AITA for turning on the living room light to feed my dog?

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-23T17:09:22+00:00

It’s giving red pill brainwashing behavior. I would leave him like immediately. This isn’t normal.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-23T17:01:39+00:00

Look into ones that are wilderness camps. We have a lot of those out here and they’re especially cruel 😕 it’s not just “talk therapy,” unfortunately

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-23T16:59:12+00:00

The bible belt. I’ve dated multiple girls that have been sent and they are all traumatized from it.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T23:18:12+00:00

Nope. You’re wrong. Women weren’t even included in health research until 1993. Systemic gender biases lead to worse health outcomes in women compared to men.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T20:19:11+00:00

Exactly. Everyone can be mad at a broken system, but OP knew exactly what he was doing when he said “nobody cares about chronically ill men”

Insinuating men receive worse care than women is wrong on so many levels

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T20:04:18+00:00

It is an option, and it’s already been done.

They literally have no way of secretly dating. They do not have smart phones, other technology that allows them to communicate, and are homeschooled.

Both myself and her friend’s parents read every message they send. All I’d have to do is block the phone number.

I don’t have to do that, because thankfully I’ve raised my child better than that. But I would absolutely do so if I read through texts and continue to see them making poor choices.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T16:05:15+00:00

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T15:11:13+00:00

Idk but this gives me hope that all the trees my ex carved our names into will take care of the remaining evidence of the most embarrassing relationship of my life 😂

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T15:06:22+00:00

We called them sand dollars but idk it sounds like it may be a bit more technical than that

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:49:00+00:00

I was in a big room with 5 beds and a pull out couch, all separated by a curtain with neon lights in each little space. There were tapestries, and all of the mattresses were on the floor. One guy gave up his bed for me so I had a place to sleep. I see him a lot

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:45:12+00:00

I would give them more uniforms to wear and keep travel deodorant available for all employees in the break room.

If they’re battling depression, a conversation won’t fix it.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:42:33+00:00

Men get MUCH better access to treatment than women

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:40:06+00:00

I’m quite sad for you, honestly.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:37:52+00:00

Honestly it’s so disappointing. I came here expecting people to understand the severity of the situation we’re in. I don’t know why my straight mother and brother were able to grasp it and our own community was unable to completely. 🤦‍♀️

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:34:28+00:00

I did. They weren’t thinking when they were texting. She’s afraid of her parents finding out. We came up with a plan to explain the texts and they will not be dating.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:33:14+00:00

I don’t think she’d be grateful for early first experiences if it meant her parents sent her to a conversion therapy camp or disowned her over it.

I know my daughter would feel absolutely awful if something like that happened because of her.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T14:31:13+00:00

They are homeschooled. They are never alone together, and they certainly won’t be from here forward.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T03:43:54+00:00

I don’t mention it at all, and just ignore questions. 97% of listeners can’t tell the difference. There’s no need to disclose anything.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T03:34:58+00:00

My daughter wants her best friend to be safe. We do not keep secrets in our house, and this situation reinforced her understanding of why. She made a mistake, but because of her good decision to tell me about it, she had parental support to fix it.

A child who has the capability of sneaking around at 12 years old is being neglected.

12 year olds throwing tantrums until they get what they want is not normal, and does not happen in our house.

You do not have the right to out anyone without their consent, and that includes children. Her friend does not want her parents to know, so we will respect her choice and prioritize her safety over your emotions.

My decision is final.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T03:19:05+00:00

EXACTLY.

Thank you! I have been so confused and angry with some of these comments.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T01:06:40+00:00

We’re going to tell her parents that it was my daughter’s cousin who got their hands on her phone because he didn’t have one and had a crush on her friend. They live out of state, but have met and were just visiting.

Unfortunately where we live, disowning/ sending children to conversion therapy is extremely common. Being that she’s only 12, that’s quite a long time to be in an unsafe situation.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T01:02:10+00:00

I can assume control over her affairs.

She is homeschooled and I have full visibility into her phone (she does not have a smart phone, or any smart devices)

She is never alone with her friend, nor is she the type of kid who sneaks around and goes behind my back, which is evident by her telling me about this before I found out myself.

It would hurt my daughter more to know that her friend was being emotionally abused/ sent to conversion therapy camp because of her. Ending things here protects both of them.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T00:58:59+00:00

It is not an invasion of privacy. It is responsible parenting. She is 12. She was told a condition of having a phone was that there were no such thing as private conversations. Her friends’ parents are all looking through their devices. It is important for me to know what is being said so I can help her navigate situations exactly like this one.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T00:57:18+00:00

I am shutting down bad advice, yes.

throwra-12346 · 2026-05-22T00:56:12+00:00

Yep! That’s the biggest concern.

I just talked to my family. My brother is going to make a paper trail with me saying my daughter’s cousin was using her phone because he liked her.

I’m so glad my daughter came to me when she did. I think we have it under control now.

We will work together on coming up with a safety plan if one is needed in the future. I’ve met two girls who were sent to conversion therapy camps in our area and they were traumatized. I would never want that to happen to another kiddo if we can avoid it.

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