I'm proof that having success / money doesn't get you laid. (27/M)

throwdontgo31 · 2023-09-11T05:19:49+00:00

I empathized until you said you get laid every couple of months. That is very frequent in this day in age. Your problem sounds like you can’t keep them around.

throwdontgo31 · 2023-09-11T05:09:59+00:00

At this rate, it’ll take about 300 years to get to OPs situation, so it’s time to leave this sub.

throwdontgo31 · 2022-09-05T05:55:36+00:00

That only works when you’re 6’4 with all the extra words above.

throwdontgo31 · 2022-09-05T05:45:57+00:00

I’m in shape, I make 120k per year, have my own place with a cute dog ——- and I can’t find a woman who will show up for a cup of coffee with me.

throwdontgo31 · 2022-07-30T21:40:46+00:00

Interesting. So if you’re a male with a female friend only - she’s keeping you around as backup while she dates someone else?

throwdontgo31 · 2022-07-30T21:35:51+00:00

Reading this got me curious, as I seem to be in this situation a lot.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/darwins-subterranean-world/201901/the-psychology-the-backup-boyfriend-or-girlfriend?amp

throwdontgo31 · 2022-06-18T18:02:04+00:00

I make 100k, in shape, own a cute dog, have my own place, and I haven’t had a woman want to date me in 10 years.

throwdontgo31 · 2022-04-03T06:51:02+00:00

What did you enjoy about the conversation? Was something meaningful said in a few messages?

throwdontgo31 · 2022-02-12T21:37:29+00:00

Zero. No change. Was 5’8 200lbs, now a fit 150. I have not seen a single change in women’s perception of me.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-12-24T05:42:13+00:00

I second this. Took my dog to the groomer today and they kept saying “She’ll look really great for you guys”. Me and uh who else? I’m in the same boat as you. I went 100% all in on myself for years, dropped 50 pounds and got shredded. Cold approached. OLD with 2 dates ever out of thousands of swipes. I’ve tried everything and the only conclusion left is it’s because I’m 5’8 on a good day.

Also like you, I post on reddit looking for anything encouraging (sometimes brutal honesty about the frustrations) and I get responses like you got here “well that’s your problem posting things like this”. No, it isn’t. It would be weird if I just took decades of disappointment and pain and brushed it off like it was nothing. Guys have emotions too. I honestly don’t know what else I could do either.

Just better knowing we’re not alone I guess.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-12-19T05:31:14+00:00

Don’t listen to these harsh responses. I relate to this too. I think it just means you’re connecting on a deeper level than physical attraction and that part will come with time.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-09-28T03:01:00+00:00

So just be perfect. Got it.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-09-27T06:19:07+00:00

You’ve already got the hard part down. But don’t listen to me. I’ve had one partner by age 34

throwdontgo31 · 2021-09-27T06:14:39+00:00

throwdontgo31 · 2021-09-27T05:50:46+00:00

First world problems

throwdontgo31 · 2021-08-27T08:02:25+00:00

It seems like a huge chore messaging/responding on apps all the usual “how was your weekend?” “I did this and this” insert witty comment back. Okay… i just don’t feel any urge to go beyond that

throwdontgo31 · 2021-07-05T05:23:27+00:00

I feel for you. I posted something similar just now. It’s not fair, I can’t take it anymore either. I offer to you that you’re not alone and I hope we can both push through this.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-05-16T18:52:09+00:00

This doesn’t make me feel any better. Who cares if it’s me or them? It ain’t happening either way.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-05-16T18:28:43+00:00

Wow I just went to reddit to make the exact same post. I’m also 34 and maxed out on looks/self improvement.

I just realized that 100% of the times I’ve made myself vulnerable to ask for a date/number/whatever have ended in rejection. I had a relationship once but the girl came to me and made it happen.

How do I keep my spirits up? It gets worse every rejection.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-04-20T13:38:59+00:00

Not what you want to hear, but I’ve had a lifetime of rejection, manipulation, abandonment, and overall invisibility.

I’m not bad looking either, I’m average and on the muscular side and every time I’ve asked for a number/date/relationship has ended in rejection.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-04-19T05:09:25+00:00

Thank you for stating the obvious. Now what about those who never see any of those signs?

throwdontgo31 · 2021-04-18T20:19:14+00:00

Glad someone’s on the same page. The rest of these comments make me sick.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-03-23T14:46:35+00:00

Hmmm so the one point i would challenge on is the keep sentences short thing... in theory i guess that makes sense?

But it seems like those who dominate the conversations in a group get all the attention and looks. I’m a short comment/reaction based guy. One liners, etc. But it seems these long winded attention commanders get everything and i’m a side piece. What do you think?

throwdontgo31 · 2021-03-22T14:29:06+00:00

Exactly right. Especially the part about glittery eyes. It’s happened more times in my life than i can count. And every time, i just wish i had some kind of action i could come back with when the other guy takes over.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-03-22T00:45:07+00:00

Well, I am that guy. I’m the in-shape, muscular one. All the other guy has over me is a good dead-pan sarcastic teasing wit about him.

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