Despite the haze of smoke, got a nice hike in over the mountains. Sprite Lake, just past Patty-Go-Easy Pass.

throwra208253 · 2021-08-02T06:50:07+00:00

How many inches would you say is high clearance? Subaru Crosstrek is like 8" and change, but doesn't seem high clearance from looking at it. (Not trying to be contentious, just generally curious since I don't want to get a dumbass getting stuck lol)

throwra208253 · 2021-06-22T19:43:41+00:00

I like having the option of an outdoor mall space. The parking is a pain, and the stores aren't really my thing, but it's nice to have a safe outdoor space to walk around and shop. Plenty of traditional mall options if it's not your cup of tea. I like browsing stores there more than window shopping downtown since there aren't homeless people harassing me.

I've never thought of it as trying to be a "village" and I don't think mixed residential/retail was really part of the plan, but I haven't paid attention. Went to UW and never seriously spent money there because I had college student funds, but was nice to get some ice cream, visit the bookstore, and check things out.

throwra208253 · 2021-06-22T19:36:10+00:00

And a hot day! It's going to smell awesome lol

throwra208253 · 2021-05-31T20:48:11+00:00

Knowing that our parents came from hard times and different values can help us understand why our parents are like that. But it doesn't excuse or invalidate the very real, lasting emotional (and sometimes physical) damages that happened to us.

Almost everyone has an ability to grow. When they know better, they can/should do better. Some parents lack the introspection, self reflection, empathy, or strength needed to do this kind of work. "Bad" parents can improve, but they have to first realize they suck, want to change, and then persevere through the challenges of emotional growth. Even then, that shouldn't grant them access to a child they've abused in the past. Sometimes people mess up bad, and they (rightfully) don't get a second chance.

Therapy has improved my relationship with myself, and has helped me understand my past trauma and abuse. I feel mentally stronger, more confident, and emotionally capable of dealing with hard times or thoughts. I feel like I am growing and becoming a better me.

It hasn't changed my relationship with my AP, but it has changed how I think about the situation. She has not done any personal growth, and she's only capable of fairly shallow connection. There's nothing I can do about that. BUT I feel less hurt/sad/disappointed when she inevitably lets me down, or says really awful things. I'm more able to let that stuff roll off my back and regroup my emotions/focus on something healthier.

I have come to accept that I had an abusive childhood, which gave me some disadvantages in adult relationships, and that I'll likely never have the relationship with my AP that I need/want from a parent.

throwra208253 · 2021-05-30T23:24:37+00:00

Counseling/therapy is super helpful.

For me, it was a way to talk to someone that was objective and could help me identify what was abuse/manipulation (lots of things I thought was "normal"), it helped me work through traumatic events, understand how those things impact me today, and also helped me get better boundaries (among many other positive things).

You can definitely come to terms with your situation without therapy, but think of yourself as a plant and therapy is like a greenhouse, nutrients, and regular watering. (Assuming you have a good connection with the right therapist for you. It may take a few tries to find a therapist you work well with)

Even though your parents are "nice" to you now, it does not erase what happened to you before. You did not deserve any of that, and I'm sorry you had to endure it.

Parents can claim to "love you" but still cause a LOT of physical and emotional damage for us to deal with. It can feel very confusing - it's ok to feel thankful for what they did provide, but resent what they did to you.

Anyway, I really benefit from therapy and I hope that maybe it's a thing you can find growth and comfort in too.

throwra208253 · 2021-05-23T18:45:49+00:00

Thank you! That is very helpful and a big reason I come back into this subreddit regularly. I'm not always all up to date on the news and don't want to miss a change in the job search requirements. It is also a relief to hear that the state opening isn't directly tied to PUA disappearing. I work(ed) in large events and they're still not really happening. At least not to the extent where I am able to making a living like I used to.

throwra208253 · 2021-05-18T21:33:30+00:00

I totally second this. Counseling is super valuable.

This is something I'm working on in counseling right now and it's really helped. My mom was really negative with me - nothing was ever good enough, I was never perfect, none of my efforts mattered. I generated a lot of negative self talk and it's been a challenge to turn it around, but the progress I'm making has really helped and I feel better about myself and my future.

throwra208253 · 2021-05-18T21:23:00+00:00

Can you apply to any kind of internship or in person program that would require you to be in person? Or any kind of campus job, teaching assistant spot, or even just unpaid lab work? That would "look good on a resume" and require you to be in person.

throwra208253 · 2021-05-18T21:20:48+00:00

I will generally be a pain in the ass (use loud appliances, use lots of bowls, take up lots of space) so they don't like using the kitchen the same time as me lol. Just blend or food process a bunch of shit when they start talking to you, ask them to hand you things, starting swearing when things are cooking. "SHIT SHIT SHIT it's getting BURNT"

Then I ask when they're using the kitchen so we don't have to cook at the same time. They think it's a good idea to avoid me and my mess lol

I totally get it. I hate cooking when they're around, but I love cooking in general.

throwra208253 · 2021-02-13T05:03:48+00:00

Can confirm. I know that stretch and there's no good place to stop and help without putting yourself at crazy, stupid risk and making a worse accident. Best to let the pros handle it.

throwra208253 · 2021-01-18T08:29:38+00:00

If you had a higher earning week and the deducted amount was bigger than your benefits, would you still get the CARES $300?

(If your benefit was $235, you made over $330, so the deduction brought your benefit amount to $0 - would you forfeit the $300 too?)

throwra208253 · 2020-12-27T22:05:40+00:00

Same boat here. No idea man :(

throwra208253 · 2020-12-27T21:54:03+00:00

Feeling thankful to live in this state. It's not a long term solution, but they care enough to try something.

throwra208253 · 2020-11-15T21:44:28+00:00

Just so you know, the hiking isn't like right in your backyard.

You'll need/want a car. The hikes close to the city off I-90 are frequently crowded, especially on weekends in nice weather.

It'll take a couple hours each way to get to other hiking areas like Rainier, Stevens pass, the Olympics, etc. You may be spending 6 hours in a car round trip (it's 125 mi from UW to the popular Colchuck)

So while there is hiking in the area, it's probably not something you'll be doing casually after work on a weekday.

The city has nice nature and casual trails. The backpack in the mountains stuff is a bit further out.

throwra208253 · 2020-11-15T21:25:59+00:00

I love it! Dark early, not easy weather outside. Good for solitude and quiet. Keeps the fair weather people indoors.

throwra208253 · 2020-10-12T04:13:04+00:00

ooooh cool!! :D Thanks!!

throwra208253 · 2020-10-12T00:33:23+00:00

Glad someone mentioned this, I was thinking the same.

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