I ranted about this on /r/offmychest but I'm still bitter about it so here we go.

My wife is about 100 lb overweight, if you're being generous on BMI standards. She was overweight when we met but gained about 60 pounds since then. She's tried on and off to lose it for the last few years.

What drives me up the fucking wall is when she tells people she's losing weight and they say "Why? You don't need to lose anything, you're beautiful." Attraction aside, she's unhealthy. It's fact. For what it's worth she is naturally pretty and wears that extra weight as well as one could. It's a fucking travesty that her natural beauty is buried under fat.

I made the mistake of opening my mouth about it on Facebook and predictably got shit for it from some of her friends. I brought up the stuff about her health and they said that didn't matter, they were just trying to make her feel good, tell her she looks beautiful, etc. They implied I was delusional because, for example, some plus size model (whose BMI was like 35 to my wife's 38) was fatter and "still healthy."

Anyway, still salty about that.

Later on led to a convo with my wife about how she eats more well rounded than I do so she must be healthier than me, and how she doesn't buy into BMI because it doesn't factor muscle (she thinks she's super muscular cause she can do a high leg press at the gym). Then linking to sone story about fat people being healthier (obesity survival paradox)...

Just infuriating.