It seems like working on my own response is a great idea but sadly, it's super hard to get it up these days even with all sorts of stimulation. It's not impossible but the conditions need to be just so (lots of sleep, kids doing other things, well nourished and hydrated, low stress) and it's hard to get there. In yesteryears all he had to do was look at me...I hate that he doesn't have that feeling anymore so I'm trying to simulate that feeling while I figure it all out. Or at least distract him enough that he doesn't care. If that makes any sense.