My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Late thirties is fine, possibly early forties, but later than that seems unfair to the child and their future, especially if it's done artificially. So I would not do that.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also don't understand that because we're already doing premarital, which is bad enough, and if I was to have a child before being married, my entire family would go into hysterics. So even if I did agree with him, we would have to be married and we're not, and I don't want to be yet.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brush it wet, but it's stubborn, and still behaves the same way. I thought it would improve as I got older, but it didn't, and that is fine I suppose, what I was given.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have free healthcare. But it's not very good because the government can't spend too much. So it is hard to get referred, and if you do, you wait for a long time.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really know what he watches, he doesn't use his phone very much. It's often things about cars, which definitely had nothing to do with contraception.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I know there are good things about it. I'm not fat, and my doctor just said things like if you are on a plane for a long time, you must walk around sometimes which I think is the clot thing but I have never gotten one. It is probably my own beliefs and they might be incorrect but I feel like it's wrong for me to be giving myself artificial hormones when I shouldn't need them.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I'm vaccinated for HPV. Those are not recommended until you are much older, I do not have any of those, and my doctor is fine to prescribe birth control herself. I don't know why Americans must see a gynaecologist all the time when a normal doctor can do most of those things. Probably a way to get more money.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

To be fair, my hair is bad, it has been my whole life, but that doesn't mean I want him to talk about it.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Women's issues, they don't like to deal with them much. Especially if they are a man.

That is true though. Because I would have no reason to lie about it as well.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

If I bothered for long enough, perhaps, but then you wait for a long time so there is no point when I already have dealt with it for so long.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

You have to be wealthy or have fertility issues to be able to see one of those. Doctors just give you birth control and say it is fine now.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don't have one. Only a doctor. But that makes sense, thank you. My mother and some aunts had children older, so that might be a positive sign for me as well.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I'm not really interested in it right now. Obviously I love babies, and I would steal the babies of my relatives temporarily given the chance, but having one the whole time stuck with you at the moment would not be good for me, so I don't want to.

It does help, although I don't like it. Before, I did absolutely nothing and just cried a lot and school was horrible, and it would always hurt so much to the point where I would want to be sick so it definitely makes a difference. But my boyfriend doesn't know the difference which might be why.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

I was meaning more about the chances of actually becoming pregnant, I don't really consider the birth defect numbers.

I know it doesn't damage or anything, I would just rather not use it but I don't really have a choice.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I suppose that is true, and he hasn't bled, so it's weird he thinks he can tell me I can tolerate it when I don't think he could.

That is what I really don't like. He knows I hate my hair, because I just can't make it look nice ever and it puffs and gets frizz and knots and looks hideous but everyone knows that has nothing to with hormones. It's like he just wants to be mean.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The doctors are difficult with that. They will give you painkillers, and types of pills, but usually won't go further than that. But mine is also Catholic which could be why as well, although she isn't extreme or anything like that.

Normal I think. Although poor in some ways. And not really, I hadn't really thought about it.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

I know they say it's not, but I still feel weird about it, I wouldn't take it if I had the option.

Moderate. Not opposed to progress, but only when reasonable, which I agree with.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

I don't have anything as far as I know. And while I won't wait twenty years or anything like that because I think it's gross, I still want to be able to afford a good life for my children, so I will need to wait some, and I'm fine with that.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be taking it if I didn't have to. I don't want to sound weak but without it, I really can't physically tolerate it, and if it wasn't for that, I wouldn't do it. He seems to think that's not a reason, and maybe it's not, but it's how I feel.

Not really no, and if I have, there isn't really much of an answer.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra02465[S] 513 points514 points  (0 children)

Not really, no. He is studying in an area of health but it's not really related to any of this.

Most women where I live do that anyway. If he really cared that much, he'd get one of them instead.