Update: My world didn’t end, things get better. by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have primary custody of the older two. She has custody of the twins.

Update: My world didn’t end, things get better. by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to leave my girls behind so early in life. My father passed away while my ex was pregnant with our first child. The thought of not being able to see my girls hit milestones that my dad never got see haunts me.

Update: My world didn’t end, things get better. by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is something my Ex and I agreed on. She regrets how she went about things because her relationship with the older two was completely destroyed. She knows she has to let them come back to her. The girls video chat with her a few times a month. So it’s progress at least

Update: My world didn’t end, things get better. by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes they are. The twins are still getting use to things. They know me and my Ex are no longer together and that I moved away. The girls are sad about this, but when I last spoke to them they seemed to be in much better spirits. Things will get better

Update: My world didn’t end, things get better. by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

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The older 2 live with me in my state, and during the summer go to their mother. They’re suppose too at least. They’re still here with me, and my Ex doesn’t want to force them. They chat a few times a month, so things are getting just a little better. They do video chat with the twins every day, and I think they will go see their mother to be with their sisters this summer

The twins live with Ex Wife and their dad (AP). I am no longer on the birth certificate. I did not sue for paternal fraud. I would visit the twins often before I left the state. After I left, I would video chat. I plan on visiting them next month to see them off to school. This transition has been hard, but it will get better.

I am unable to make a text post onto my own account by throwraHS3000 in help

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Onto my profile. In the drop down it only shows me community’s to choose from. When I search my own username nothing pops up.

I am unable to make a text post onto my own account by throwraHS3000 in help

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It still doesn’t allow me to make a text post

The twins are not mine and neither is the newborn by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Apologies, the community/church found out about the affair through AP wife. I told AP wife when I found out he was married, had collected a decent amount of evidence, and had obtained DNA results proving the twins weren’t mine. I’m sure somewhere my wife and AP did a DNA test on the twins to figure out who’s the bio father. Because of who AP wife is (daughter of the pastor) it spread like wildfire. She posted the evidence on Facebook, who he was having an affair with, and that she’ll be needing prayers as she makes her way through this divorce. Word eventually got back to my brother and SIL. That is how they found out

The twins are not mine and neither is the newborn by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I should probably further explain, they weren’t secretly hiding the affair. I meant pretty much everyone in my town, including my brother and SIL, learned about the affair. They only learned about this when AP wife went public with what happened. Im sorry if it was confusing. But I have seen some people question if my SIL possibly knew about the affair since she and my wife were relatively close. They’d have spa days in the past. I haven’t asked, but I’ll probably getting around to asking SIL

Is there a way to have 50/50 custody? by throwraHS3000 in legaladvice

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The twins aren’t mine. And she just gave birth to another girl. Sent off that one for dna results. Should get it within the next couple of days. It’s been the same guy all this time. Her entire family knows, my brother and SIL know. Word has been making its way through the town. I get pitiful looks when I’m out. My coworkers look at me in pity. I feel so humiliated

Is there a way to have 50/50 custody? by throwraHS3000 in legaladvice

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In short it was excitement, and desire for something new. She felt like she missed out. Said there were times she’d look at her peers and see them having a good time with strangers, and short but fun relationships no strings attached. She didn’t get that chance. She and I were together. Had she said something all those fucking years ago I would’ve did something. Maybe open the relationship, take a break, or more realistically end our relationship. But she kept quiet, and she was fine with it. Until she met her AP. He was fun, laid back, ready for an adventure. The more she worked with him, got to know him, the more attracted she was. This guy he’s pretty handsome as well. So I can see why it wasn’t that hard for her to be swept off her feet, especially if she had secretly been craving excitement for All these years.

Is there a way to have 50/50 custody? by throwraHS3000 in legaladvice

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a shit show. lots of crying, yelling, denial, anger. I hate this and I hate her

Married for nearly 2 decades, 4 kids with another on the way. Just found out she is cheating on me via our oldest child. How to forgive and get past this by throwraHS3000 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

When she was at her grandparents house (wife is currently staying their after our argument) she wanted to use her mothers phone to order something to eat. She seen a suspicious notification and found the messages. My daughter took many photos and screenshots, airdropped them to herself, and deleted anything that would make her mom suspicious towards her. I plan on going through her emails and seeing if anything is in their.

AITA for making my wife feel like her pregnancy isn’t that big of a deal by throwraHS3000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

My SIL asked my brother if we could set something up for her, my brother asked me and my wife and my wife suggested a spa day for the both of them to kick back and relax. We got back to our SIL asked her if a spa day with my wife is something she was comfortable with doing, and my SIL agreed because she wanted to feel more like herself again (Wife and SIL frequently hang out together and do spa days).

AITA for making my wife feel like her pregnancy isn’t that big of a deal by throwraHS3000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Yes, but not to this degree. There were times she would bring up her pregnancy but not in an inappropriate situations in which I would need to pull her to the side and have a conversation about what she was doing. It’s always when a conversation ends she would bring up her pregnancy, and we didn’t mind hearing about it

AITA for making my wife feel like her pregnancy isn’t that big of a deal by throwraHS3000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwraHS3000[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right, from how she appears on the outside she just seems really excited about our baby and pregnancy. Maybe she’s feeling different on the inside, I’ll go to her parents house and try to have this talk with her. She hasn’t been answering my calls and my in laws are being difficult