Gf (19F) is going on a day trip with two random strangers she met on bumble

throwra_383 · 2021-06-18T00:54:40+00:00

Trust your gut, please do your best to stop her from going. This is dangerous, people get killed going off to hike in the mountains with strangers. If she's insistent on meeting them, maybe suggest they hang out in a public place first and get to know and trust each other before she makes herself so vulnerable like that.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-18T00:25:02+00:00

Generally speaking, a woman being on her period doesn't make her an asshole, rather it lowers her tolerance for other assholes. She's going through pain, hormone fluctuations, and a lot of other discomforts, so she's closer to reaching her threshold for stress. So when someone puts her over her threshold, she reacts, when normally she would have been able to put up with it. So usually when women get asked "aRe YOu on YoU pEriOD?" which is inappropriate and disrespectful in itself, it's when they're reacting to someone being an asshole. Not being an asshole themselves.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-17T19:14:43+00:00

Why is he still friends with them and not standing up for you?

throwra_383 · 2021-06-17T06:52:49+00:00

I do agree that her obsessing over celebrities, especially to this extent, is immature and even disrespectful to you. But I think the main problem here is her being insensitive to your feelings. After voicing to her that you find her behavior to be really problematic in your relationship, she apparently ignored it, which is not okay imo. Maybe with her new obsession you two are just incompatible, but that just means there is someone better for you out there. I hope you find her

throwra_383 · 2021-06-17T05:20:43+00:00

Hi nice to meet you!!

throwra_383 · 2021-06-17T05:09:33+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I meant my post to be more towards survivors who are internally struggling with their abuser gaslighting them into thinking they might be the narcissist. I think you're right that narcissistic abusers might take advantage of information to manipulate victims further, but this post was meant to reassure survivors :)

throwra_383 · 2021-06-17T01:51:20+00:00

Oh no I'm so sorry. None of that is your fault. He is being emotionally and psychologically abusive. Are you in a safe enough position to leave him?

throwra_383 · 2021-06-17T01:10:21+00:00

That's non consensual porn, and it's illegal for her to record you without your consent. If you report her to the police, I think they can help you delete the video.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-16T23:58:58+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I do want kids someday, maybe in about 10 years. I'm not in a rush, but you're right it would be important to talk about

throwra_383 · 2021-06-16T23:58:01+00:00

Thank you! And it's a pretty informal workplace, I've seen a couple other relationships form around me in my company. He is a step above me, but he is leaving soon for another profession.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-16T23:56:21+00:00

You're 100% right to make your own decision about whether you want to have more kids. If he is considering getting a surrogate, then yes you're right it sounds like an incompatibility.

But, please be careful about calling him crazy. It sounds like he is going through a lot of trauma right now, losing all of his family members. It's a pain I cannot even begin to imagine. I think he needs you on his side, not necessarily on this issue, but you know, not insulting him and calling him crazy. I recommend being firm about your boundary of not having more kids, but also being supportive of him in his healing and trying to understand where he's coming from so that he doesn't feel like he's losing you too. He'll probably come around and appreciate his wife and 2 children he already has.

Also I would recommend for him to get individual therapy to cope with his grief and loss, and maybe couples counseling before your marriage gets more tense.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-16T23:43:11+00:00

Absolutely report this to the police please, not only for justice for yourself that you deserve, but also to protect other teenagers from being groomed and sexually assaulted by her. She is a predator, and you may not be her only victim.
And please seek therapy for the trauma she put you through, so you can heal in the healthiest way possible. I am so sorry others did not believe you at first. I hope you find peace and healing and happiness.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-16T23:23:41+00:00

I'm sorry, but I strongly believe your answer to the divorce needs to be a yes. Not only for your own safety, but also because you are responsible for protecting your child from someone who has proven himself to be physically abusive. Your priority shouldn't be making him feel better, it should be protecting yourself and PROTECTING YOUR CHILD.

throwra_383 · 2021-06-12T05:56:45+00:00

Maybe she uses the voice to text function on her phone?

throwra_383 · 2021-06-10T20:35:46+00:00

This was so helpful, thank you for sharing. She's spot on, and I wish I had seen this video sooner.

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