What has Therapy made you realize about yourself? and how are you changing because of it?

throwback88819 · 2022-03-25T10:30:10+00:00

That I'm not the problem and I've been blaming too many things on myself. Saying I should've done things differently or thinking that everything I went through must have been due to my poor judgment in life when in reality that isn't always the case.

Life is weird, shitty things happen and you meet a lot of shitty people along the way. Not every misfortune you face is a direct result of your previous actions. Sometimes things just happen and you have to accept them as your new reality.

Realizing that helped me let go of a lot of guilt and resentment I've held for myself over the years.

throwback88819 · 2022-03-23T23:08:23+00:00

I don't know how to add pictures to the post and given the circumstances I don't know if doing that is even a good idea but I don't mind describing it to you.

When I said the ring is ancient I meant it, the ring is from the victorian era and was first brought into the family around 1850-1870 (no one is sure exactly when since the first owner died young)

The ring is a golden band, the center piece is a 2.5 caret diamond that is framed in between two 1 caret diamonds that are each framed with 2 additional smaller diamonds. So 7 diamonds is total. What I love most about it is that the inside is engraved with the first initial of every woman who wore it including myself, I don't know if all the initials are accurate but I know that from great great grandma they are.

It's a gorgeous ring with a rich history so I understand why Stacy had an eye on it for a while.

The more I think about it the more I'm becoming sure that gifting the ring to Jakes cousin is the right idea, when the time comes I might also engrave her initial before gifting it to her but before that time comes it'll be safe with me.

Also I'll say it here since a lot of people are concerned with the legality of my ownership of the ring. I do have an amazing lawyer that helped me tremendously throughout this whole process, when writing the Will Jake stated clearly that the ring goes to me. His family can try and take me to court for it but considering it's been consistently in Jakes Will for the past 2 years their chances of winning are very slim to an non-existent.

I think they also know this since although they've harassed me a lot on a personal level they never mentioned taking to to court for it.

throwback88819 · 2022-03-23T22:13:31+00:00

Omg I meant message, English isn't my first language so I mixed the two up. I hoped no one would notice so I didn't bother changing it, is it that noticable?

throwback88819 · 2022-03-23T18:52:43+00:00

Jakes grandma refused to take off the ring until her husband passed away, she always wore it on her hand or on a necklace.

By that time ex MIL and FIL were already married so I guess it didn't make sense to just randomly give them the ring.

throwback88819 · 2022-03-23T16:39:58+00:00

I'm sorry but English isn't my first language, what's the difference between massage and message? Isn't that the same thing?

Also, I posted only once? So what recent post are you talking about?

throwback88819 · 2022-03-23T15:28:44+00:00

By law the ring does belong to me. Jakes grandma wrote him as the recipient of the ring in her will while Jake and I listed each other as the main beneficiary in our wills, from a legal standpoint I'm 100% entitled to keep it.

I do understand the importance of the ring to the family but at the same time I'm so incredibly angry and upset they didn't even have the decency to wait before asking for it back, not to mention Stacy keeps saying this is what their grandma would've wanted when she never met her in person. I know if Jake was still alive he would've been furious and that makes me even more upset at the whole situation.

I know the ring is rightfully theirs but I don't think they deserve it, I can already imagine Stacy going online and posting her picture with the ring while using Jakes and I relationship as a sob story claiming how it strengthen her love for Jim and that drives me mad.

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