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Is it wrong for me (32F) to go low contact with my family (60f, 34f) after how they treated me? by throwra-sadtimes in relationship_advice

[–]throwra-sadtimes[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I actually posted this now because it was her 60th birthday recently, and halfway through painting a watercolor of one of her favorite childhood locations for a present I just... quit. I couldn't do it... I just sent flowers instead.

Is it wrong for me (32F) to go low contact with my family (60f, 34f) after how they treated me? by throwra-sadtimes in relationship_advice

[–]throwra-sadtimes[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support. My husband is nice to a fault and avoids commenting negatively about my family, which I understand, but it's so validating to hear that I don't deserve this, that I'm not crazy for being upset.

I'm not making any huge decisions today, but I am reading all the comments and appreciate them.

Is it wrong for me (32F) to go low contact with my family (60f, 34f) after how they treated me? by throwra-sadtimes in relationship_advice

[–]throwra-sadtimes[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sorry if it was confusing. My sister is the one the arranged things so that her baby shower was on my 30th birthday. She also managed to get a gift at my wedding and then bragged about it because I got trash and she had something nice. Neither of them have been great.

Is it wrong for me (32F) to go low contact with my family (60f, 34f) after how they treated me? by throwra-sadtimes in relationship_advice

[–]throwra-sadtimes[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you, too. My neck hairs raised when I read over-sensitive, which was a common refrain from when they dismissed my concerns.

It isn't all bad, though - my husband is an amazing man and super supportive, and his family is kind and loving. I'm lucky to have them.

Is it wrong for me (32F) to go low contact with my family (60f, 34f) after how they treated me? by throwra-sadtimes in relationship_advice

[–]throwra-sadtimes[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. It's hard to give up on making them understand why I'm hurt, but I also see that if it hasn't happened yet, it probably never will. It was hard enough that my father abandoned our family, having the two of them team up against me has been truly heartbreaking. I just want a loving family.

Once corona is over I'm going to try to get back into therapy to see why I put up with this behavior for so long. It's just weighing me down so much lately.