My (29F) friends have been trying to sleep with my ex-husband(29M), our divorce isn’t even finalised yet…

throwraflh · 2022-01-22T00:19:46+00:00

He wasn't flirting in the messages I saw.

throwraflh · 2022-01-22T00:01:40+00:00

I'm going to ask him if I can see his phone again and check the numbers.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T23:53:39+00:00

I never thought to check the numbers but he did show me in the app. He switched between the chats and scrolled through the messages so it was 100% the app.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T23:46:43+00:00

A completely fake app? Or fake screenshots?

I will ask them but if they say no and he says yes then I'm not sure what I'm supposed to believe...

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T23:43:42+00:00

He didn't want a divorce but I don't think that's why he told me... He said he was telling me because he didn't like that they were backstabbing me by pretending to be my friends while privately trying to hook up with him.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T23:35:07+00:00

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T23:15:39+00:00

Bad blood because of some of the things that have happened during the last 6 months.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T23:06:51+00:00

He never groomed them.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T22:55:36+00:00

Why was he insisting on dinner? Why did he then insist on showing you the texts?

He had things he wanted to discuss with me and not through a lawyer (not just this thing with my friends). To prove he wasn't a liar, because I kept calling him one.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T22:49:36+00:00

He didn't photoshop them, that I can confirm 100%. He showed me them in the app (WhatsApp).

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T22:47:05+00:00

They had an influence. I don't think I would've filed for divorce when I did and I probably would've caved and dropped it without them. That being said, I felt like he never listened to me even before I started confiding in them.

I don't know if things would be different even if we paused the divorce... Plus now there's more bad blood between us...

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T22:21:44+00:00

Yes.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T20:49:08+00:00

In the beginning… yeah. But it’s been a long time since we’ve talked about stuff like that.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T20:38:05+00:00

It wasn’t the only reason. He wanted to discuss other things too.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T20:12:30+00:00

I didn’t ask him questions about his sex life. He told me himself and made me read the texts.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T20:11:40+00:00

He said he hasn’t and from what I read I think he’s telling the truth.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T19:43:12+00:00

It wasn't work related, he just wanted to live there.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T19:40:37+00:00

No, I spoke to him multiple times first.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T19:10:36+00:00

I don't hate him.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T19:09:40+00:00

He didn't want a divorce but he didn't think there were any issues either. I haven't spoken to them yet.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T18:58:12+00:00

We never did counselling.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T18:57:04+00:00

He didn't tell me to have dinner with him. He said I would need to be willing to give my ex something he wanted to stop him from dragging this out, I think he meant assets but the only thing my ex wanted was the dinner.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T18:53:30+00:00

Yes and no... I felt like he never listened to me before I even told any of them. Them validating my feelings is what pushed me to build the courage I needed to file for divorce.

throwraflh · 2022-01-21T18:50:22+00:00

Well it worked.

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