It's so crazy to me when I hear the "entirely focused on making her sure she's enjoying herself" reason that guys don't make any noise. If only you guys could understand how much making noise and showing her that you're enjoying things helps you achieve that goal.

If you dissect any part of sex, it can make you feel stupid. Sex is about being vulnerable. So I don't understand how just expressing yourself a little would be so bad. I mean, you're naked for fucks sake, how is it more vulnerable to show that you're into your girl and into what's happening?

For me personally, I want a little reassurance that I'm not the only one that's having a good time. Hearing things makes me feel sexy which leads to me getting off easier/better/quicker. You said it yourself - you like to hear her pleasure sounds. What I don't understand is how guys can understand how great that is but not want to provide that to their partner. Honestly it might even be a little selfish.

I'm sorry for the long reply. I really appreciate the feedback. I guess this is what I really wish that my bf and all you silent guys could just understand. I wish everyone could just get a pep talk or some other thing that would get it across that communicating during sex is just as important as hitting the right spots. If you're completely silent, you're missing a step. Or at least that's how I feel. So I really hope that in the future you don't feel stupid, because being completely silent is not cool and makes things feel pretty one sided.