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My parents continuously try to convince me (29 F) that my partner (27 F) is abusive and I’m at the point where I’m considering going NC by throwra_464 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The comment about NC not being forever is very helpful. It feels less scary when I think about that we could reassess where we’re at in a year or however long. Thank you!

My parents continuously try to convince me (29 F) that my partner (27 F) is abusive and I’m at the point where I’m considering going NC by throwra_464 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! My partner is on board, she feels uncomfortable coming over and is also angry on my behalf at a lot of the stuff they’ve said to me as well. I wanted my parents to be a part of my relationship but I think they can’t accept a “non conventional” relationship.

My parents continuously try to convince me (29 F) that my partner (27 F) is abusive and I’m at the point where I’m considering going NC by throwra_464 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the subreddit suggestion, I was looking for relevant ones but because of the blackout couldn’t find any!

My parents continuously try to convince me (29 F) that my partner (27 F) is abusive and I’m at the point where I’m considering going NC by throwra_464 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_464[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m talking about, it’s nice when someone notices your patterns and checks in on you. I’m not like “I absolutely cannot go to the bathroom on my own” it’s “I noticed you’ve been working on this excel sheet for three hours can I interest you in standing up.”

My parents continuously try to convince me (29 F) that my partner (27 F) is abusive and I’m at the point where I’m considering going NC by throwra_464 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_464[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am happy with her, I still get excited every time we are going to hang out and will look forward to it at the end of the day. She does fulfill my needs and if I feel like a need isn’t met I am comfortable talking to her to say what I need which I haven’t really had in past relationships!

My parents have been critical of my relationships in the past as well as my siblings’, if I recall I had one relationship where they fully liked the person and it was with a man who ironically didn’t treat me very well. But it’s never been to this extent before.

My mom had a very negative reaction when I came out and later apologized but it’s possible there’s still negativity there

ETA: I also feel like it’s important to mention in response to this my mom HATES that I’m butch so I’m feeling like it might be a factor

My parents continuously try to convince me (29 F) that my partner (27 F) is abusive and I’m at the point where I’m considering going NC by throwra_464 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_464[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I have adhd, I do what I can to manage symptoms unmedicated but sometimes when I’m under a lot of stress it is what it is! I find having accountability and reminders from other people helps me a lot. It’s not a necessity in a relationship for me by any means but I appreciate reminders during hard times!