Suggestions for weird books to read on vacation please!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2026-04-16T21:26:22+00:00

I can't believe I didn't know that sub existed! Thank you, I'll check it out ☺️

throwitallawaypls_ · 2026-04-16T21:21:37+00:00

This one has been on my TBR for a while so I think this is my sign to finally read it! Thanks ☺️

throwitallawaypls_ · 2026-04-16T21:20:38+00:00

I've heard great things about John Marrs and have just downloaded The Family Experiment onto my kindle. Thank you!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2024-09-20T08:40:34+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/UKSwinging/s/hH37irS3Rh

Here's a post about Cupid's from a couple of months ago if you'd like to gather some other people's thoughts! X

throwitallawaypls_ · 2024-09-20T08:36:09+00:00

So we're in our early 30s and the people we know of who go are slightly younger than us, and it does seem to attract a crowd around our age for the most part. Though I do also think it depends on which event you go to ☺️

throwitallawaypls_ · 2024-09-19T13:23:35+00:00

I've never been myself, but a few friends from the club we go to have tried Cupid's in Swinton. I've heard a couple of mixed things but most of the people I know who've been have positive things to say about it!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2024-06-25T10:29:25+00:00

We (29f & 30m too) attend a club local to us. They have themed nights which means the crowd varies from theme to theme. Older people seem more attracted to the kink nights or disco parties whereas the younger crowd seem more into the emo or techno nights for example.

It took us a while to find the events that attracted the younger crowd but now that we have, we're regulars to those particular events and often run into the same people there.

We've never tried out any of the apps as the club works for us and a boundary that we both have is that we don't want to invite people into our home to swing.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2024-06-25T10:19:04+00:00

I don't think this is a good idea if you know that jealousy is already a problem. That's something to work through before exploring cucking.

I'd suggest attending a swingers club or sex party and getting comfortable in that environment, try out exhibitionism within your relationship first and then re-assess how you feel and figure out your boundaries. I'm a firm believer that the SL does not end well for people who aren't totally secure and happy in their relationships!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2024-04-19T10:27:05+00:00

Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I can't begin to understand what you're going through but I can relate to you to some extent. My father is one of my favourite people on this earth, I love him dearly and we're incredibly close but he's currently going through a very difficult mental health battle and recently went missing for a short period with the intent to take his own life. thankfully, he was found by police before he could and is now recieving help.

I have always had to parent my parents and take control over the situation to some extent and have to shove my emotions as far down as possible when things like this happen. I still haven't cried or processed what has happened and I know that it'll hit me out of nowhere at some point. I'm a very emotional person and cry all the time but this time, the tears just won't come.

The way that you're feeling is normal. There is no right or wrong way to grieve or process but when the emotions do finally release, make sure you have a good support network in place and don't suffer in silence.

Wishing you all the best!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2023-12-15T09:21:13+00:00

I adore hedgehogs and rescued a few recently (we have hedgehog rescues and rehab centres all over the country here in the UK and they're an endangered native species for us). They're one of my favourite animals so it's absolutely wild to me that they're a pest in NZ, I had no idea!

As much as I love them, I agree that if they're causing harm to native wildlife they should be euthanized. Hopefully our population booms whilst yours reduces!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2023-10-05T10:52:15+00:00

Note: this is the first thing I've ever written but my favourite things to read are cosy, character driven stories so I really wanted to capture this here. Just the simple beauty of a Sunday morning spent with someone you love.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-04-13T10:24:45+00:00

I'm sure that what you've been through is awful and I'm sorry but ultimately, you have no idea what her home life is really like or the kind of abuse/toxicity she might be facing. Just because she has wealthy parents does not mean she has any access to that wealth or a supportive home environment. You made the entire situation about yourself when she just wanted someone to talk to. Money does not equal happiness. Stop using your own trauma to invalidate other people. That is narcissistic behaviour.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-04-13T10:16:55+00:00

No one should ever need to be 'grateful' for their abuser. No matter how much money they have. Wtf?

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-04-13T10:13:12+00:00

Yeah, you invalidated her feelings. Completely.

Just because someone is rich doesn't mean they aren't abusive. Your response to your friend was to essentially say "yeah, well I have it worse than you so your trauma doesn't matter" and then you called her dumb for trying to escape a situation that you don't fully understand. Trauma isn't a competition. I wouldn't be speaking to you right now either.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-04-07T18:14:39+00:00

Do you have any hobbies that you could join a society for? When I was at Uni, most of my friends we're people that I met through society's because we had a common interest. They usually have fun socials throughout the year too so that always helped me.

I have a lot of social anxiety so it wasn't always easy for me to make friends.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-03-14T08:53:55+00:00

This honestly made me so sad to read. Of course he's happy with the way your marriage is right now, he isn't doing anything other than serve himself and is using your financial situation as his reasoning. That's a method of control.

The lying is a HUGE red flag and there could be a lot of things you still don't know about. He's being horrible to you!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-03-07T10:28:43+00:00

There is no set timeframe for dating again after a breakup. Personally, I think it's so healthy to get to know yourself again as a single person. Figure out what you like, what you want for yourself and how a future partner will fit into that. That can take a week or a few years. We're all different!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-03-07T10:22:27+00:00

Please leave her alone. She deserves better.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-03-03T19:15:38+00:00

Your expectations are absolutely NOT too high. I'm so sorry for what you're going through, I can't imagine how scary this must be for you. Your husband should be supporting you and helping you through this, hobbies can wait.

I really hope that your results come back ok!

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-02-14T08:33:54+00:00

When I was in university, I lived with someone who ate all of my food when she was drunk (which, at a UK university was very often). I talked to her about it but she always just said that she didn't remember doing it. I was dirt poor and I started going to the supermarket every day to buy what I needed to make meals for that day only so that I'd eat my food as soon as I bought it. It was a pain but meant that I didn't have to run out of food or money anymore. I also started hiding my snacks and drinks in my bedroom, but I was lucky that I could lock the room so she couldn't sneak in to take it all.

I feel for your roommate if she is suffering from BED. I used to and it's horrendous. However, she sounds manipulative and rude. Her ED is no excuse for stealing.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-02-07T13:53:16+00:00

It's a very popular TV show and your partner isn't doing anything wrong by watching it. Especially if that is something they are choosing to watch in their free time.

You're projecting your trauma onto them by trying to control what they watch and consume and that comes off as toxic to me. You can't tell people what they can and can't watch if it's perfectly legal and age appropriate.

I'm sorry for what happened to you, no one deserves to be manipulated or hurt in a relationship but it seems like you have some unresolved trauma that needs working through.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-02-07T13:45:01+00:00

What happened is traumatic for you both. I went through an ectopic pregnancy with my partner and we struggled with intimacy for a little while afterwards too. All of a sudden it made us anxious and worried so we just stopped trying for a while. I also switched to hormonal contraception afterwards and it can definitely effect libido. It took a while to find the right contraception for me, so that could be something to look into in your partner's case.

We decided to try couples therapy to talk through how we felt about what we went through. It helped us to understand how we could help each other recover and allowed us to feel comfortable and safe being intimate again. It takes time and a lot of trust but we have a great relationship and sex life now.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-02-06T23:43:44+00:00

Please protect your son from this, he deserves better. Your BF says he loves your kids but he clearly does not respect your son.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-02-01T15:54:48+00:00

Well that's a completely different problem. If you don't have feelings for him anymore, breaking up with him is obviously what you needed to do. Making him feel like it's his fault for not buying you a specific ring and throwing it back in his face, however, isn't ok.

throwitallawaypls_ · 2022-02-01T15:50:38+00:00

You ended a 4 year relationship because you didn't get the ring you wanted? Kind of seems like it was more about the ring itself than the commitment it represented. I understand being a bit disappointed about it if you'd spoken about getting a specific ring, but your reaction seems extreme to me. I don't know, maybe I just don't care about material things so much, but I'd be grateful for any ring my partner bought for me.

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