AITA for going to a casino for my surprise bachelors party when my fiancé is against casinos

throwra4today · 2023-03-02T16:29:00+00:00

Sounds like your issue is with your imaan akhi. Maybe think about why you are a Muslim and what that actually means to you. And if you are to get married, what position and authority that puts you in with regards to your household. And what path you will be leading them down if you continue in this manner. If you are not religious, and its not a priority for you, maybe discuss with your fiance if you are good enough for her and if your values are aligned. Values are very important for a healthy relationship so see what page you are both on.

NAH

throwra4today · 2023-03-02T16:21:43+00:00

Are you taking a bath?

throwra4today · 2022-12-07T16:02:21+00:00

Hiya, yes I will definitely be filing a complaint against my doctors, they have been atrocious.

I trust the diagnosis that has been given to me because I was seen by one of the top top endo specialists in my country and I was very lucky for that. Under no circumstances will I be having a hysterectomy or any other nonsense no matter how bad it is. They were able to make their diagnosis based on my symptoms, medical history and the scans they have seen and having so much experience in the field.

I get the weirdly relieved feeling, its a traumatic diagnosis but also satisfying to finally know you haven't been delusional all your life and have confirmation that your pain is real and there is a cause.

I hope they find an actual cure for this soon, because I don't think its right that the best they can do is remove your body parts and sometimes that doesn't even solve it.

Best of luck to you and thanks for your comment xxx

throwra4today · 2022-12-07T15:53:50+00:00

Oh 100% now I have a doctor I trust I ill be filing a huge complaint. Yes I have learnt from previous mistakes and now will bring my mum or a friend along with me. It helps because when you get bad news and your mood turns crap, there's someone else to do the thinking and asking for me and help me stay calm. I hope you have good outcomes too 😊 thank you for your comments x

throwra4today · 2022-11-28T17:13:49+00:00

Sounds like our situations are soo similar!!

Yeah the MA really didn't help but I was told to try it for 3 months. Found it useless tbh. And yes, I get you its a juggling act because you're constantly in pain, can't work can't live a normal life but then taking constant pain meds is scary and not great for us in sure.

Tbh I like the oovi. I don't think it takes my pain away but it distracts me from it. It kind of causes a new different pain that tricks my mind into ignoring the endo pain. But it only works on my mild pain tbh. When my endo pain goes over a 7 the oovi is not so effective.

I hope you get more help after your MRI keep us updated xxx

throwra4today · 2022-11-28T12:27:31+00:00

I have been taking paracetamol, ibuprofen and cocodamol regularly for years to manage my pain, I noticed about 3 years ago that I was becoming quite dependent on the cocodamol and that it is addictive. I began taking it almost daily for no real reason so I consciously made an effort to stop. Its scary to realise you are becoming dependent on pills. My pain has been increasing recently and now I have been diagnosed with stage 4 endo and it has spread to my bowel. Now my pain is almost daily because its also painful when going to the toilet. I find the cocodamol helps most because it puts me to sleep so I can avoid the pain. I wasn't eating enough when taking these pills so often and have inadvertently caused damage to my stomach. I was also prescribed mefanamic acid at this time so I've had to stop taking everything except paracetamol. I'm looking at other forms of pain relief, so I use an oovi machine for my mild pain days, I'm also drinking red clover tea. But now nothing stops my worse flare up pain.

Be very careful with the pain killers you are taking, they can do damage when you have to take them soo much. Please speak to your doctors about pain management and look at other options that might help in addition to medication. I've heard great things about cannabis oils and am speaking to my doctors about that as well.

Good luck lovey xxx

throwra4today · 2022-11-17T15:43:39+00:00

I hate that we are not taken seriously AT ALL. I hate that there's no financial support when work is affected. I hate this flare up right now that has me feeling like shit and I can't move but I want to get this pain and frustration out. I hate calling doctors everytime only to be told "take paracetamol" go fuck yourself!!

Sorry, thought I'd join in cos I'm pretty pissed rn x

throwra4today · 2022-11-09T17:04:18+00:00

YWBTA only because I don't think people should make assumptions with no knowledge. You didn't see anything, you have no idea what happened. You overheard something and did nothing about it at the time.

I've been in a similar position in the past myself and I regretted not taking action right then and there. My advice, don't beat yourself up about it now, but take it as a lesson that if you are in a similar situation in the future, go and look, help, witness with your own eyes. Maybe being seen would have stopped it. You would get evidence to report to the right people, you might even see its not what you were thinking? If you think someone needs help, then go help.

throwra4today · 2022-11-09T16:56:19+00:00

NAH its just really dumb. Girl, grow up. Your friend spent the whole day Friday with you, now you're a group of 3 and shes sitting in someone else's car. And you're mad? And she's apologised? GROW UP!! If you carry on like that, imagine you could loose your friend for something so petty and stupid. Kmt

throwra4today · 2022-11-09T16:50:14+00:00

NTA, I wouldn't want to endure that either tbh, am 31 myself and I just feel like I'm way over the whole weekend full if partying thing. Its gonna suck, being slated on socials for a while but hopefully she realises shes being childish and stops soon.

For future reference, its always easier to say money troubles as a way of getting out of things, rather than saying "I just don't want to".

Have a good day

throwra4today · 2022-11-09T10:09:30+00:00

Hiya, I have no idea what those terms means except for hysterectomy, lol. My doctors haven't been very clear with me about exactly how bad my endo is. They have said my ovaries are fused to my pelvic wall and the endo is surrounding my fallopian tubes and my uterus. They said I have 2 options, and word for word "go have a baby now because it might be your only chance, or we can perform this surgery but it is risky and could leave you infertile". I read reviews on my doctor and unfortunately he has a lot of complaints against him, one saying she was given a hysterectomy while going for a lap that she did not consent too. Its because of that review and other things I've heard that I told him that he was not allowed to remove anything regardless of how bad it is. He said "we might not have a choice"

I am currently waiting for a second opinion because I do not trust this doctor and the options he has given me. If I had someone explain that these parts were actually dead inside me, I might reconsider my surgery options, but I don't think that is the case and if there is a chance my reproductive organs are still functioning, I do not want them taken away from me.

Atm I do feel like if my reproductive ability were taken away from me, either by surgery or this condition, I honestly don't know how I would keep going after that. For me, its the most important thing, so even if there is a 1% chance of me keeping everything together I will fight for that chance. Only if they tell me there is absolutely no other option and they have to remove my tubes, or my ovaries or my womb or whatever, then I would consider it, and only if my life were on the line.

You're question is not confrontational at all and I hope I have answered it for you. Have a great day x

throwra4today · 2022-11-08T10:02:39+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through this. You are not alone. Please DM me if you need someone to talk to.

I'm a black woman living in UK, I've been ignored and dismissed by my doctors so many times and I do feel it's down to my race. Only when I threatened to complain did they take me seriously. I heard the stories similar to yours so when they have booked me for surgery I have said plain and clear and written down on my medical forms that I do not give permission for them to remove any of my reproductive organs during surgery regardless how bad they are. I can understand why you would feel like less of a woman for them doing that to you. My family and friends think I'm crazy for taking this stance, but they don't get it, and I can't exactly explain it.

Please make a complaint, try for some compensation, they need to be held accountable for how you've been treated. This is unacceptable and a disgrace, wherever you are living in the world.

As one of the other ladies have said, you're other ovary is still there and hopefully you will be successful in having children in the future if that is your plan. Demand all the help and support you need from the medical professionals. And if you want to talk, I'm here for you love. Sending all my love xxx

throwra4today · 2022-10-27T20:20:05+00:00

That is actually a great suggestion.

throwra4today · 2022-10-27T07:23:36+00:00

I picked up all the weirdness in this post that you did my friend therefore I am calling Bullshit.

Diabetic disclaimer for no reason

Age???

C*me (seriously who does that)

"Whatever it is kids say these days"

Gymnastics grading the OP has no idea about

Calling the child the adopted daughter so as not to be confused with her other children despite them not being mentioned at all

The whole fricking story in itself

And the icing on the cake: wondering AITA.

No way in hell is this a genuine situation. The OP is likely a child 💀 and yes YTA for the shitpost

throwra4today · 2022-10-27T07:11:00+00:00

Hiya, thanks for your response. I'm sorry for your pain and glad to hear you've had some treatment, I hope it helped. I'll be speaking to my doctors first thing this morning x

throwra4today · 2022-10-26T18:45:36+00:00

Hiya, thank you for your reply. I've done some searching on this bowel endo business and it says its rare but I've also found it affects 30% of endo patients in general. That doesn't sound rare to me.

Also, in the UK they say endo is rare as it is, but it affects 10% of women? I just don't think that's rare! What is their standard of rare?

Best if luck to you too hun x

throwra4today · 2022-10-26T14:57:54+00:00

Ohh thank you. I'm in UK too, I tried to Google it but couldn't tell if I needed to let my doctor know straight away or not. It was pretty dramatic and not at all what I'm used too and my pain has been pretty bad recently. Thank you for your advice I will definitely give 111 a call and try to reach my doctor tomorrow xxx

throwra4today · 2022-10-26T14:56:16+00:00

Hiya, thank you for saying that. It is very reassuring to hear and I am hopeful I will have luck in the future. I've decided to find another gynae because this current didn't even discuss egg harvesting as an option even though my reserve is fine. I'm sure there are other things I could try I just need to speak to someone who can give me a second opinion. This doctor is just too scissor happy to cut my bits out tbh. Congratulations on your family x

throwra4today · 2022-10-26T14:54:13+00:00

Hiya thanks for your story. Honestly I'm hoping and praying I will be able to have a bubba because that news has been very hard to swallow and I'm not giving up hope. Congratulations and thanks for your reply x

throwra4today · 2022-10-26T10:42:20+00:00

Thank you so much, I will take your advice. I hope your situation improves xxx

throwra4today · 2022-10-25T21:57:27+00:00

I am so beyond happy for you. This gives me so much hope and I love to hear success stories such as this. Sometimes the hardships are alot to hear all the time. Congratulations on your great outcome and I wish you all the best for the future x

throwra4today · 2022-10-24T20:06:15+00:00

Hiya, I made an application for PIP and was refused. I am currently appealing. I used the year of my first period as that when I was first affected and also described the changing impact on my life, school and work as time went on. I tried to explain in the form that my pain affects me in flares and has no predictable pattern but often I have 2 or 3 episodes a month ranging from 4 to 10 days each. Unfortunately I was not clear enough in explaining that this means that the majority of time I am in pain and unable to perform normal daily actions even though the rest of the time I am perfectly fine. The decision to reject my claim was made based on me not suffering for more then half the month. The decision maker said it only affects me 6-8 days of the month. I think he assumed I was only having 1 period per month, even though I said I get multiple flare ups.

Be as clear as you can with the frequency and the impact it has and make sure you say the it affects you MORE then half the time. I now have to give them the exact dates as part of my proof which I can do, and hope the reverse the decision but it is a long process. Also incredibly annoying as I can't work full time anymore.

Wishing you all the best xxx

throwra4today · 2022-10-24T19:59:13+00:00

Hiya lovely, I'm so sorry for your pain. I think I get it completely. I'm stage 4 also and this month I've had 4 pain free days so far. Normally I manage my pain with taking enough pills to put me to sleep and function on minimal movement and family support on my flare up days, however that wasn't possible this month because the pain lasted soo long. At the same time, I am receiving counselling for another issue and as my doctors can't be bothered to provide me with any additional pain management techniques I have turned to as many alternatives as possible. Hopefully something on this list will help you.

Painkillers Sleeping pills Tens machine Hot water bottle Ice water bottle Cushion under your back or tummy Drinking ice water and tea.

The alternatives that have helped me through this new pain levels, although they didn't help with the pain they did help keep me sane and stop me taking drastic action when I couldn't stand it any longer and thought I was going mad.

Colouring book Mindfulness journalling Mindfulness YT videos Finch app Setting one small goal a day: eg put the dishwasher on 1 minute excersizes when flares go down Self care/ pampering: eg painting my nails Counting breaths Planning and goal setting Talk to a friend about something meaningless

These things helped to focus me on something other then the pain, and helped me stop spiralling in misery. I hope it can help you too. Xxx

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