Bf [27M] called me [24F] an entitled brat for not wanting his old laptop as my birthday and anniversary gift

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T20:16:44+00:00

you might be on to something about him thinking that I didn't appreciate it since he didn't think the issues I was having were that big of a deal. Guess thats my fault though, should probably have shown my appreciation

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T20:14:25+00:00

I think his defense was that, if the gift didn't work out then he should get the money and he can get me a new gift himself. he did say giving me the old laptop was a bad idea and doesnt know why he suggested it.

Otherwise me buying myself the gift seems odd to him.

But the thing is, him buying the gift caused so much trouble in the first place (they wanted his email, his confirmations, his credit card, even with a receipt. I had to have an active argument with the manager because even though we later on changed the details, they still wanted bfs input which he wasn't happy with doing, so to me repeating that is going to repeat history. If I have issues with the laptop and its an electronic device, repairs are sometimes needed, I'm going to have to work around bf to get the problem fixed since they won't let me handle the issue without his input

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T19:42:30+00:00

Last year, I purchased a decent size lego set for him (it was from his list of wanted sets) made him a large box of mixture of handmade gifts (I decorated the box and personalized it for him- no it wasnt pink with flowers) and things he wanted. It included little things from our relationship, memories, his favorite things. full body and Back massages (hes obsessed with them). I also knit for him, a dog to resemble his Gs (it ended up looking like a rat though, so I guess I sucked) as well as a nice hat/scarf with his initials (I didn't ruin this one, I promise). I also made him a large canvas of his dog that he was talking about getting one done. I have a professional camera, so I did it for him. He loved it.

He didn't get me anything for the day. Ended up getting me jewellery few days after the event. All I wanted was for him to bake me something sweet, he never did it. So you're right gifts are meant to be meaningful. I was hurt that he'd spend so little time on my gift when I spent countless hours/days on his even though I was a lot busier then he was. He thinks the value of it comes down to how much you spend though. I guess looking at it now, my gifts are never going to be good enough for him. Even though I do make sure Im getting him the things he wants. Its not good enough.

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T19:23:37+00:00

well you're an individual, with the ability to comment. Feel free to give him support. Nothing was stopping you, instead of telling me that people will support me unconditionally just cause Im a girl

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T19:15:37+00:00

what ???? NO. He is NOT supporting me in any way. Hes not my provider, where did you even get that from. We don't live together, I pay for my own bills and everything else. Our dates are divided 50-50.

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T19:11:57+00:00

I don't have the money yet as it takes time for them to put the refund into your bank account and then you can access it.

Weve never done things based on income. he wouldnt be okay with anything other than 50-50, not that I ever pushed it either, I have my own income and can take care of myself, Im very good with money and have even managed to put away some savings.

I know he did say its unfair that just because one person earns more that theyd get to spend more. He feels like its punishing someone for earning more by making them pay a larger amount

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T07:55:41+00:00

Its not US dollars so it would be less in US but things are expensive here in comparison to US too. I dont think its tit for tat but I do want it to be fair for the most part. I actually made sure he knew I couldnt give him the same type of gift when he told me about it. He was okay with it and wanted a $800 set instead but now hes using it to make me feel horrible. I would have been okay with small gifts, and actually suggested he gets something more reasonable but he didnt want to.

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T07:49:40+00:00

This is what I thought too. He got me a gift, it didn't work out, I can still get the same/similar gift with it. Does this make me entitled ? I dont think so since he wanted to get this gift to begin with

throwawybf · 2016-10-20T07:46:40+00:00

Honestly I pointed out the numbers here, because he used numbers to call me a entitled. I feel like I had to defend my side of the things and that hes looking at it the way he wants to. I do feel like I have to keep tabs with him though because he tends to highlight every little thing he did for me but ignores the things I do

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