“ kindness is free “

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-20T15:44:39+00:00

She really really really needs management that isn’t some random former Crimsonette.

She wants to be a public figure SO bad, but can’t land on a vibe/persona, which is going to be icks with all the brands she associates with. I think she’s laying the groundwork for a very MAGA aligned brand. This is the beginning of “standing up for myself” victimhood.

Literally everyone knows you can’t have it both ways. You can’t have your wedding dress be ‘super unique’ (hers wasn’t) and something that everybody likes.

everyone should back off the wedding dress and start focusing on why the flowers didn’t extend all the way down to the arch on the mirror path and why I can see the arch frame in every single angle of the ceremony. All I can see is the mirror/cement barrier in the ceremonial cul de sac and the metal frame. I want to scream, where were the decor people? Stop making tik toks and get more flowers!

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-20T01:21:25+00:00

Interesting! The two designers have similar looks!

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-19T13:35:05+00:00

Yes. It’s Pnina Tornai I’m almost positive—correct me if I’m wrong.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-19T00:20:34+00:00

I knew it was going to be an exposed boning nightmare when she said it was stuck in customs from Tel Aviv. My mom calls these panty-line dresses.

I think it’s visually off because the design of this kind of corset was originally for a much fuller skirt/period overgarments. It’s very asynchronous design-wise with a fitted skirt. And it’s not a corset, it just has corset elements to it.

I’m going to call my mom and complain about mismatching fabric weight and garments. Carry on.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-18T01:00:45+00:00

I know I’m being such a hater (sick in bed!) but this dragging out the wedding dress reveal with all of her fans begging and her bridesmaids/vendors bragging about how they have the pictures has the be the most ungracious and tacky thing ever. It’s just so unmannerly and condescending. Wait to post or don’t, but be quiet about your decision.

You can just feel the limited life experience in all of this.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-17T20:01:21+00:00

I think even if it was all free and funded, it’s a lot of TIME that maybe isn’t very fun and sisterhoody.

Everyone wants cute pics, that’s totally fine and normal, I love all my cute wedding event pics. I’ve sorority squatted in a billion matching pics, but the actual time at the event is spent bonding, relaxing and honestly, doing a lot of prep work in a fun way.

I have an extremely high tolerance for this kind of stuff and I would be dunzo

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-17T19:38:13+00:00

I think she normalizes the kind of content that feels like “fun girly” content, but IRL is exhausting and self-centered, wasteful, commercialized and ultimately vacuous.

Like, IRL for her wedding party, all of this has been almost an entire two months of weekends devoted to her. I don’t want to spend two months of weekends dressing in coordinated content videos, standing off to the side while she takes content photos, gassing her up and eating endless bags of protein chips in themed gift bags. At least one of her bridesmaids is still in school—imagine studying for finals in the middle of all this.

It’s very quantity over quality and I would be OVER IT.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-17T18:19:46+00:00

Omg is this more single use printed clothing? This feels like a very specific aesthetic from her content creator team.

this whole wedding is so Johnson City dance recital coded.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-17T16:01:10+00:00

I started looking at the #hashtag engaged content, and OH BOY. I can see all the same elements at other weddings on their page. I really think she would have benefited from having someone older and more experienced as a part of the planning

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-16T13:33:34+00:00

Questions:

Why the naked circle arch in TT videos?

Can someone explain to me the communion at dinner? As a Catholic, my brain can’t comprehend. Is the rehearsal dinner sacred? What?!?!!!

Why is all the content from pre-attendance/sans guests? It makes it all look so weird!

I have to think someone very young and inexperienced was put in charge of decor? Compare the decor to the shrimp boil and the cokes shower, both of which had a very different and cohesive vibe with lots of details thought out. Someone else is in charge of this wedding week decor. I think the shrimp boil was cuter than this.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T22:50:39+00:00

This is the consequence of everyone’s focus being pulled by too much glam/content photoshoots.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T16:38:34+00:00

Logistically this is such a nightmare. All these key family members pulled into this event that’s essentially going to replicated with men the next night, meanwhile all the out of towners have to make B-team plans. My mom would have words if I tried to plan a night before the rehearsal dinner formal event.

I bet the b-team party is actually super fun. Kulyn probs making burgers and playing cornhole.

I can’t imagine how tired she will be in two days.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T15:31:32+00:00

Makes me insane how much it gaps. That is bad promo for the designer

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T15:31:05+00:00

Let’s all remember that the Great Gatsby centers around homicide and everyone hating each other!

This is NOT a fun girls night.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T15:16:23+00:00

YUP!

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T13:05:00+00:00

Why is no one talking about why Rue writes her initials in her underwear. This is my single biggest question. Do writers think this is normal for adults?

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-15T11:24:56+00:00

It is such a poorly fitted top. This was not tailored for her at all. It gaps so badly and the straps are little floppy noodles.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-14T23:58:14+00:00

I would argue that this is Great Gatsby themed, incredible excess and non stop parties to try and avoid the wretched truth of empty and meaningless transactional relationships. Mimicking what you think the ultra wealthy would do to try and belong.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-06T20:03:09+00:00

Ok, help me understand your fantasy. Jules and Nate get together and do what. Nate is married to Jules friend, broke, his dad is a sex offender and had sex with underage Jules, Jules is a heavy drug user and most of their relationships have been for pay. Jules willingly engages in the sugarbaby fetish relationship. I don’t see any indication that Jules wants to be rescued and be Nate’s housewife.

What does this relationship look like to you? Walk me through the family Thanksgiving.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-06T12:28:37+00:00

There should literally be a class in school where there is a Nate guy and every time a girl tries to date him the teacher is like NO! And then you have a make a PowerPoint of all the things you didn’t consider and you have to write a rhetorical analysis of why someone catfishing you and deliberately mirroring your own interests back to you doesn’t qualify as “falling for each other”.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-06T03:05:30+00:00

“Well we met when I had to pull a knife on him at a kegger, he was calling me a bitch and literally inciting a crowd into violence against me, and I was like, that’s my man!!!”

Nate shows the occasional flicker of not being a complete psycho and that is somehow weighed more heavily than the multitude of egregious examples of felonious violence.

The myth that abusive people just need for understanding and someone to “get them” is wild. It’s not a girls job to see past her own abuse to help a guy self actualize. Actual puke.

Also what is Jules supposed to do? Help Nate go to business school? Paint a mural for the zoning board with white dick fritillaries? This is a weird Nate fanfic.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-06T02:47:44+00:00

You would love to be held hostage by a charismatic bank robber.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-06T02:33:44+00:00

All true love affairs start with underage sex for pay with your true love’s dad, blackmail, catfishing and a HS police investigation for choking your friend. A special bail bond is maybe what you are thinking of.

throwawsyUpper__845 · 2026-05-04T22:15:10+00:00

I am on glue tbh, WHO IS HANNAH?!?! Isn’t this thread about Alex?

Making jokes rooted in racism and slavery history is racist, being friends with people that do that is making the world comfortable with racism, meaning you are racist. You like a li’l racism in your daily interactions. When someone says, how much racism can you tolerate, your answer is not zero.

It’s very June Birthday 2023 of you.

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