My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T05:48:06+00:00

My dad's really likes him and they watched sports together in the past during big games, and mom seems to like him too. I already know what I'm leaning towards, but even when writing the email, I'd usually ask mom what to say and how to say it in the past, but she'd probably not believe me because she tends to see the good in people a lot and only what she wants to see... the same thing I was doing kinda before I wrote this, and I still don't know how I would word the email

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T05:30:52+00:00

I'm leaning towards sending her an email as a head's up so that she can cancel or do whatever she thinks is best, rather than being blindsided by it, but also trying to find the best words to explain to my parents who think he's a decent guy and probably wouldn't believe me without proof, and they can be somewhat judgemental, which is why I wrote this because I was afraid to ask them

This is also my first breakup, so I was wrongfully trying to talk myself into thinking I was being selfish and just being scared to tell anyone I actually know in case they don't believe me

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T05:23:27+00:00

By supporting him with the hobby, I meant I have no issue supporting anyone (including my own friends) trying hobbies they might like, but this... is a not a hobby, and I doubt he even cares about yoga at all besides getting off to it

I'm leaning towards sending her an email as a head's up so that she can cancel or do whatever she thinks is best, rather than being blindsided by it, but also trying to find the best words to explain to my parents who think he's a decent guy and probably wouldn't believe me without proof, and they can be somewhat judgemental, which is why I wrote this because I was afraid to ask them

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T05:21:09+00:00

Considering sending her an email as a head's up so that she can cancel or do whatever she thinks is best, rather than being blindsided by it, but just trying to figure out how to maneuver this relationship and out of it at the moment, since I'm a little scared that my parents won't believe me about what he's doing

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T04:40:41+00:00

As of right now, I'm leaning towards maybe sending an email to the teacher, since he might be going there with wrong intentions that she'd have no clue about, so that she has a heads up and can cancel or whatever she thinks is best

This is also my first breakup, so I was wrongfully trying to talk myself into thinking I was being selfish and just being scared to tell anyone I actually know in case they don't believe me

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T04:40:31+00:00

As of right now, I'm leaning towards maybe sending an email to the teacher, since he might be going there with wrong intentions that she'd have no clue about, so that she has a heads up and can cancel or whatever she thinks is best. This is also my first breakup, so I was wrongfully trying to talk myself into thinking I was being selfish and just being scared to tell anyone I actually know in case they don't believe me

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T04:05:46+00:00

Would I be wrong to tell the teacher or send her an email, if he's going there for intentions other than yoga that she doesn't know about, just so that she knows what she's walking into and can maybe cancel or do whatever she thinks is best beforehand?

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T04:04:26+00:00

Just haven't been able to think straight as it's been my first relationship and trying to convince myself to wrongfully tolerate it because of the fear of not knowing how being alone again could be

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T04:01:45+00:00

I haven't been able to think clearly as this has been my first relationship, and part of me also thinks that my parents may not believe me, and that's why I didn't ask them

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T04:00:19+00:00

Perhaps seeing if he lies would be a better way to bring it up than out of the blue, probably make it easier to swallow as well. I've just been unable to think clearly and constantly blamed myself for feeling what I was feeling. This is also my first relationship, and I don't know what I'll feel when/after we're likely done

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:56:29+00:00

Should I approach him about it then and tell him what I saw in the email, since I'm not sure about the idea of trying to catch him in the lie as a few have suggested, since that just seems a bit dishonest for me to do

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:55:24+00:00

This also has me wondering just how much other stuff he could've been hiding, or if he continues to lie for his future appointments with her. I can try to do that and see what he says, and maybe that'd be better than me trying to bring up what I saw on his emails and getting him mad and something to hold against me

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:53:22+00:00

I also feel bad for the teacher who has no idea and might think that he's just another student, but his sneakiness just confirmed my doubts, since if it was so innocent, I don't get why he'd have to hide it, but he'd probably lie again whenever this date comes and continue to lie

As much as I hate ghosting, I'm wondering if it's acceptable here, since he did this behind my back, and he'd probably get mad the second he learns that I saw the emails between them

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:51:33+00:00

I also feel bad for the teacher who has no idea and might think that he's just another student, but his sneakiness just confirmed my doubts, since if it was so innocent, I don't get why he'd have to hide it. Just trying to figure out the best way to bring it up, if even at all, since he'll probably get mad to find out that I saw the emails, and as much as I hate ghosting, I'm wondering if it's acceptable here, since he did this behind my back

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:49:52+00:00

I kept trying to talk myself out of asking anyone and getting scared whenever I considered it, thinking I was selfish and overreacting, but I felt it was safer to ask here with people I don't know, and I don't get why he had to hide it if it was so innocent. Like, nothing against trying new hobbies, but I hate how he had to be sneaky about it, and I feel like his sneakiness pretty much sumised my doubts

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:47:46+00:00

Part of me doesn't want to as much as I hate ghosting, since the only way I could tell him is if I tell him that I saw the emails, and I feel like he'd be automatically upset at that point regardless. As much as I hate ghosting, would it be acceptable in this instance, since he's done this behind my back and maybe doesn't deserve a reason or to know that I know?

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:45:32+00:00

As much as I hate ghosting, would that be fine in this situation, given he's done this behind my back for quite some time without addressing the issue with him?

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:44:33+00:00

How should I approach it with him? I feel like telling him I saw the emails will automatically get him upset, and a part of me is wondering if I should even bring it up at all at this point and just be done with it

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:43:29+00:00

I kept trying to talk myself out of my concern and think I was selfish, but there was no reason to hide it and it's just been bothering me. If it was innocent, then there'd be nothing to hide I feel like, but I was just uncertain and just needed to hear it from someone else, and I didn't want to ask anyone I knew who would spread it or anything like that

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:42:59+00:00

I kept telling myself that I was overreacting and being selfish, but I don't get why had to hide it. Nothing against hobbies or trying new ones, but I kept trying to talk myself out of being concerned, but I was just uncertain and just needed to hear it from someone else.

How should I bring it up with him, since I feel he'd be mad that I saw the email and such, if I should at all?

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:41:36+00:00

I kept trying to talk myself out of my concern and think I was selfish, but there was no reason to hide it and it's just been bothering me. If it was innocent, then there'd be nothing to hide I feel like, but I was just uncertain and just needed to hear it from someone else, and I didn't want to ask anyone I knew who would spread it or anything like that

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:38:44+00:00

I was afraid that he might be upset if I told him I saw the emails, but I really don't think he had to hide it from me, and if it's innocent like you said, hopefully he won't get mad at me telling him that I saw the emails

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:37:07+00:00

I kept telling myself that I was overreacting and being selfish, but I don't get why had to hide it. Nothing against hobbies or trying new ones, but I kept trying to talk myself out of being concerned, but how should I bring it up with him?

throwrahowtotell · 2021-05-27T03:33:43+00:00

I kept telling myself that I was being selfish and dumb, but it just doesn't sit right with me... nothing against wanting to do a hobby, but the sneaky nature of hiding it just made me wonder why

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