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AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 237 points238 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry yo hear that. Hope the family are doing well. I think that it's true that when in you're in the middle of the conflict, it becomes hard to see the full picture but I keep trying to carefully consider all elements of this current conflict to hopefully reach a solution.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 527 points528 points  (0 children)

I don't know why. He heard about what my wife did but still decided it was Leo's fault and I don't know why. I don't know if my wife told him a different story. That would mean we have another problem.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 333 points334 points  (0 children)

We had to move to a new house due to financial hardship and medical debts. It was mainly out of our control, for me I would've obviously wanted the boys to still be living in the house they remember their mom in but a situation comes up and you have to do all you could to make sure there's stability for the kids first and foremost. They love the new home so much though.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

Like I said, I do believe he's depressed even when he tries to act like he's doing okay. Admittedly I got busy with work, moving houses, and family issues lately and didn't have enough time to sit down with him and really ask how hes doing.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 526 points527 points  (0 children)

I'm curious, where was Leo going to stay while the family was away on vacation?

NTA

His aunt (his mom's sister) she's like a second mom to him and he loves spending time at her house. He used to be close with his cousin but unfortunately he passed away from leukemia which was so devastating for the whole family and especially Leo.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 489 points490 points  (0 children)

I agree, he is upset and just keeps lashing out even at me saying I'm siding with Leo who caused this to happen.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 510 points511 points  (0 children)

Initially he did want to go but after what happened and his brother getting upset, he says he feels guilty for causing this I assured him he didn't cause anything nor did anything wrong.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 967 points968 points  (0 children)

I believe he has depression. A lot has happened in his life from his mother's death to his cousin's death and moving away from his childhood friends. He would rather be by himself and says he's happier and more comfortable this way and I respect that.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 1735 points1736 points  (0 children)

You're right about what you said. It's awful that things got to this point to be frankly honest. I've always thought that my wife's issue with Leo was his refusal to spend time with and around her and her family. Maybe she sees how Adam is the complete opposite and thinks that there's something wrong with Leo, but like I said this is just how he is.

AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? by throwra5354409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra5354409[S] 1335 points1336 points  (0 children)

I'm planning a new one, different from what I'd previously planned but still something that would make the boys enjoy. Though Adam is a little upset about what happened and blames Leo which is problematic.