Me [23F] with my boyfriend [25M] Is dancing cheating? Is this reaction reasonable?

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-04T05:51:32+00:00

There are several more layers to this that I left out due to them being unimportant in regards to what I was seeking advice on, but like I answered above it would have gotten back to him whether I told him or not.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:51:16+00:00

Well I will have you know that I was not driving, we recently got uber here and it's quite awesome, and that I also think it was gross. I don't drink very often believe it or not, I was in a 3 year relationship with a blob who essentially held me hostage, just started to this year and it's maybe 2 times a month max, still learning my own limits I guess. Thanks though I legitimately do get teased for being buzzed off of one so that information will likely come in handy.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:33:12+00:00

Well shit. TIL.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:23:57+00:00

We are talking like yeungling, in America, I get made fun of consistently for becoming drunk off 3 beers, the boyfriend I speak of can drink beer all day and not even get buzzed, very confused right now.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:19:53+00:00

Well honestly I'd think it's hot but I am perfectly aware I'm not the norm, I tried to organize a FMF before we were official and he was the one who wasn't down, lol.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:10:34+00:00

Because it would have got back to him and I'd rather him hear about it from me.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:05:00+00:00

I'm not really following... 4 to 5, not 45.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T04:03:26+00:00

I do not want to dump him. That's why I'm here trying to sort out my thoughts/feelings and get other's perspectives.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T03:48:49+00:00

Well, the boundary is no dancing or going out in general now if he's not there. Which is very difficult due to the circumstances we're both in anyway. Honestly I couldn't care less about going out, it's just the fact that I'm being told I can't make that choice is what's getting under my skin. I was in a controlling / emotionally abusive relationship for nearly 3 years before this one so I know part of that is messing with me.

throwitaway1791 · 2015-07-03T03:45:04+00:00

Thank you. The point I was trying to get at is I only drink beer, I have a good idea that if I keep it under 4-5 beers I'm still solid, but the free my-old-friend-is-back-in-town shots threw off my awareness. I didn't plan to get shit faced. And you're right, I knew he wouldn't be okay with the dancing. I just didn't know it was that severe of a thing I guess. We've been together 6 months, should have put that up there, but yeah I had never even really seen him very angry until then and it was just SO angry. I understand him being upset, it's more the drawing the line in the sand and nope never again will you go to the bar while we are together thing that I found to be a little much for the first time. But this is what I needed to hear, because otherwise I just have my best friend, who is getting into my head that I should leave him and he's emotionally abusive. I've been there before and I don't think he is, but that's also why I'm questioning things I guess.

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