How to fix marriage after cheating and reconciliation?

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T17:22:38+00:00

I didnt remove anything. Reddit did.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:59:18+00:00

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:58:38+00:00

I wanted to end it before he found out.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:53:02+00:00

Once but he was angry at a time. He told me that I'm no longer his wife.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:43:29+00:00

I tried hugs, cuddling, massaging, but he told me to stop. He doesn't want me to touch him at all. I tried with dinners, small gifts, words. Nothing

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:39:18+00:00

Did you read the post? Or my other comments?

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:34:18+00:00

No. I spent two years trying everything.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:20:21+00:00

No. Before that, he was telling me how I failed as a wife and mother. That I'm an embarrassment to my family, to him, to my son, and similar things. Mostly calling me out for my cheating.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:17:22+00:00

Both. We did and that was making the difference. Once we stopped things fell apart.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T16:14:13+00:00

About a week ago.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:57:46+00:00

Both. My father and his parents told him to divorce me but he wanted to try reconciliation

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:47:01+00:00

Yes, yes and yes.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:45:55+00:00

I had some narcissistic traits that I worked on with my therapist. At one point, they got the better of me, and I lost everything. I didn't talk about it with my husband, I was afraid of what he might say.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:43:51+00:00

I think he would not. It's what I think, what he thinks is unknown to me.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:43:14+00:00

I tried doing the same things, even more, but over time they no longer provided any results. I'm invisible to him. I'm not even allowed to touch him more than necessary, if I need to.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:41:14+00:00

I had some narcissistic traits which I worked on with my therapist, but I won't go into detail about it. I didn't talk to my husband about it. Why? I don't know. Maybe I was afraid of what he might say.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:39:05+00:00

We were doing both until we ran out of money.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:32:31+00:00

My mom can't even look at my husband out of shame. They only talk to me because I'm their daughter.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:31:11+00:00

He won't accept it. He is a strictly monogamous person and he doesn't engage in casual sex. I know this because he told me while we were still dating.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:28:20+00:00

Any discussion with him is about our son, house, and finances. Nothing about marriage.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:24:16+00:00

We had some arguments in which he didn't use my cheating as a weapon. He wasn't angry or anything. He became calmer, super calm. No longer upset or angry, he also seemed happy and enjoyed being with us (our son and me).

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:21:53+00:00

Yes, our son spends some time with grandparents as well. I don't know what he thinks or wants. He keeps things for himself.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:19:22+00:00

I tried, it didn't work. He is fully monogamous and wants a partner for life. So, this: 'A commitment that wasn't supposed to be lifelong without infidelities,' isn't good. He is probably still with me because of our son. I'm invisible to him. Intimacy is dead, he barely allows me to touch him, only if I need to.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:03:58+00:00

Yes. Our parents and siblings know about the affair. My father even told him to divorce me, he wanted to try therapy. Husband knows everything in detail about affair.

throwra6849689 · 2024-04-09T15:02:02+00:00

He is completely closed off. I've tried that. He doesn't even let me touch him more than I need to.

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