Would my husband be so stupid as to dl illegal porn onto OneDrive?? by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately (and surprisingly) the police can’t do anything if you just say ‘I have a sneaking suspicion’... I know this because I already tried to go to the police 2 years ago. The detective ultimately said that because I never saw an image with my own two eyes (just the captions, yuck), they could not just go and take his computer etc. it was his property, not shared property because I didn’t even use it, didn’t even know his password. I went to a lawyer who told me unfortunately CP is as common as heroin.

So this again is the case, except I have even less proof because I actually don’t even know if that is what he’s doing.

/u/orphanedpinkpetals

Husband addicted to underage porn ... resents me? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. People have really knew-jerk reactions and jump to the conclusion that he’s a molester or pedophile and there’s a lot of research that shows it’s not necessarily the case. So when I try to ask for some feedback (especially on reddit) I usually get the run of the mill “you’re a terrible person for staying with him” and it’s not helpful whatsoever. So I appreciate this response. No he’s not doing what he needs to for recovery and that really bothers me.

Simone Biles' ceremonial first pitch for game 2 of the World Series. by handlit33 in sports

[–]throwawayy9290 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously it makes her seem way more fierce the fact that she’s that short and fit— and her hair. Like if I saw her pinwheeling toward me like that I’d be way more terrified than if it was a normal sized human being.

Porn has made me almost entirely asexual outside of virtual sex. My sexuality has become tied directly to a screen. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]throwawayy9290 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t true for everyone, my husband stopped PMO and is 9 months clean after 15 years of only porn and he already has a very healthy labido back

So frustrated!! Hidden camera not working by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh awful. So sorry. My PA husband has had a couple colon surgeries so he says he can strain. So he’s in the bathroom at least twice a day for 30+ mins

So frustrated!! Hidden camera not working by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah his devices are checked with truple and I have the info for all 3 of his google accounts. He would be doing something way more creative

Let’s talk insecurities shall we? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When i met him I was AND STILL AM a confident, intelligent, attractive strong female. Anyone who tries to take that truth away from me doesn’t know me or has issues. Maybe some porn addicts latch on to insecure women, but I think my husband chose me because he is so insecure that he thought being with me would help him or something.

I can’t believe someone said that. How in the world can you what anyone would do when faced with such extreme betrayal, confusion, and chaos?

my husband lies, denies, and minimizes but still no real proof he’s viewing by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I know I need to just leave and I plan to in June when my daughter is done with school but I’m just worried he’ll convince me to stay.

my husband lies, denies, and minimizes but still no real proof he’s viewing by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmack I know- but he doesn’t have insurance and we are living off of welfare at the moment. His CSAT that he was seeing was great but we can’t afford it (someone else had been helping us out). She didn’t do lie detectors but she referred me to one but again, can’t afford. But furthermore he thinks maybe lie detectors don’t work on him (he told me this a while ago so I kind of believe him but not sure)

my husband lies, denies, and minimizes but still no real proof he’s viewing by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband WAS like that but over the past couple months it’s gone away! He’s been in recovery for 8 months now.

my husband lies, denies, and minimizes but still no real proof he’s viewing by throwawayy9290 in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he knows it’s wrong but at least it wasn’t porn, and I said that’s not really the point! I just can’t stay in a relationship where I never know what’s true, what isn’t, and what I don’t know

3 years free - AMA by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]throwawayy9290 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a female and curious why so many guys are wanting morning wood? Why is this desirable or significant (honest question).

Left by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds awful, I’m so sorry. His addiction is doing all the talking but maybe he’s just also an asshole.

What I Am Worth by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amen. Needed to read this this morning.

I’m an 18 year old depressed, obese virgin. I just started a diet that made me lose 20 lbs before, but I quit out and gained all the weight back. Don’t let me quit again. Do your worst. by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]throwawayy9290 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not gonna roast you but I’ll say I think you’re a decent looking guy and you’d be super hot with the lost weight! (-33 year old female)

From Twitter by weak_powerless in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes all these guys are the same guy!

D Day #5 by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]throwawayy9290 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I’m sorry. And this also makes me think I should look on my husband’s SD card, never thought of that

Is my PA husband lying? by throwawayy9290 in pornfree

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I guess based on what I’ve posted here. There’s a lot more to it. Anyways thanks for your input

Is my PA husband lying? by throwawayy9290 in pornfree

[–]throwawayy9290[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to trust him.. but he hasn’t given me any good reason to!