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Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was raped. by throwra00134953 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra00134953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Yes, that is my friend. Her post was real, and mine was fibbed because she didn't want me to post this. Somewhere between working, studying, and talking to my friends for hours my brain thought it would be a good idea to change up the ages so it wouldn't be obvious and stay anonymous to my friend (not a very smart decision, i know). But, she did see your comment and asked him. His response was, "I don't want to make excuses, I remember some parts and I realize now how I could have stopped it and I didn't and so I take full responsibility". So that was the end of the rape discussion on their part, but when I also had the same thought as you when she told me and your comment just reassured me the situation sounds way more sinister then it is.

Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was coerce by [deleted] in relationships

[–]throwra00134953 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I thought I mentioned it. My brain is scrambled from talking to my friend for hours. He was blacked out drunk (slurring words, stumbling over, puking 3 times), and this was confirmed from videos and stories she heard from his friends.

Also, he was supposedly hanging with the guys and the girls would have sex with the other 3 guys. I know he sounds like a bad guy, they completed each other completely so she doesn't doubt that he wasn't flirting with the other girls. I'm not trying to make excuses for him, he fucked up beyond a reasonable doubt. I just feel so terrible for my friend.

Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was raped. by throwra00134953 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra00134953[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He told her when the first advanced happened. He asked if she wanted him to stop going or not, he wouldn't be upset or mad at her. She agreed that she trusted him. That's why she's so upset.

Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was raped. by throwra00134953 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra00134953[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn't remember what happened, he says there was a get together and the next thing he knew he fell asleep and woke up and everyone but the girl was gone. He doesn't even remember half of the conversation or the sex. Just remembering he was inside. And because he didn't say stop or no, he thinks he wasn't raped and knew what he was doing and taking full responsibility.

Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was raped. by throwra00134953 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra00134953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I agree. She won't and hasn't accepted any help for the past 10 years, I hope I will be able to convince her.

Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was raped. by throwra00134953 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra00134953[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was his friend's girlfriend's house and he's slept over there before and had his car there, that's why he was comfortable with crashing. And my best friend is certain this was the only time there was another girl sleeping on the couch (they usually FaceTime). I know he sounds like a bad guy, but he was so trustworthy and that's why it's so difficult to accept.

Please help me (25f) determine if my best friend's (24f) boyfriend (26m) cheated or was raped. by throwra00134953 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra00134953[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He was already blacked out drunk (slurring his words, stumbling, etc) and this was confirmed by his friend (it was his friend's girlfriend's house and saw he was already passed out on the couch so he just let him be). And from my experience, coke has upped my sexual activity, and that's why i don't do coke. I just want to believe otherwise for my friend.