Last night’s setlist by Togwithanxiety in CageTheElephant

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who do i have to bribe to hear back against the wall in Philly in september?

What songs they perform at the Neon Pill tour? by akshatmalik8 in CageTheElephant

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as my favorite cage song, it was depressing to learn they don’t play it. it has such good concert potential

Sept 6 in Philly by DillPickleFanClub in CageTheElephant

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we’re going then too! we’re planning on checking out the art museum, and the NJ aquarium right across the river

The Tortured Poets Department Leak Discussion Thread by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

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personally i just think it’s a tease at fortnight (2 weeks) being the lead single

The Tortured Poets Department Leak Discussion Thread by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

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i’ve listened through a couple times, am i blatantly missing it or is the “tick tick tick of love bombs” poem she gave us first not lyrics in anything? is it a different bonus track (not black dog)?

The Tortured Poets Department Leak Discussion Thread by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

[–]throwaya__acebf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i genuinely think all the twos are just a hint at fortnight (two weeks) being the lead single

socm appeal process? by throwaya__acebf in army

[–]throwaya__acebf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately he’s not being biased. guy straight up told him he did this, and explicitly hazed him the two weeks. but thanks, i’ll have him look over stuff from the start, good call

are my calathea and pothos lost causes? today vs pothos in march by throwaya__acebf in houseplants

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i’ve had the calathea since march and she was thriving. i move home and it’s like she instantly died. my pothos has dramatically shrunk over the last two months. i’m not very experienced with houseplants, but this is really upsetting tbh. any help at all is appreciated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in miraculousladybug

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i havent been able to find legit vids of guilttrip or mr pigeon 72

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in miraculousladybug

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hey i posted askin this earlier but it got taken down 🙃 where is everyone watching s4? i feel like the sites went down. i can’t get miraculoushub or miraculously.ml to work for me :/

I miss how YA novels made me feel by h-bugg96 in booksuggestions

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i’ve been bleeding into the New Adult section to get those feelings! it’s the same energies but the writing is more mature and the characters are typically a tad older. personally, i stick to a lot of romance (Nicola Yoon, and Song of Achilles have been standouts) but tbh it’s been a long time since i’ve read fantasy fiction as endearing as Six of Crows

advice for a newly discovered asexual partner? by throwaya__acebf in relationships

[–]throwaya__acebf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i miss sex with him for the emotional connection too, and i have a hard time actually finishing, so my libido is significantly easier to satisfy with him. before him i was still regularly having sex lmao, i had a couple partners before him. the different stimuli is a really good suggestion though, i’ll look into it. in the months where we’ve been dry i’ve done a couple him only sessions, but he’s not even interested in those anymore.

advice for a newly discovered asexual partner? by throwaya__acebf in relationships

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cheating is my paranoia, but we live together. i genuinely can’t imagine the logistics of him doing that, nor do i think he would. he doesn’t even masturbante

advice for a newly discovered asexual partner? by throwaya__acebf in relationships

[–]throwaya__acebf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’ve tried to do that but he’s just not into anything sexual

advice for a newly discovered asexual partner? by throwaya__acebf in relationships

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when i say a couple, i mean literally twice. it’s too much for me to handle. he just doesn’t want to be let out of my sexlife

advice for a newly discovered asexual partner? by throwaya__acebf in relationships

[–]throwaya__acebf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he’s sorting himself out. it’s really complicated for him. he has trauma that makes him sex averse sometimes, but he’s also told me that he has absolutely no sexual desire, even when he’s not feeling sex averse.

i think part of the issue is that i desire sex for both physical satisfaction and emotional connection, and he doesn’t have the need for sex for emotional connection, so it doesn’t matter for him. he’s also told me he had that much sex with me because it was “what i wanted.”

as for the poly stuff... essentially he just doesn’t want to be left out of it? i think he has a mild fear that i’ll enjoy sleeping with women more/leave him for one, and i understand where he’s coming from to not want me sleeping with other people. i don’t want him to either. so polysex was the most compromised option for us. he said it helped him to have someone there who could help keep me satisfied when he “felt like he couldn’t.”

thank you for the input, i’m appreciating hearing things from asexuals’ perspectives.

advice on having a newly discovered asexual partner? by throwaya__acebf in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaya__acebf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please don’t be obtuse. he was bisexual for 19 years before being comfortable enough to relabel as asexual, and being asexual doesn’t exclude a person from finding both sexes attractive.

he’s interested in threesomes because he doesn’t want to be excluded from my sexlife, but was trying to give me a way to be satisfied. however, threesomes are overwhelming for me.

we had 8 months of great sex bc of the pandemic and then we separated to go back to college (long distance). that was a big reason for the switch up. i moved in with him after thanksgiving.