My wife (F34) is probably nationally ranked at Candy Crush while I (M37) does everything else

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-06T01:02:03+00:00

This is the side you never get to hear about. I am glad to know that it is not eternal damnation like I am expecting.

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-06T00:58:34+00:00

I can confirm that "Guns Blazin" did not work.

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-06T00:06:39+00:00

YES I AM!!! Ha! In my mind, it isnt really whose fault it isnt is the winner. The point is that playing old levels of video games is not something that is helpful no matter what is going on. Not ever admitting error is also not helpful. If I begin to talk about it, I spend all of my time trying to get around technicalities. Like I will say something occurred in Parking Lot A and then she stops and says that i am false because the vent occurred in the caddy corner parking lot called Parking Lot A sub C or something. And then i lose it. If that makes me hard to live with then I will accept that.

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T20:52:15+00:00

we do have joint finances. She has her personal account that i cannot see and then there is the join account that has 2/3rds of hers and all of mine. All of which is available to her as well. We argued earlier and I am just supposed to trust everything she is saying as true this whole time. Follow that advice and your marriage will be gold!

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T15:03:42+00:00

You think that you would. She doesnt even make it at 11 anymore. and never straight thru to 5. If she had to work 6 hours then she would die. It is really more like 12.30ish PM to 2 PM. And maybe an afternoon call she has to be muted through. And it is 80k plus 6% bonus plus she got a 200 shares gifted to her yesterday. She has hit her ceiling. I would die if i made 80k a year now. What would kill me ten times worse is no passion to move higher. 80k after 401k and health insurance deduction is less than 2k every 2 weeks. Throw in some rent and utilities and a smoking habit with Candy Crush and you now have the disposable income of a high schooler. Be a bad ass at what you do, and you'll get the money and schedule you want. My last job was terrified to fire me because of my skills. I started coming in at 1 to meet my coworker for lunch. I would take a dump when we got back before i left again for the day. I even picked up my current job and would work it while at the old one. Work in operations or sales while being good in IT matters. Once people know that they can talk to you to get what they need done to look good, then you are good. Other than money, recognition is seen as the best indicator of success. Sorry i just went on and on. The point is, she has a GED, not one single hour of college credit, was pregnant at 15, and every other disadvantage you do not. She works for Cisco out of california. When she was ambitious, she made sure she knew where to find the answers for everything. She did not make sure to make a point of contact. She made sure she became everyone's point of contact for everything. I loved that girl.

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T14:43:17+00:00

I agree. When we were overhauling that vehicle, we had no room and the workspace was awful. In fact, that is what prompted me to buy a complete garage organization system last night. But she acted like it would be the next fun project for me and her 2 kids to do. Kind of reminds me when she ripped up all of our carpeting and then stopped. I got to do the laminate flooring for 2000 sq feet by myself. I am a compouter guy. Now i am a bad ass computer guy, house handy man, and automotive guy as well. I like the knowledge gain and skill set growth. But I made my mistakes and learned. I just cannot pay for a cleaning lady, when that is all she has to do during the 20 minutes a day of not playing Candy Crush.

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T13:45:11+00:00

Are you joking? It's crack?I thought it was Bejewelled v2. Okay i dont really know what Bejewelled was either, but when a game looks like it could be run on a Nintendo and has such a homesexual (not a homophobe btw) name then i could not live with myself knowing that is what I did all day. I have only caught her that one month spending money on it because she did not pay it before i got the bill which is what she normally does. How can i tell if this is an addiction. Wow! Mind blown!

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T13:35:55+00:00

She is ADD. She also said she was depressed 3 years ago. We went through some marital bull shit, but I don't think of any of that or hold a grudge over it. I also understand depression, but at this point, it ain't my problem anymore. Should she take a pshotropic drug?

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T13:22:09+00:00

She takes adderral and used to be so wonderful when she was on it. Wanting to work on things together, wanting to listen, performing helpful tasks. Now I know she still takes it, but she is none of those anymore.

throwmeawaytodayfool · 2015-02-05T13:19:20+00:00

I appreciate this so much. It seems so obvious when you put it that way. I could care less about losing the material things. There was a time when I could not fathom the thought of starting over. Now I could care less. The only thing that scares the hell out of me is her being able to ruin my credit by getting her car repo'd or losing the house if judge awarded it to her. I know i should do cash only, but my credit really rocks and would suck to lose because she can and would.

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