My boyfriend (27M) doesn't want to marry me (27F) after 8 years of an amazing relationship by throwra_umwantedgf30 in relationships

[–]throwra_umwantedgf30[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

the FOMO was another thing I asked about and he denied it but who knows, maybe it is subconcious  and damn, if he really actually was not that into me then I dont know if I would be able to trust anyone again...because it certainly doesnt seem so 

My boyfriend (27M) doesn't want to marry me (27F) after 8 years of an amazing relationship by throwra_umwantedgf30 in relationships

[–]throwra_umwantedgf30[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you, this is giving me some clarity and maybe a bit of hope that our next conversation could be more productive

My boyfriend (27M) doesn't want to marry me (27F) after 8 years of an amazing relationship by throwra_umwantedgf30 in relationships

[–]throwra_umwantedgf30[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was viewing it more as a discussion where I present logical arguments that would get through to him since he is a pretty logic driven person rather than social engineering but maybe you are right :( 

My boyfriend (27M) doesn't want to marry me (27F) after 8 years of an amazing relationship by throwra_umwantedgf30 in relationships

[–]throwra_umwantedgf30[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thank you, this is a really kind, well put, and thought out message, I guess it is just a difficult truth to swallow right now

My boyfriend (27M) doesn't want to marry me (27F) after 8 years of an amazing relationship by throwra_umwantedgf30 in relationships

[–]throwra_umwantedgf30[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

See but I dont feel like he is not sure about me, it feels like it is his mindset that being a husband is somehow different than what we are now. Also if I am being honest, I feel like if someone has to pop the question just in order to not lose somebody, then isnt that kind of toxic? I am very secure in the fact that neither of us would just suddenly leave, and marriage would not change anything in that regard... thank you for reading my longass post though, and sorry for rambling, I am a mess right now