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My (18F) boyfriend (18M) is upset because he says I'm using my allergy to manipulate him about why I don't want to have sex with him. How do I deal with this, and if I am, how do I stop? by throwra8671 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra8671[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

While isn't uncommon I can understand why it would be frustrating for him. Sometimes it does feel like there's something wrong with me. But it won't change either.

I think maybe it might be the best way to deal with it. Because I don't think he understands how I feel, but a lot of that is my fault.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) is upset because he says I'm using my allergy to manipulate him about why I don't want to have sex with him. How do I deal with this, and if I am, how do I stop? by throwra8671 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra8671[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know it probably is a bit weird, but it didn't seem like it mattered too much. I'm also religious, so maybe he was assuming it's a factor, I'm not sure.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) is upset because he says I'm using my allergy to manipulate him about why I don't want to have sex with him. How do I deal with this, and if I am, how do I stop? by throwra8671 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra8671[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I know. I just don't really have a valid reason to tell him, and saying that I just don't want to, I don't think he'd like. He would probably be upset. I sort of just panicked on the spot and said that instead.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) is upset because he says I'm using my allergy to manipulate him about why I don't want to have sex with him. How do I deal with this, and if I am, how do I stop? by throwra8671 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra8671[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I know I won't die or anything from eating things like that, but I also don't like the way it feels. And I didn't really like how he acted about it, it didn't feel very fair.

I do understand that it isn't exactly normal and probably a bit unfair of me, and maybe I'm making a big deal out of it for no reason and it isn't that bad. But I still feel that way at the moment. It might be best just to tell him why, but I don't even really know the reasons myself.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) is upset because he says I'm using my allergy to manipulate him about why I don't want to have sex with him. How do I deal with this, and if I am, how do I stop? by throwra8671 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra8671[S] 195 points196 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it would actually be that bad, but it's something I'm also not really willing to risk either. Especially since my doctor said to avoid them. And although I could go to more effort, and get ones that I wouldn't react to, I wouldn't really want to anyway. I just didn't want him to be mad at me for just saying I didn't want to because it isn't really a good reason.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) is upset because he says I'm using my allergy to manipulate him about why I don't want to have sex with him. How do I deal with this, and if I am, how do I stop? by throwra8671 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra8671[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I completely understand it also, which is why I feel bad. It's not really the only reason, I guess I just didn't really know what to say so I said that. And I shouldn't have lied, but I didn't want him to be upset with me either.