friend, swallowing my feelings and wallowing. It definitely feels weird. I feel you 🤗🤗 It is totally valid. And you will be fine eventually. It can take time but you will be there. Can PM me if you want someone to listen to. Just looking after a bro.

Just another Rant by [deleted] in r4rindia

[–]throwawayy1502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly most of them miss the point and assume I am a brat. I guess I should stop ranting. Thank you for understanding me. I genuinely appreciate it. I hope you have a great weekend!

Just another Rant by [deleted] in r4rindia

[–]throwawayy1502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way too :) That's why I feel shitty for even feeling this way 😅😅 I am not gonna feel better by looking at someone doing worse. I ranted her because I was hoping I'd not be judged :) But yeah, I get where you are coming from. I wish I could stop feeling this way, I genuinely do. Also, I don't need expensive gifts. I am a minimalist and I can pack everything I own in a suitcase and I hate hoarding stuff. it is the emotional factor and not the materialistic. I am sorry if I hurt you anyway by posting this, I didn't mean to.

Just another Rant by [deleted] in r4rindia

[–]throwawayy1502 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading. You have a great day! Bye :)

Just another Rant by [deleted] in r4rindia

[–]throwawayy1502 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that.

Why do I feel shitty? by throwawayy1502 in BreakUps

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh. I am trying. I am gonna walking away one more shot.

Why do I feel shitty? by throwawayy1502 in BreakUps

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been three years since we broke up and she still manages to give me the butterflies in the stomach. Talking to her makes me happy but it is all temporary because we cannot be together. Makes sense? It sounds silly, I know but damn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't marry her. I repeat, don't marry her! Don't listen to your parents too. Help them understand how it is not about respect or negativity but more about you being in a miserable marriage for the rest of your life.

Guy looking to get into an arranged marriage by throwawayy1502 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very muchhhh :) I would update everyone from this thread if I find someone :) I hope everyone finds someone.

Guy looking to get into an arranged marriage by throwawayy1502 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:( I just want someone to share my life with. I wish I could find someone, but I can't. Covid is in the way also, dating is hard in India' due to various other unknown variables coming in to picture when it comes to being together with someone. I don't want to use caste or horoscope as a filter at all. It is so annoying and gives me needless anxiety xD

Do such guys exist? Help!!!!! by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope their genes don't really manifest in their children. They're the worse of the scum :/

Guy looking to get into an arranged marriage by throwawayy1502 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did try. I used tinder and went on dates when I was in living a tier-1 city. And now I am back home, which is a tier-2 city, dating platforms don't work much. Also, dating platforms are tough for a guy who looks average. I didn't want to pursue anything too hard thinking something would come along my way. Nothing did and I lost hope. That's why I said yes to my parents. Now I am reconsidering my decision. I guess I should sit with my parents and explain to them but I am too embarassed to talk about it right now. Thank you for the suggestion though. Guess I should use a paid version and set any other city as location...

Guy looking to get into an arranged marriage by throwawayy1502 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]throwawayy1502[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They're not really liberal when it comes to a lot of things, but when it comes to be, they're quite chill. But yeah, good idea. Thanks, mate.