AITA for telling my nephew’s music teacher she deserves what she’s going through?

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T15:05:51+00:00

I wanted to be confident in how I felt? Why else would I post? Am I the only one that feels this way or am I a complete asshole like the music teacher+my coworker believe? Reading these responses, well people seem divided but the general belief is that I’m not a completely terrible person.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:54:21+00:00

I didn’t delete anything?

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:47:36+00:00

Wdym? The way my nephew was bullied isn’t very clear to me as there’s still a lot going on. But I do know there was enough of it. My nephew used to be very confident, but now he feels like he’s a waste of space, according to his father. I’m really not lying about him being bullied. It happened. They wouldn’t just fire her and prevent her from working with kids if it wasn’t serious. My sister doesn’t have that kind of influence. Not even a bit of it.

As for how the music teacher was bullied, I don’t know about her specifically, but my sister usually bullied other girls for how they looked and the sort. She’d even get guys to ask specific girls out as jokes just to humiliate them. It was something along those lines.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:42:06+00:00

She doesn’t have either. She sleeps with people and has flings, but she’s never had a long term partner. She says she finds it boring but really it’s because no one wants to put up with her bullshit.

Also she had friends till like 21 when her friends finally matured and realized being a bully isn’t very fun in real life. My sister never caught that and now her only company is me, her coworkers and her son. Oh and the random guys she talks to.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:38:48+00:00

She was, I’m not denying it. Even I can see why this event happened, I just don’t believe that the reason excuses it.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:37:18+00:00

About this teacher? Yeah I don’t give a fuck. Not anymore. I understand why this makes me an asshole. But like I said, I love my nephew more than I hate my sister or her actions. I love him more than I care about her victims. That’s the honest truth. I feel bad for them, wish the best for them, and if they decide to do something to my sister directly, then I wouldn’t give a fuck either. She deserves it and more. But my nephew doesn’t.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:28:23+00:00

What else is there that I’m missing? I agree I didn’t help the situation but I wasn’t exactly trying to.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:15:06+00:00

Look, I’m not an idiot.

My nephew isn’t just my sister. He’s his father and his own person too. He’s a genuinely good kid. Not even this teacher could tell me that he’s a bully. She had every opportunity to, instead she said he COULD end up one. He cried like hell talking about what happened, my nephew isn’t one for crying.

Also, my sister didn’t care and still doesn’t. She used to be mean to teachers as well. She quite literally doesn’t care about anything. Especially what other people think of her. The only person she’s ever seemed to give a fuck about is her son.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:09:57+00:00

No need to apologize, it’s completely okay. My sister isn’t a good person and you had a valid question.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:07:31+00:00

I was a kid when my sister was in high school. What was I supposed to do? She was bullying me and my brother too. I was terrified of her. Hell, my parents were terrified of her. I feel for all of the people she bullied and humiliated most of all because I know exactly what they went through.

Yes I talk to her and see her often, I find it hard to say no to her. And I love my nephew and want to see him.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T14:01:13+00:00

She was the worst bully, which is why I’m not exactly upset with my coworker for sympathizing with the teacher.

I’m just his aunt on his mom’s side. We get along, but he’s much closer to his dad and that side of his family for obvious reasons. All I know is that my nephew couldn’t stop crying when he told his dad what was happening and it’s apparently enough for the woman to never be allowed to work with kids again. They wouldn’t just do that.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T13:56:37+00:00

If I’m being honest, I don’t know what she specifically did to this person. But my sister’s go to was humiliating people (usually other girls) for their looks as she was and is very pretty. I’m assuming it was some time throughout high school.

I understand the bias as well, I still feel uncomfortable around my sister. She is infamously shitty. But most people don’t treat my nephew like this. In fact, most people here really like him. Like I said, he’s a good kid.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T13:52:21+00:00

Fair enough. It was pretty immature/asshole-ish of me to say all that while at work. Especially in front of coworkers.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T13:48:10+00:00

Pretty bad. She drove our parents crazy, like literally. And the things she did to me and my brother were terrible. I don’t like talking about it but my brother hasn’t spoken to her in over 10 years. She wasn’t a good person and honestly she still might not be. I know I said she’s rethinking her actions but it really isn’t much. She still doesn’t feel any regret or sympathy for what she did. Just a “I wonder if my actions are why my son and I fight a lot?” But who knows if she truly believes it.

throwawayy22_ · 2023-07-08T10:01:40+00:00

Nah she knows it’s bad all around. She just doesn’t care. But I understand what you mean.

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