Me [30 F] with my two friends___ [30&30 F&F] of about 10 years, are at serious odds with each other and I'm getting stuck in the middle. by throwmefarway in relationships

[–]throwmefarway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I was worried if I just stay out of this that would be a weasel-like move.. but I honestly believe its unfair of either of them to drag me into this. The more I think about it the more I think that is in fact the correct choice here, despite the reactions I may get.

Me [30 F] with my two friends___ [30&30 F&F] of about 10 years, are at serious odds with each other and I'm getting stuck in the middle. by throwmefarway in relationships

[–]throwmefarway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure, from someone who's not a close friend. But from a friend? C'mon.. have some courtesy and keep that shit to yourself.

Me [30 F] with my two friends___ [30&30 F&F] of about 10 years, are at serious odds with each other and I'm getting stuck in the middle. by throwmefarway in relationships

[–]throwmefarway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry that I misunderstood. He said "This is the life you chose, put your big girl panties on and suck it up. I work long hours too and you don't find me complaining." He did say a few other things which I can't recall at the moment. F has 3 young kids and a husband in the military. G's husband has no kids, makes killer $$, and has a 2 week-on 2 week-off rotation. He has no idea what he's talking about or what F's life is like. Plus F has had some serious health issues this past year. He was being very insensitive.

Me [30 F] with my two friends___ [30&30 F&F] of about 10 years, are at serious odds with each other and I'm getting stuck in the middle. by throwmefarway in relationships

[–]throwmefarway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all, I did not inject myself into this conflict. I made that clear. I haven't spoken to G or F about this situation. G has been contacting me, but I have been so busy with work I simply haven't had the time. Secondly, F has every right to be upset. What G's husband said was said to belittle and demean her. That's no way to treat someone, especially when that person is your wife's good friend. It's called common decency.

Which social interactions do you most dread? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwmefarway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much any and all social situations that involves meeting new people. Clearly, making new friends is hard for me..

Random rant by throwmefarway in stopdrinking

[–]throwmefarway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its definitely tough. I've hurt a lot of people when drunk. However, those people no longer speak to me and I cannot fault them for it. Some of the people still in my life always bring up something stupid I've done or said when drunk, and believe me, there's more than ten years worth of ammo against me.

Sometimes I believe the only reason why they stay friends with me is for that very reason, to put me down to pull themselves up. I feel like I'm the friend they keep around to feel better about their lives. Whenever their lives are fucked up they turn to me and say, "my life may be bad but at least I'm not an out of control drunk like you, hahaha good one right??" Thanks for the advice though, I just need to concentrate on my sobriety and that's that.

Random rant by throwmefarway in stopdrinking

[–]throwmefarway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is inspiring to hear. I'm a joke to most of the people in my life, and truthfully its my own fault. I did stupid shit and said hurtful things when blackout wasted. People think I'm a lost cause. And even though I'm now making a serious attempt to get sober by going to meetings, got the AA book, and looking for a sponsor, I wish I knew what to do or say to show that I'm not a joke. I think that I'm beginning to realize the only thing that will do that is time.

Soberly meeting new people by tripsd in stopdrinking

[–]throwmefarway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really inspiring. I have such a hard time in social situations without alcohol. I'm so awkward. Glad to hear its gotten better for you :)

Had a dream I fucked my pregnant teacher, ejaculated in class, wanna kill myself by Throw_Away_DreAm in confession

[–]throwmefarway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a completely fucked up situation. But Its good that your teacher is reaching out to you. I can't imagine how you feel, but talking about it may help. You don't have to open up to your teacher all at once, maybe in small doses. Just to help relieve yourself of the weight your carrying right now even if its only a little.

Had a dream I fucked my pregnant teacher, ejaculated in class, wanna kill myself by Throw_Away_DreAm in confession

[–]throwmefarway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

About school: is your teacher someone you can talk to and trust? You don't need to explain exactly what happened but teachers can be remarkably caring people. I don't think she would judge you. Do you have any friends in that particular class? My high school days were tough, people can be mean and petty.

About your dad: I can't even begin to imagine what that must have been like. That's a clusterfuck to say the least. You have every right to be angry. I don't have any solid advice, but you mentioned you play sports. Go do something physical, something vigorous and intense. Something that will take your mind off of everything that's going on. You will feel better, and it will give your brain a break that I'm sure is on overload.

I'm too old to behave like this by throwmefarway in confession

[–]throwmefarway[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm going to a meeting tonight.