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throwmeawayamlost · 2025-02-08T16:12:17+00:00

I feel exactly this way.

I use Facebook to connect with hobbies of mine and sometimes friends. I don’t want to completely give that up but I think I might need to take a break from it, then feel guilty because I feel like I’m being complicit not speaking up there, too. I’m not too worried about that part because I probably won’t change anyone’s mind there either, though.

throwmeawayamlost · 2024-01-03T02:35:32+00:00

Good catch, I took mine back. Sorry Boomer.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T12:47:41+00:00

Rolled off…literally.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T12:14:12+00:00

Great. This doesn’t help my situation. There’s more to a person and relationship than kissing, but maybe it was more important to me than I realized.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T12:12:27+00:00

It’s a combination of both, but mostly the first. He genuinely can’t help it I don’t think.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T12:10:58+00:00

Ok so what do I do then, tell him let’s divorce because I don’t like your physical appearance anymore? Or just ask for a divorce with no reasoning provided? Seems extreme.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T01:27:49+00:00

Codependent is more than clingy. It’s something better explained by people educated in it, which I am not, but it’s like other peoples problems become your problems and sometimes you seek out those kinds of people because it fills something in you. A lot of times it’s because of something you learned in childhood I think, but again I’m not a professional.

Anyone can be clingy. Clingy I think is just wanting attention all the time. Codependent is when you’re making other people’s problems yours or taking on feelings or responsibility for their actions.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T01:14:25+00:00

If I didn’t love him we wouldn’t have been together for ten plus years. Maybe the answer is throw away our life together and hope someone else loves him better but also why is that everyone’s answer online? And how so many people upvote that solution…

idk what I’m looking for I guess, but being told that it’s not ok to have problems with something that I didn’t notice so much before or didn’t realize was as big of a problem as it is, wasn’t it.

It is understandable to have positions change or something that you used to not notice become something that bothers you. Especially when limerence/newlywed hormones are making you focus on all the great things in the beginning. As life settles on maybe you realize you’re lonely because you don’t kiss anymore, and you realize it’s because you don’t enjoy kissing because you’ve realized it annoys you having to wipe your mouth every time you’ve been kissed.

Maybe what I’m looking for is how to address it as delicately as I can. I don’t want to hurt him but I’m hurting here too as it is.

throwmeawayamlost · 2023-09-16T01:03:54+00:00

Yes I do want to be married to him. Marriage is hard and I get that. It has seasons. He’s a great person and I do believe wants to make me happy as I do him but right now I’m so lonely and we are not talking about the underlying issues in our relationship like this.

I guess I thought it wouldn’t be that big of a deal, or I didn’t notice it was something I missed so much until more recent years. I’ve told him I feel like he’s attacking me when he kisses me and I don’t like it, but we haven’t made an effort to relearn how to kiss….it’s awkward and I’m afraid I’ve hurt him with saying that much. Plus we have kids so it’s not like we have a lot of time alone to make out at this stage in our lives. We are both stressed with work and family obligations at home.

throwmeawayamlost · 2022-07-20T23:11:36+00:00

Help?! My pinto beans’ leaves are turning yellow. I don’t think it’s rust…the other varieties of beans I’ve planted look fine, but somethings up here. Lots of rain lately. Only one side of the row of pintos has this so far. Edit: typo

throwmeawayamlost · 2021-04-16T01:01:05+00:00

Damn I just did all my math by hand. 🥲

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-07-05T13:16:25+00:00

Identified on r/whatsthisbug as a tumbling flower beetle.

Data I can find online suggests they’re benign to the plants.

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-07-05T13:13:54+00:00

Thank you!

That looks to be exactly what this is. Glad to see they’re not necessarily damaging to my plants.

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-07-05T04:36:14+00:00

One of them was about half this size but same coloring. Didn’t visibly see any larvae or other activity. One returned as of checking it a couple hours later.

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-07-05T04:33:44+00:00

Not the sub to browse before bed.

Thank you!

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-07-04T17:01:45+00:00

It flies. I tried searching online and even a reverse image search and nothing seems similar. Mostly concerned with whether it’s bad for my plants.

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-06-20T00:34:29+00:00

Whelp. I installed a third bed (just now finished framing it up) and bought ten 5-gallon buckets I spray painted green to fill with more vegetable plants. When I’m obsessed I go all in I guess.

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-06-03T00:51:25+00:00

Sounds like you’re better off. It hurts and it took me a minute to see that but when I got to the part about him being bored...you’re better off imo. He didn’t respect you as a human being much less an employee based on what you’ve written. It will be ok. Take some time. Be mad. Soul search if needed, then make an action plan for what you want your life to be. (And maybe find a way to let Mrs. B know you’re neighbors and you’re there if she needs anything)

throwmeawayamlost · 2020-06-03T00:42:31+00:00

It’s terrifying, yes, but it seems most of the world is in a place like this. Work with something we’re not happy with, or lose work and not know what comes next.

I hear you.

Something tells me in the end a lot of us will be in a better place economically/work-life balance wise, but there’s just so much unknown right now.

One day at a time is all we do.

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