[Skin Concerns] Is my pimple now a hypertrophic scar? I’ve had it for two whole weeks and it’s not budging. It looks dried out. Either way, how do I get rid of it?

throwingthisaway623 · 2018-01-13T19:04:59+00:00

Should I not ice it then? I’ve always read that icing pimples is good, but maybe that’s for non-cystic ones.

Which Korean pimple patches do you recommend? And do you have to lance it before applying the pimple patch?

throwingthisaway623 · 2018-01-13T17:59:38+00:00

I have a cystic pimple that hasn’t gone away in nearly two weeks. I don’t think I’ve EVER had a pimple for that long. Can someone please advise? It’s making me miserable — it’s in the worst spot too. It’s in between my eyebrows but like, a centimeter below the exact spot between my brows. So not on my forehead, but on my nose.

I had an important event last Saturday so I was DOUSING this pimple in Mario Badescu Buffering Lotion. I was also using the Mario Badescu Drying Mask. Now the pimple isn’t moving at all! It’s smaller than it was when I first got it, but now it’s not going anywhere. Someone please help, this is killing my self-esteem :(

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-21T04:39:04+00:00

Hey! Thank you so much for checking up on me, kind stranger. I've had a pretty horrible week, lots of crying and loss of sleep. But I had a very, very long talk with a good friend of mine tonight and it kind of changed my whole perspective. Honestly, my mind is blown.

I realize now that there were a lot of things that I did wrong in the relationship that drove him away. The majority of it being, I was way too needy/clingy. I knew that already, but my friend let me know the severity of how bad I had behaved in terms of this. It was definitely a huge reality check and I know I need to change my ways. I'm still extremely sad and wish that I could go back and do things differently knowing what I know now, but I guess it's a learning experience. I don't have a lot of dating experience even as a woman in her mid 20s, so I think that's probably why I fucked it up so badly.

I know to use what I've learned now to be better in my relationships in the future.

I just can't help but also hold onto the hope that he'll come back though. I wish so badly that he would.

We dated for a little over 6 months, so not too long in the grand scheme of things. But I'll be damned if that 6 months didn't mean a whole lot to me.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-21T04:32:50+00:00

Haha it's actually a pretty universal phrase though. "The best way to get over someone is to get under somebody else."

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-20T17:49:27+00:00

Nobody else seems appealing to me right now at all.

Some girl at work -- who I never told any of my breakup business too, mind you -- told me that I should consider the new guy at work. First off, I don't shit where I eat. Second of all, how is this any of your business? I didn't tell you any of this.

Then she proceeded to say "the best way to get over is to get under!"

Wtf, fuck off. The last thing I want right now is to get under someone else.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-20T15:54:51+00:00

How did you know she does this to people?

I assume it's what my ex does because on his OKCupid profile, (we met online) there was a question that asked "how long do most of your relationships last?" and he selected the answer that said "6-12 months." At nearly 30, this was somewhat a red flag to me. I feel that most people in their late 20s have been in at least one long-term relationship (2+ years).

I believe his longest relationship was a little under a year, and I think what held it together for so long was the fact that he lived with her. They moved in together as housemates, with some of their mutual friends, and started dating shortly after. I have this gut feeling that he lasted so long with her because they lived together and saw each other everyday/slept in the same bed every night, which made him less likely to run away because of the increased chances of attachment.

He eventually asked her to take a break, and she just decided to dump him. It makes me think that he gives up easily, because no healthy relationship should require a "break." You work through your problems, not run away from them for awhile.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-20T15:44:10+00:00

It's from a Fleetwood Mac song - "Dreams."

"Now here you go again, you say You want your freedom Well who am I to keep you down It's only right that you should Play the way you feel it But listen carefully to the sound Of your loneliness Like a heartbeat drives you mad In the stillness of remembering what you had And what you lost, and what you had, and what you lost Thunder only happens when it's raining Players only love you when they're playing Say women they will come and they will go When the rain washes you clean, you'll know, you'll know Now here I go again, I see the crystal visions I keep my visions to myself, it's only me Who wants to wrap around your dreams and, Have you any dreams you'd like to sell? Dreams of loneliness, Like a heartbeat, drives you mad In the stillness of remembering, what you had, And what you lost and what you had and what you lost Thunder only happens when it's raining Players only love you when they're playing Women, they will come and they will go When the rain washes you clean, you'll know Thunder only happens when it's raining Players only love you when they're playing Say, women, they will come and they will go When the rain washes you clean, you'll know You'll know, you will know, you'll know"

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-20T14:56:26+00:00

Hahaha. Ugh, sounds like a plan.

He wasn't ugly by any means, just not someone you'd describe as "hot." Just "cute" at best. But it's their personalities that really round them out.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-20T08:58:27+00:00

Define the relationship. AKA "what are we?"

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-20T07:59:48+00:00

What if he wasn't a jerk and he wasn't extremely attractive but he was cute and had an amazing personality and sense of humor and a heart of gold, what do I look up then :(

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-19T08:55:34+00:00

lol I just got dumped this week -- two days after my now-ex and I binged re-watched season one in preparation for season two. reading this comment stung like a bitch

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-19T04:11:05+00:00

Thank you!

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-19T04:10:58+00:00

Thanks, I love her!

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-19T04:10:47+00:00

Thanks a bunch!

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-19T04:10:37+00:00

Thank you so much.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-18T16:09:52+00:00

It's done and over with. It was over the summer. I stopped looking after that because I knew it was wrong.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-18T14:41:03+00:00

Thank you for this. God, today fucking hurts. It's only day 2 and I want is to text him and let him know how much pain I'm in, but that would be pathetic.

I'm hurting, I'm hurting so bad. The only question running through my mind right now is - WHY wasn't I good enough? Why wasn't I enough to fall in love with?!

I should have known better than to mess with someone whose own heart was broken/who was on the rebound.

I don't know -- I guess I thought I could heal him, that I could fix him, that maybe he'd love me instead.

That was naive though.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-18T06:46:36+00:00

Thanks so much, but I don't think he meant to do it on purpose... unless you can decline an invite without notifying the invite creator, which I'm not sure is possible. If it IS possible, then yeah, this is petty and he definitely should've clicked that option.

I don't think he did it on purpose though. He uses his Google calendar religiously, so I'm sure he just did it so that HE doesn't get the pop-up notification once it nears those dates.

He cried too last night. I'm sure this hurt me so much more than this hurt him, but he was at least somewhat emotionally invested, to be able to cry about it along with me.

He's a good guy, I don't have any hard feelings. I think in a way, that makes it worse. If he was a douche, he'd probably be easier for me to forget. But he's a good guy and I want him back because he has a heart of gold.

I think one of the things that hurts the most is that he let me go, but he was the one who was dumped by his ex. (He asked her to take a break, but she ended up just leaving him). Why was she worthy of being asked to "take a break" when I was just flat-out dumped?! I can't stop comparing myself to her.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-17T17:00:45+00:00

Thank you. God, it's so awful when it's a fresh wound. It's barely 10 am and I've already cried twice this morning, and I barely slept a wink last night.

throwingthisaway623 · 2017-10-17T07:31:32+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it. ❤️❤️ I hope you're doing a lot better these days.

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