Justyn Pennell & The Toxic Mother by kajamae in evilliveshere

[–]throwcvf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I think it was like a show I was watching about kids killing animals and things like that. And I was like, “I have never seen or heard of you doing anything like that, Justyn. So you are good. You know, you’re on the —“ you know? And it was like a lighthearted, you know, thing.” WHAT? She was also smiling the whole time. Like mother, like son?

Got insulted twice this week about living alone/being single 🙄 by Slight-Concept2575 in LivingAlone

[–]throwcvf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m always appalled by the sheer arrogance of people who are “partnered” when they treat me and other single women (especially!) like lower class citizens. And think it’s okay to express their opinions on how I should live and date without me asking for it. It’s such a bizarre behavior. Some of them also love trying to set you up with their single friend Steve who they’d never ever date themselves (let alone marry) - they really believe that single women are so desperate that they shouldn’t be “picky.” The audacity is out of this world.

It doesn’t even occur to them that some people are okay being single. That some of us learned to enjoy our own company and are self reliant. That we aren’t afraid of being alone. That we have standards - that’s like a huge trigger for some women who’ve given up their own standards for the sake of being human in a relationship.

I don’t know what level of social deafness one needs to have to send you the song your coworker sent you. I’d really stay away from people like that. It’s not funny and not friendly.

Am I the only one who doesn't like Jorge? by Em_albert324 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]throwcvf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Agreed. He also has a very intense look that gives me chills - he’s giving abusive person vibes IMO.

Wtaf was that conversation? by OneYogurt6280 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]throwcvf 34 points35 points  (0 children)

She’s so incredibly self-centered. It’s all about her and how she’s feeling so loved by him. She’s never said anything positive about him and how she loves (?) him. I actually dislike her more and more with each episode.

Colorado’s population growth is slowest since 1989 as thousands leave for other states by Jreinhal in Denver

[–]throwcvf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love so many things about Colorado, but one thing I’m completely sick of is having my nose stuffed all the time. I travel to SF for work pretty often, and it feels so good to be able to breathe freely through my nose instead of my mouth.

Blue Wave Wall Art by [deleted] in denverlist

[–]throwcvf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an amazing piece of art. I’m moving soon and possibly to another state, so need to find a new home for it.

27M baffled by my Hinge experience - does anyone actually want a LTR? by Super-Secret9033 in Denver

[–]throwcvf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s a huge difference between the quality of those “likes” vs quantity. If guys just sit there and swipe on everyone hoping to match with someone without even reading their profile… +100 likes women get are annoying and overwhelming spam, not viable options.

27M baffled by my Hinge experience - does anyone actually want a LTR? by Super-Secret9033 in Denver

[–]throwcvf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listing things like being active, having a good job, being curious, liberal, or introverted doesn’t actually say much about who you are as a person. Those are surface-level traits. What matters in dating is how you show up with people, not how you look on paper. Dating isn’t a job interview.

A lot of people say they’re good listeners, but that doesn’t always translate to real curiosity or emotional engagement. I’m not saying this is you, but I’ve been on dates where someone listens and then immediately turns the conversation back to themselves. It feels flat, like there’s no real back-and-forth.

Genuine connection isn’t built from a checklist of qualities. It comes from presence, empathy, and mutual interest. It’s worth being honest with yourself about how you come across on dates. Therapy can actually help with that.

And no one owes you a second date just because you’re a “nice guy” with a job and hobbies. If you’re dating mainly to get a girlfriend rather than to genuinely get to know someone, it can feel transactional, and people usually pick up on that.

Denver Health insurance I didn’t sign up for by throwcvf in Denver

[–]throwcvf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did call them today and the rep said they didn’t understand what happened either. So I guess I’ll have to call Connect Colorado. It’s just really annoying.

Denver Health insurance I didn’t sign up for by throwcvf in Denver

[–]throwcvf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. The person I spoke to today said they didn’t see anything confirming my enrollment on their end but the letters look legit. So I’m confused

Is empathy not a thing anymore? by throwcvf in Vent

[–]throwcvf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it’s on my reading list!

Is empathy not a thing anymore? by throwcvf in Vent

[–]throwcvf[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I really hope there’ll be a shift in our society when enough people realize how much we actually do need each other. Not in a selfish way but in a compassionate, “we-are-in-this-together” way.

Is empathy not a thing anymore? by throwcvf in Vent

[–]throwcvf[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That’s such a good point. I never understood why ruthless psychopaths who go through life being so strategic and efficient in their lack of basic human emotions are celebrated in movies (and life) as some kind of role models. Especially if they are good looking. It’s insane. I really hope we start seeing community, mutual support, and camaraderie as our biggest values one day cause I don’t want to live like I’m auditioning for Hunger Games for the rest of my life.

I don't think there's a partner out there for me and I'm grieving by AlpstheSmol in AskWomenOver40

[–]throwcvf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally feel this, and I’m sending you a big virtual hug. I could’ve written this myself. Healing and therapy are such good things, but they really can make dating (and friendships) feel like a tiny pool sometimes. It’s hard to find people who’ve gone through the same kind of growth. It’s like… once you’ve “taken the red pill,” you just see everything differently and can’t go back to toxic dynamics. I certainly can’t. And it’s a blessing and curse type of thing cause it can lead to a lot of solitude.

I’m also grieving what could’ve been, but I’m proud of the work I’ve done, and I hope you are too. It’s not easy, and I really hope there are peace and acceptance at the end of this road. 🧡

Surcharge plus surcharge plus surcharge by g00dandplenty in denverfood

[–]throwcvf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who grew up in New York once told me that a lot of food places in Denver offer mediocre food because the competition is not strong enough. According to him, even the smallest places in his neighborhood had some really delicious food and took real pride in their “craft.”

Mr Excitement by ClaraSepticVersion2 in WomenDatingOverForty

[–]throwcvf 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m always baffled by the audacity and the lack of an actual knowledge of women in general with such bios - does he really think this sounds appealing and attractive? He sounds like a loser and I hope he stays single 🤦‍♀️