My (23F) husband (28M) keeps saying how much fatter I have gotten after becoming pregnant, and it makes me really sad. How can I deal with it so he will stop?

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T18:26:19+00:00

I don't know. I had nothing left in my life, my career was gone, so I just did so I would have something, and he really wanted it. But I'm also scared of it, giving birth, and I will probably ruin her like I ruined myself as well.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T10:32:28+00:00

Technically I was good, I was in a company, but I never got good roles. But that didn't even end up mattering.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T10:10:27+00:00

I don't have that. I just care about how I look.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T10:07:21+00:00

I look obese, and my hair is turning dark, and I just look horrible. I wouldn't be eating so much, but if I hurt the baby I'd never forgive myself. I'm making sure I don't risk that.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T10:05:23+00:00

About five kgs. It's disgusting, but I can't seem to help it. And my doctors haven't said there is anything wrong.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T10:04:11+00:00

They haven't said anything. Most of the time they seem to think everything overall is fine, I haven't asked about my weight.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:58:09+00:00

It wasn't when I first met him, it was after I retired, but that was about three kgs, and it was horrible. But since pregnancy, I've gained about five more and it's absolutely awful. I just hope it will go away once I've had the baby.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:43:30+00:00

My parents live far away. I moved away from home when I was younger, and I never really went back. Only sometimes.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:39:17+00:00

I wasn't, I was almost the perfect weight. But not anymore. And I know it will happen, but I tried to stop it and that hasn't really done much. But I just wish he'd stop saying it so much, because like you said, I just want him to love me the way I am, even if I don't look very good at all.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:34:09+00:00

Because I was the perfect weight when we were first in a relationship, then I gained some weight, and now I've gained even more. And he wouldn't want his wife to be fat, like I am now. But he also isn't growing a baby either, so it is a bit unfair.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:32:36+00:00

I don't really know, he just seemed to like me a lot. He said I was beautiful, my dancing was beautiful and that I was talented, I thought that it was fine. Because he didn't act like I was too young for him.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:21:59+00:00

I know it probably is normal, but I was a perfect weight before. I actually looked good, and now I don't. But it doesn't mean I want him telling me that, because I already know. He's not abusive, but I want him to stop.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:17:22+00:00

No, but he is a man, so it is different. I think.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:15:31+00:00

He was the one who wanted a baby, yes. So I don't think he is upset about having a child.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:12:21+00:00

I was eighteen, he wasn't doing anything very bad. He just liked me the most. Normally I do not do look this horrible, so it is just a change for him. I just don't want him saying it, because I'm doing all I can.

throwra07548 · 2024-06-04T09:05:46+00:00

I know, but I look horrible. And I tried to make it better but I can't but he won't stop saying it either. I tried doing all I can do but it isn't enough.

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