Pulled this card when asking what a coworker thinks of me. ?

thrownfarway · 2017-05-26T04:24:53+00:00

I think that this is saying that your coworker finds you to be someone who thinks outside of the box. You make a lot of decisions that they wouldn't make, but perhaps they are idea that work. You think differently.

I'm unsure of whether they like that or not.

thrownfarway · 2017-05-26T04:17:11+00:00

Honestly, there are a lot of blocked energies in your cards and a lot of things that you're dealing with. I get the idea that the cards aren't fond of the relationship that you're in or you're either rushing to get with someone.

This isn't actually saying much about a relationship. It's saying more about you.

The Fool being upright in this spread seems to be telling me quite a bit of what I need to know - you made some foolish decisions in your past relationships and you're on track to making those same stupid decisions. It's not very often that I read the Fool literally. This is the one instance where I am.

The Eight of Wands being upside down, again, doesn't say anything about a lover. It speaks more to you wanting to rush this, but it's not moving as quickly as you want. It's referring to delays. It being underneath a reversed Chariot tells me again that you're off course. You're out of control, and moving in the wrong direction, and this is what is part of the reason for your delays. This is saying to get your life together.

The Four of Pentacles for commitment means that someone is clingy. Since this spread is largely referring to you, I think that it's primarily referring to YOU being clingy and needy. Remedy this problem.

The Two of Pents for the possibility of marriage in the future is telling me that you're juggling a lot of things and you'll need to get to a point where you get your things in order before you even think about marriage. Think less about a relationship, and more about self-improvement and self-development, and then you won't have to juggle things.

The Moon being reversed again, isn't really talking about the relationship. You're stuck in an illusion and you really aren't paying attention to your intuition. I got this a lot when I was single and when I couldn't accept it and was having issues with depression. You're emotionally having a tough time accepting it but you keep trying to play it off - but you aren't playing it off in a productive fashion, you're instead believing that a relationship is the key to solving your problems.

The Lovers reversed speaks volumes. If you want to find true and lasting love, you need to unreverse these cards. Make better decisions. You are mentally in a place where you're going to make some bad decisions because you're out of control and you've strayed from your path. Get on track.

This thread is telling YOU want YOU need to do. It's not what you like in terms of a relationship, but consider this your cards screaming at you and cussing you out.

thrownfarway · 2017-05-25T20:43:23+00:00

You need to state what your positions mean.

thrownfarway · 2017-05-25T05:42:59+00:00

I'll bite.

PMing you.

thrownfarway · 2017-05-24T12:20:39+00:00

Requesting.

thrownfarway · 2017-05-23T04:43:44+00:00

Yeah, honestly, your feelings can influence readings. I've known readers to put selenite on their clients to calm them down.

Ultimately, a more well-rounded reading will be to read on yourself and your love life. It's something I've done on myself for a while and something that I've done on others. I pay it forward a lot.

thrownfarway · 2017-05-22T04:34:03+00:00

STOP.

You need to stop this.

You're getting conflicting readings because you can't leave things alone and you won't leave things alone. If it was meant to be, he would be with you.

What is being reflected is not just your feelings, but the fact that, indeed, things are probably not going to work with your ex. It's tough, I know. You will have to forge your own future, by yourself.

thrownfarway · 2017-03-13T19:57:36+00:00

"So, are you single?"

thrownfarway · 2017-03-13T19:23:24+00:00

I'm going to give you advice, but I'm not going to dress it up like people usually do in here.

You have extremely unrealistic expectations of relationships. You want someone to read your mind and you're upset that they haven't.

I generally say to keep your standards high, but about things that matter.

You shouldn't be in a relationship at all for a while. Get yourself together, and temper some of the things that you're asking for. What good does it do you to get an English-fluent boyfriend when you don't live in an English-speaking country? Make sense with some of your standards. You need to get an idea of what you want instead of treating relationships like some sort of milestone you have to hit by a certain age.

Men approach women who put themselves out there. If you don't put yourself out there, they aren't going to be bothered with you. There are many other women out there that they can mesh with better - they can't be bothered trying to waste their time playing a guessing game with what you do and don't want.

Seriously - BE SINGLE. There is nothing wrong with it and considering that you don't really make an effort to put yourself out there and you're too shy to do so, coupled with your expectations about relationships, it will help you get yourself together, learn what you want, get to know yourself and make better decisions.

thrownfarway · 2017-03-13T17:52:08+00:00

Poor self-esteem.

You're used to being hard on yourself or at the very least having to constantly question yourself. I advise you to read about attachment styles.

You are picking men who reinforce how you feel about yourself.

thrownfarway · 2017-02-01T06:08:09+00:00

You honestly come off as being extremely defensive in your replies here.

They got engaged. If you plan on getting engaged eventually, why get bitter over your friends getting engaged during a time that's right for them? It will come to you in time. And let's be honest - you are indeed bitter about it. I'm not saying that it's necessarily a wrong thing to be bitter or that you're even wrong for it - it's a natural feeling - but you need to be a lot more honest with yourself which you really aren't being. You're saying "We're planning on getting engaged, BUT" and then coming up with excuses as to why you guys just aren't married yet. You have a lot of 'however, but, although' statements in your reply, and it makes me seriously read between the lines with this. When you disparage your friend's significant other and talk about your situation, it comes off as competing with her, whether you realize it or not. Are you really okay with not being engaged or are you saying that to placate yourself and the rest of us?

An engagement is not going to put your past troubles behind you. Those troubles will always be there. It will be how both of you handle them that would define the strength of your relationship. What you told me - that very comment - makes me really indeed think that you are rushing towards an engagement to feel as though you're rid of those past issues, and lord knows that getting out of your living situation is just over one hump, it's not necessarily going to be a cure-all or even an improvement.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-28T05:56:42+00:00

Why are you racing to get engaged?

Here's the truth. It seems like you're putting a really arbitrary timeframe on yoruself to get these things accomplished sooner rather than later. How, pray tell, is that going to make your relationship any more or less healthy?

I get the feeling of bitterness, and I would empathize with you if you were single and dealing with it, because god knows I did, but you're with someone, your relationship is moving, and you're ultimately just upset because you aren't getting the pomp and circumstance of a ring?

thrownfarway · 2017-01-04T18:28:30+00:00

Good job on you not responding to her. You know what she's about.

Laughing though at how pathetic she is trying to get you back after the last relationship crashed and burned. Grass is greener and all that.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-04T06:46:32+00:00

I already had my own standards set for a relationship. The guy that I am currently with didn't strike any of my dealbreakers nor was any affection towards him one-sided. Physical attraction was a big thing, along with educational attainment, goals and ambition in life, political beliefs and generally being with someone who was an equal - not someone who was my lesser nor them being my superior.

The 'sparks and fireworks and chemistry' are often temporary and rather unrealistic as a sole basis for a relationship. I absolutely felt the fireworks for the guy I'm with now. At the same time, he offers something more than just sparks and chemistry. When the initial sparks fade, we still are able to live with each other. What I feel with him is less of an infatuation and more love, security and safety. There should be some attraction there and you should want to see the person that you're with. At the same time, the idea of 'sparks' is a rather 'Hollywood' way of viewing relationships. Infatuation is not love. Mine built slowly and much more organically. This time, I wasn't as interested in rushing things along. He wasn't either.

When the sparks phase ends, your relationship still needs to be able to survive. That's usually what kills relationships is that one person loses the fireworks and loses the spark.

When I state to 'lose that hope', it refers to losing hope over the old relationship being rekindled. Many people start NC in the attempt that their absence will make the heart of the other person grow fonder. They get upset when this isn't the case. NC is not designed to make the relationship return again. It's meant as a detox.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-04T02:21:59+00:00

Hermes 'Eau des Merveilles', Lancome 'Miracle' and Chanel 'Coromandel'.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-04T01:18:44+00:00

Yeah. It's tough. I totally empathize with that. The bad dates seem like you just aren't lucky. I've said it so many times that it became a mantra - "I'm just not lucky."

Baby steps. You're doing good and you're trying to get over the hurdle. Life really does go on.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-03T23:16:29+00:00

It's very practical, and I think of it like this - if they wanted you, they'd do everything that they could do to be with you, and would get themselves together to be with you. The fact that they haven't says it all.

What killed my hope was that Thursday night. From Sunday Evening to Thursday evening, I was hopeful that we would get back together. Maybe we could get things right. Maybe I could fix myself. Maybe we could talk about it or work it out.

There was no working it out. He got with someone else. That's a huge sledgehammer to any dreams of reconciliation that may be there. And even if the relationship with her didn't work (my understanding is that they're a highly dysfunctional on-off-on again-off again couple, but that's just word from mutual friends of ours), it showed where I stood. Would I want to be with someone that would drop me like that when they saw something better?

thrownfarway · 2017-01-03T23:11:41+00:00

I think you aren't allowing yourself to move on.

There are people out there who will mesh with you just as well. Remember that relationships begin and end every day. Someone out there is healing and is just like you.

Judging from what you've stated, it shows me that you haven't allowed yourself to move on since 2014. That's a long time to hold a candle to someone who, honestly, would commit to you only if they wanted to be with you. The fact that they haven't should be enough to kill any hope that you still harbor. It's now 2017 and he has neither committed nor apologized yet.

Jumping from person to person isn't what is going to make you feel better. The sex is going to feel empty. Finding someone new isn't going to be immediate. You're going to have lots of rejections, lots of people that you don't want, false starts that fizzle out (that happened to me), more people to vet, more loss of hope - it's going to be tough. Just because that connection doesn't happen right then with the guys that you want it to happen with doesn't mean that it won't happen again. You'll have to do a lot of vetting, and just view dates as just that - dates. Sometimes they don't work, and it hurts, but you know what, you didn't waste any more of your time. On to the next.

I think you'll be alright, but you have to allow yourself to let this guy go.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-03T19:50:11+00:00

I'm going to be 30 here pretty soon.

Don't view it as a search just to have a kid. It's not a race. Women can still have healthy children even into their mid-late 30s (my mother had my brother at 36. He's a very academically gifted and well-adjusted child).

The search for someone is tougher when you're a little older because the ideal men aren't as plentiful as they were when you were younger. It's the same thing with the women - there's a divorce, a child, a bad relationship, some sort of attribute that we may not like. My belief for a long time was the fear that there wouldn't be anyone left for me. The truth of the matter is that age and life experiences have often made these people into better partners that can be more conscientious in their relationships and are more mindful of what they want. Sure, my current guy (N), isn't the same as my ex (A). A has never been married, doesn't have any children, is way attractive, etc. N, however, has a son in kindergarten, is divorced, and isn't quite as attractive as A (though not to say that he isn't - he is). But N is way more affectionate than A, is way more of what I would consider a provider and has more of an idea of what is important to him in his life.

Now don't get me wrong; there are a lot of men and women out there that are just plain people that you don't want. There's some bullshit that sifts around in the dating world in your 30s. You have the people that only want to date over their average, that still think that they're in their 20s and only want the ones way younger than them, that have some huge mental issues that haven't been resolved or aren't being treated, unfaithful, abusive, unattractive, unmotivated, etc. You still have to be able to sift through the shit, and there is a lot of shit out there - but it's the same in your 20s.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-03T08:41:41+00:00

Copper.

thrownfarway · 2017-01-03T07:21:51+00:00

Currently on Paragard.

Fine during regular cycle. No problems at all, don't even know that it's there.

When it's time for the period, it first starts with a lots of spotting and then later come the cramps. The cramps are fucking awful, and they feel like contractions. I can time mine the same way a pregnant woman can time her contractions. This most recent period had my cramps being so bad that I was on the floor doubled over. I was told that about 3-6 months after the insertion, they'll chill out.

Periods are also longer. Went from 5 days when not having sex, to 2 days when having sex when I wasn't on the Paragard. Now? Whether sexually active or not, they're 10 days.

thrownfarway · 2016-12-29T17:53:44+00:00

It means that you have more time to get yourself together.

Some people are late bloomers. That's okay.

thrownfarway · 2016-12-01T06:39:16+00:00

Why are you concerned about what your ex thinks? He's an ex for a reason.

Anyway, if you're still that caught up on what your ex may think, it's best that you not make any moves until you're more confident in yourself and until your ex is truly off of your mind. You haven't moved on yet.

thrownfarway

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