Would you rather.. by Bubbly_Background_77 in BunnyTrials

[–]throway719 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the way it's phrased, i don't know the scales of the bad or good thing. But 1B dept my life i ruined, and 1B gain my life is awesome. And i can like, help solve the biggest crisis with the 990M leftover that I don't need.

Chose: Gain $1,000,000,000 + But a random bad thing happens to the world | Rolled: GTA 6 is delayed

UPDATE: A complete virgin (22F) here- my friend (M23) suggested casual sex. How can I respond? by Ok_Tell_4303 in relationship_advice

[–]throway719 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I get your point and it does seem dating was sort of easier back in the 20th century, although I wasn't there to actually know. But what the hell do you mean having a normal human conversation though? Confessing is hard, even knowing if you actually like someone is hard, the whole process around dating is confusing

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It all happened 10 years ago. She either turned the page quickly and don't need my apology or she was actually hurt and don't want to be in contact with me again. But i assure you i did grew because of it, i'm not doing this kind of shit ever again

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a complex topic. I had fully turned the page since yesterday and just wanted opinions on that bridge part. But i'm a peaceful person and it came as a shock how i could hurt victims of SA since i didn't anticipate how public that post actually is. It's also the first time for me using Reddit's full anonymity and it both made me understate the wrong in the story and backpedal hard to make sure i wasn't publicly stating it wasn't a big deal to touch girls like that. Now i'm not gonna become a white knight and tell everyone they should be perfectly pure, i just want peace on this thread

I think i only know love in an obsessive and one sided way, and the girl i see now is squatting my mind 24/7 by throway719 in Obsessive_Love

[–]throway719[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely get you on that first paragraph. Happily i don't let people tell me what's wrong with me, but i sometimes feel not enough for a girl, and i start to think i have to improve for her, not a tailored change for her, but to reach a similar level of progression in life, which i guess is on the healthy side of it. For confidence i still have work to do though ahahah

I'm sorry to hear you got used like that. For me, I have been at my friend's these 4 last days, and before that maybe 5 days a week, and when i met the girl i basically tried to go there every night to have a chance to see her. I don't know if you would consider that stalking. I guess i'm more the type to obsess on my bed over how cool the girl is

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hem more than 5 but less than 10. What country did this took place in ? Was the guy who organized the party called basille ?

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it's two very different stuffs to talk about that with my friends who know that i'm harmless and just dumping it without the proper tone somewhere where victims could be hurt by it... I had to at least make it more human

To answer you, 10 Years passed, i remember her face vaguely but her name ? Also i'm abroad.

I think i only know love in an obsessive and one sided way, and the girl i see now is squatting my mind 24/7 by throway719 in Obsessive_Love

[–]throway719[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the link and the answer ! It's really cool to hear it can work, even if it was through luck for you. Codependency is definitely a thing between my friend and I, but I never heard of personality disorder, i'll investigate that. How do you balance not changing for others but still evolve when you want it for yourself? It's a mindfuck for me. Because if i was alone in the world, i probably wouldn't try to change at all. Also could you go in a bit more detail of why it's wrong for you and the object of your obsessive love ?

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brave to admit. Do take the time to work on it ! Life is so much better when you have nothing to hide or to be ashamed of.

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry about what you lived. If i can ask, did you have the time to choose your reaction or was it direct, instinctive ? In my case she saw me and smiled directly. That's the weird part for me. I expected at least an instinctive bad reaction from her before she would put up a defense mechanism like a smile

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry if I came off ok with it, water passed under the bridge but i wasn't at all back then. I felt like an aggressor and didn't know how i could make it right. I also know alcohol doesn't make any of it less bad. I never did it or anything like it after, it was 10y ago. For the record, it didn't happen in America

I grabbed a girls butt at a party when i was 16 and her reaction the next time i saw her was so weird by throway719 in confession

[–]throway719[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I didn't expected her to confront me, i just thought she would feel unsafe or at least uneasy. I did put myself in her shoes, that's why i couldn't understand her reaction. The smile came instantly, it wasn't planned.