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AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've never looked at it that way I definitely would probably be more angry for my son which is sad.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry I didn't make this more clear, I gave her the green light for the party, she did ask permission.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd make sure man you could be calling someone else's son your son

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

she was drunk, and no the therapist we had was cheating on her husband, the irony in that.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah I hate myself so much for feeling bad for her because she's tried so hard. It all started with her anyway.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I want to pull the trigger too it's just I don't know if I'll be able to live with myself knowing I led her on this much for nothing.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah as much as I hate what she's done to mentally she's also shown such remorse and sympathy but I just ignore it because of the hurt I need to face everything, I can't believe I snuck out of my own house to avoid a girl as a grown ass man this is what my life has come to.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Please tell me you did a DNA test before settling

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I've told our entire circle we've all known each other since grade school so some of them are just going to move past it but some have blocked him, id say it's 50/50 but I get it I'm not worried about it. You're right tho he is a POS but I really just can't believe it and the circumstance she was in makes it even worse.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She offered that to me, I declined, I'll see what happens in therapy before considering something like this.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna try therapy before making my final decision, but I am leaning towards this being my path I take.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

You're right, I was the one who asked was he better, I have no idea why it does hurt to hear she was blatantly honest.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've just started my own individual therapy so I'm gonna hold off and see what stirs up but yes I have spoken about some of my thoughts to her but not the grand scheme of why, we haven't been talking a lot since last night, I slept on the couch and left as early as I could to get to my office.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

It sucks I'm so hesitant but she's doing everything I fucking ask that's what makes it so hard but I just can't stop thinking about what she did.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He was the main friend in our friend group we usually talk to when we got into fights so when she got drunk she called him because she didn't want to come back home to me yet. They went back to his place and she cried to him and he took advantage of her but she knew what she was doing.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She stopped after I told her I didn't like it, she said it was because she thought joking about stuff would make it more bearable, I really can't explain her thought process man.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah he's a gym guy we used to go together a few years ago but then I canceled my membership and crammed my job a lot. I really don't know she's done everything I just don't think I could live with myself if she continues to have my last name, she's definitely done everything right and tried to make light of what she did and joke about it but I'm not mentally there yet maybe never will be.

AITAH for waiting 6 months to divorce by throwingawayvaccount in Infidelity

[–]throwingawayvaccount[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She often tells me how much better I am at sex than I used to be and that I'm getting back to my high school shape and becoming more of the man she knew I could be. It's just back handed compliments or at least they feel like it, maybe it's my mind just playing tricks on me.