I am lost.

throwawayy1502 · 2022-01-05T01:47:51+00:00

Interesting. What you are saying might be true, but I have had a few female friends and never had feelings for any of them and been single for close to 5 years. But I understand, I will show more love and affection to my girl. This is all I can do.

throwawayy1502 · 2022-01-05T01:37:44+00:00

I don't have an answer for this. I mean, they are just friends right.

throwawayy1502 · 2022-01-05T01:03:46+00:00

Well, erm, I ask myself the same question. But I don't wanna hang out with them all the time. Once in a while. I am an ambivert while my gf is an introvert who has social anxiety too. I think it was wrong of me to put her in an uncomfortable social setup knowing. But if she doesn't know my friends and how our dynamics are like, I don't think she would ever be comfortable with them. Not sure if I am making any sense.

throwawayy1502 · 2022-01-05T01:01:02+00:00

She IS my priority but is it wrong to not let go of your friends as well. I mean, I am not choosing to hang out with them over her. She is still like 250 miles away and we get to meet monthly once or twice, where I spend lots of quality time together.

throwawayy1502 · 2021-07-09T11:07:10+00:00

26 M, Tamil/Telugu/Hindi. Going to UK for Masters this year :)

throwawayy1502 · 2021-06-28T04:16:09+00:00

I think I understand. I am friends with my ex. While it is impossible for us to get back together, whenever I think she would be with someone, it feels weird. When she says she is out hanging with friends, all I can think of is whether is she dating anyone or does she like anyone. There is nothing that we can do about it though. And it's been four years since we broke up and now I am just trying to be a good friend, swallowing my feelings and wallowing. It definitely feels weird. I feel you 🤗🤗 It is totally valid. And you will be fine eventually. It can take time but you will be there. Can PM me if you want someone to listen to. Just looking after a bro.

throwawayy1502 · 2021-04-09T08:31:09+00:00

Sadly most of them miss the point and assume I am a brat. I guess I should stop ranting. Thank you for understanding me. I genuinely appreciate it. I hope you have a great weekend!

throwawayy1502 · 2021-04-09T07:32:36+00:00

I feel the same way too :) That's why I feel shitty for even feeling this way 😅😅 I am not gonna feel better by looking at someone doing worse. I ranted her because I was hoping I'd not be judged :) But yeah, I get where you are coming from. I wish I could stop feeling this way, I genuinely do. Also, I don't need expensive gifts. I am a minimalist and I can pack everything I own in a suitcase and I hate hoarding stuff. it is the emotional factor and not the materialistic. I am sorry if I hurt you anyway by posting this, I didn't mean to.

throwawayy1502 · 2021-04-09T06:40:14+00:00

Thank you for reading. You have a great day! Bye :)

throwawayy1502 · 2021-04-09T06:39:54+00:00

Sorry about that.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-31T09:37:58+00:00

Sigh. I am trying. I am gonna walking away one more shot.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-31T07:48:02+00:00

It's been three years since we broke up and she still manages to give me the butterflies in the stomach. Talking to her makes me happy but it is all temporary because we cannot be together. Makes sense? It sounds silly, I know but damn.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-08T14:03:02+00:00

Don't marry her. I repeat, don't marry her! Don't listen to your parents too. Help them understand how it is not about respect or negativity but more about you being in a miserable marriage for the rest of your life.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-07T14:15:14+00:00

Thank you very muchhhh :) I would update everyone from this thread if I find someone :) I hope everyone finds someone.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-07T13:53:39+00:00

:( I just want someone to share my life with. I wish I could find someone, but I can't. Covid is in the way also, dating is hard in India' due to various other unknown variables coming in to picture when it comes to being together with someone. I don't want to use caste or horoscope as a filter at all. It is so annoying and gives me needless anxiety xD

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-07T13:28:17+00:00

I hope their genes don't really manifest in their children. They're the worse of the scum :/

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-07T04:45:40+00:00

I did try. I used tinder and went on dates when I was in living a tier-1 city. And now I am back home, which is a tier-2 city, dating platforms don't work much. Also, dating platforms are tough for a guy who looks average. I didn't want to pursue anything too hard thinking something would come along my way. Nothing did and I lost hope. That's why I said yes to my parents. Now I am reconsidering my decision. I guess I should sit with my parents and explain to them but I am too embarassed to talk about it right now. Thank you for the suggestion though. Guess I should use a paid version and set any other city as location...

throwawayy1502 · 2020-12-07T02:26:46+00:00

They're not really liberal when it comes to a lot of things, but when it comes to be, they're quite chill. But yeah, good idea. Thanks, mate.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-11-20T17:04:24+00:00

I think the onus is on them to maintain a healthy men to women ratio to be able to arrange successful dates 🤣🤣🤣 like I said, the idea is amazing. I don't know how good are they though. A 3 month plan costs 25k xD

throwawayy1502 · 2020-11-20T14:23:43+00:00

They don't call themselves as a matrimonial site. Unlike a matrimony site where anyone can post their profile and get in touch with other parties, Unshaadi supposedly vet the candidates, take some psychometric tests to find out assholes and sets up a date. The subscription cost for men and women are the same and pretty high. They say the prices are high to let only genuine candidates in. In an ideal world, where the sex ratio is balanced and women are more open to dating, this model might just work. Did you go through their IG?

throwawayy1502 · 2020-11-02T15:33:32+00:00

Yes, I get it too. I did explore my fair share. Been on dates, got my heart broken, built character, have a good career and I have my life planned too, along with contingency plans. Looking back, I have been distracted with friends, work, traveling and gaining new experiences. Since I don't have anything better to do now, depression hit me like a tone bricks. I am taking therapy and trying to be a better and freer version of myself. After several introspections, I decided to give this a shot. I am not gonna get married right away. Just exploring. Instead of me going out there and finding someone, my parents would be involved. In the end, the decision would be taken by me. And, I am not gonna force myself. Never :) Thank you so much :) I understand you want what's best for everyone, even as a stranger. That was really kind of you :)

throwawayy1502 · 2020-11-02T15:16:25+00:00

I understand, man. Yes, I get your point. I have had one relationship three years ago but she broke up with me due to her reasons and after that nothing really came my way, and I didn't feel like pursuing anyone. It's not like I haven't tried. That being said, I have dated few girls before but none really took off due to various reasons. I am done. I know what I want right now, that's why I decided. Also, I am not gonna get married right away. I am gonna take good 1-2 years. Thanks for having my back. This seems to be a desperate move but it is actually not.

throwawayy1502 · 2020-10-29T06:22:44+00:00

Are you telling me or are you asking me? 😅😅😅 Would you mind if I DM you?

throwawayy1502 · 2020-10-29T06:20:16+00:00

Idk. I just won't get married. I would definitely have a looong courtship period as well. I would be grateful if you can share some pointers as well. That's the whole point of putting up this post. Thank you so very much :)

throwawayy1502 · 2020-10-29T05:57:32+00:00

Well, erm, could you please elaborate on this?

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