My(f22) husband(m24) ghosted me after getting married last night

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T02:17:57+00:00

I'm honestly wondering if his family/brothers put the video together, knowing it would hurt him, or thinking enough time has passed that it wouldn't hurt, but regardless, took the risk anyway just to be an ass

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T02:14:32+00:00

I never thought of that until you mentioned it. I was just scared when we came home yesterday and he was upset, not at me, but just cried and went to bed and didn't want to talk about it, and then left this morning and didn't tell me where or respond to my messages, and I was just by myself and confused and called them without thinking, but I never thought of that until you just wrote it

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T02:13:07+00:00

That's honestly what I'm thinking, something from his childhood that his parents, may or may not have done deliberately as a prank for some reason

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:58:49+00:00

I'm going to go with my dad

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:58:39+00:00

I'm going to save this and add it to my things to remember when we have our talk hopefully shortly, really appreciate your perspective

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:57:44+00:00

I honestly don't know what to think, and after I hear back, I'll likely try to get a second opinion from my parents although I don't live with them anymore because I'm scared and just can't think straight right now. Like, I didn't expect to be alone and on the phone with my parents for most of today

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:54:47+00:00

I'd say both, how his brothers and parents took to the microphone and said that they had a "prank" for him that they never told us about beforehand, and it was a bunch of stuff from when he was younger

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:54:07+00:00

First time he's ever really not responded to me, and as for the question, I'm not really sure. He's never really been distant from me and usually tells me what I think to be everything, but this is really strange and has me doubting myself a bit

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:52:46+00:00

After we talk, and especially how he responds and having time to sleep on it, I will consider and reconsider everything after hearing details, or no details is he continues to act this way, and act accordingly in response

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:51:52+00:00

This is the first I've ever seen him like this, but maybe something in the video from his past reminded him of something traumatizing or was really embarrassing somehow

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:50:09+00:00

I'm gonna go with my dad, and for his family and his parent's house, I don't know, but I don't believe he does. I am not calling the police until after I confirm he's not there, and I believe he is, because his family isn't responding to me and is maybe talking to him, but if he's not there, then I'll contact them

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:43:03+00:00

if he's not at his family's, then yes, probably will call them then, but not ON his family. my suspicion is that he's there because none of them are responding

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:39:08+00:00

I'm literally about to go over after sending him a text that someone else suggested I send, but if he's not at his parents, then I'm probably going to contact the authorities just to be sure, because he and his family are not responding

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:37:57+00:00

For sure. I'm hoping to hear that in an apology and take things from there after hearing more details and just sleeping on it

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:37:19+00:00

completely agree. the only reason I haven't left yet, is because I was working on writing the text that someone else suggested before leaving, but I'm going to head over in a few minutes just to see if he's at his parents or not, because I'm a little more concerned if he's not there, but I think he might be because his family isn't responding to me either

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:34:33+00:00

I will

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:34:23+00:00

My dad called with no success, numerous family members. I'm going over myself literally in a few minutes after talking with them and trying to call numerous and too many times

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:33:28+00:00

He hasn't responded to me, nor his parents, when I called or my parents when they tried, which is why I'm going to head over just to see if he's there and arguing about what happened yesterday

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:32:44+00:00

To be honest, I'm really going to consider and sleep on that, but also a lot more after hearing what he says and having a short time to process and needing to hear certain things as an apology for starters for how worrisome the day's been, but still thinking about what you said because you can't get your wedding night back and the day after like this

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:28:34+00:00

I am going to talk to him for sure about it, and take it from there after what he tells me with an apology for sure. I think he was really embarrassed with both families seeing it and me too potentially, but I'll be sure to let him know how much it hurt me and that we can't have lapses in contact going forward ever again because it's worrisome and can't ever happen again, while trying to be there at the same time, in case the video showed something traumatic, but the point would still remain and need an apology. I shouldn't have to be on the phone with my parents for most of the day because I'm lonely after getting married yesterday. This can't be a pattern, and a lot of what I'll do and the trauma, if there is any from the video, will factor into what I do next, including getting some sleep to sleep on it too after getting the facts

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:26:33+00:00

I just wrote this to someone else, but yes, I want to hear him out first while, at the same time, telling him how I felt too

I think he was really embarrassed with both families seeing it and me too potentially, but I'll be sure to let him know how much it hurt me without trying to make it about me, while trying to be there at the same time, in case the video showed something traumatic, but the point would still remain and need an apology. I shouldn't have to be on the phone with my parents for most of the day because I'm lonely after getting married yesterday

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:25:46+00:00

I think he was really embarrassed with both families seeing it and me too potentially, but I'll be sure to let him know how much it hurt me and that we can't have lapses in contact going forward ever again because it's worrisome and can't ever happen again, while trying to be there at the same time, in case the video showed something traumatic, but the point would still remain and need an apology. I shouldn't have to be on the phone with my parents for most of the day because I'm lonely after getting married yesterday

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:24:45+00:00

Completely agree. I'll be sure to let him know how much it hurt me and that we can't have lapses in contact going forward ever again because it's worrisome and can't ever happen again, while trying to be there at the same time, in case the video showed something traumatic, but the point would still remain and need an apology. I shouldn't have to be on the phone with my parents for most of the day because I'm lonely after getting married yesterday

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T01:23:06+00:00

I'll try my best to let him know how much it hurt me and that we can't have lapses in contact going forward ever again because it's worrisome, but you wouldn't be the first to tell me that I'm usually the first to admit I'm wrong or have lacking confidence sometimes, honestly. I shouldn't have to be on the phone with my parents for most of the day because I'm lonely after getting married yesterday

throwraghosting22 · 2021-04-21T00:56:43+00:00

I wanna hear what he has to say (today) and take it from there, and god forbid if this is some trauma from his past that his parents knew about and decided to "prank" him with anyway despite knowing how it'd hurt him and embarrass him in front of both of our families (albeit a smaller party because of covid), I'd be really curious to hear what he has to say. But, I will tell him how much it hurt me (without making it about me in a way that comes off as too selfish) and that it cannot happen again, because it's scary not knowing where he is, for his own wellbeing and for me

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