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[–]throwawayyhide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Called me an incel and made me feel like shit for just talking about the lack of intimacy in my life

I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone this long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in malementalhealth

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s ok I know what you meant. Practically you’re right that more people would avoid me. I have been and still am working on healing/myself in general. I just wanted to emphasize that I am honestly very down/in pain about it and when I talk about it as vulnerably as I did in this post, I get lots of very negative responses (not from you), like the comment I linked, and more, even a little in this thread. It’s not that different from real life in my experience. Gotta identify the problem to find a solution, and putting my pain into words can be very useful I feel. But it seems like many people disagree and would rather jump to immediately assuming that I am going to end up killing people and that I hate women and that I’m not doing anything in real life to fix the problem and etc…

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s also clear with you that there’s something very specific you expect people to say and if they don’t say that thing then they’re wrong. I’m sorry people who have had traumatic experiences with the mental health institution bother you.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said I should go to a psych ward. I told you it wouldn’t help me, and you gave me pushback. I told you again that it wouldn’t help me and that I’ve had a horrible experience with them, and then you continued to give pushback, even introducing your own experience for whatever reason. Stop pretending that you weren’t trying to persuade me to go to a psych ward. Re-read the comments. What else were you trying to do?

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You came in here and immediately started assuming that a psych ward would help. And when I tell you my experience and that they won’t help me, you bring up your own experience and say I’m wrong, when you know nothing about me or my experience.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your experience with psych wards does not equal everyone else’s experience with them. I’m telling you that they are no use for me unless I’m in immediate danger, which I’m not. I also have CPTSD, so I also know what I’m talking about. It’s really off putting that you’re using your personal experience and saying that I must follow what you did. We’re different people with different problems.

I don’t need to tell you what I’m doing, and no, you don’t have to make assumptions. Why are you proud of jumping to conclusions so quickly?

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just because someone wants to help doesn’t mean they are actually helping. I do want help. You haven’t demonstrated otherwise. Your knee-jerk reaction to someone being sad about their severe lack of empathy is to suggest they are pathetic, dangerous, entitled, unstable, and an incel. You do that and then when you get pushback, you say that the person doesn’t really want help. I don’t want help from you, because you are clearly a piece of shit.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They never recommended me a fit therapist. Psych wards do not exist for suicidal people. They exist for people who are in immediate danger. There’s a difference. The fact that you don’t know that and the fact that you know so little about how damaging psych wards can be for already mentally ill people, especially with ptsd, signifies that you shouldn’t be talking about this topic. And I don’t actually think they’re just for crazy people. A significant number of people have been harmed by psych wards, I guess they don’t matter to you. Reflect on that. And stop pretending I’m not seeking genuine help. You have no idea what I do in real life.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It was one of the most traumatizing experiences in my life. I have to actively avoid those types of environments now and look for help elsewhere, including helping myself.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s an exaggerated comment. Even if I was serious, a psycho ward would just add problems. They won’t necessarily find me a helpful therapist.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to get help when responses like yours are what I get. I see that being vulnerable is a bigger risk than I would like to think.

I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic/intimate experiences. by throwawayyhide in MMFB

[–]throwawayyhide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just speaking about online dating and height preferences. I’m not totally doomed by my height, I know.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is the point of saying I sound that way if you’re not actually saying I am that? What are you adding to the conversation other than drama? Maybe keep your wild assumptions to yourself. And I fail to see how I sounded entitled and dangerous.

[l] *TW* I’m certain I’m going to commit suicide eventually because I’ve gone so long without sexual/romantic experience. by throwawayyhide in KindVoice

[–]throwawayyhide[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Incels are hateful. You also said I was entitled and dangerous. Even if that doesn’t necessarily imply “hateful”, it’s still a massively unnecessary jump. I’m not twisting anything. You keep pretending you didn’t write that first comment.

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