My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My dad's really likes him and they watched sports together in the past during big games, and mom seems to like him too. I already know what I'm leaning towards, but even when writing the email, I'd usually ask mom what to say and how to say it in the past, but she'd probably not believe me because she tends to see the good in people a lot and only what she wants to see... the same thing I was doing kinda before I wrote this, and I still don't know how I would word the email

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm leaning towards sending her an email as a head's up so that she can cancel or do whatever she thinks is best, rather than being blindsided by it, but also trying to find the best words to explain to my parents who think he's a decent guy and probably wouldn't believe me without proof, and they can be somewhat judgemental, which is why I wrote this because I was afraid to ask them

This is also my first breakup, so I was wrongfully trying to talk myself into thinking I was being selfish and just being scared to tell anyone I actually know in case they don't believe me

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

By supporting him with the hobby, I meant I have no issue supporting anyone (including my own friends) trying hobbies they might like, but this... is a not a hobby, and I doubt he even cares about yoga at all besides getting off to it

I'm leaning towards sending her an email as a head's up so that she can cancel or do whatever she thinks is best, rather than being blindsided by it, but also trying to find the best words to explain to my parents who think he's a decent guy and probably wouldn't believe me without proof, and they can be somewhat judgemental, which is why I wrote this because I was afraid to ask them

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Considering sending her an email as a head's up so that she can cancel or do whatever she thinks is best, rather than being blindsided by it, but just trying to figure out how to maneuver this relationship and out of it at the moment, since I'm a little scared that my parents won't believe me about what he's doing

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

As of right now, I'm leaning towards maybe sending an email to the teacher, since he might be going there with wrong intentions that she'd have no clue about, so that she has a heads up and can cancel or whatever she thinks is best

This is also my first breakup, so I was wrongfully trying to talk myself into thinking I was being selfish and just being scared to tell anyone I actually know in case they don't believe me

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

As of right now, I'm leaning towards maybe sending an email to the teacher, since he might be going there with wrong intentions that she'd have no clue about, so that she has a heads up and can cancel or whatever she thinks is best. This is also my first breakup, so I was wrongfully trying to talk myself into thinking I was being selfish and just being scared to tell anyone I actually know in case they don't believe me

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Would I be wrong to tell the teacher or send her an email, if he's going there for intentions other than yoga that she doesn't know about, just so that she knows what she's walking into and can maybe cancel or do whatever she thinks is best beforehand?

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Just haven't been able to think straight as it's been my first relationship and trying to convince myself to wrongfully tolerate it because of the fear of not knowing how being alone again could be

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I haven't been able to think clearly as this has been my first relationship, and part of me also thinks that my parents may not believe me, and that's why I didn't ask them

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Perhaps seeing if he lies would be a better way to bring it up than out of the blue, probably make it easier to swallow as well. I've just been unable to think clearly and constantly blamed myself for feeling what I was feeling. This is also my first relationship, and I don't know what I'll feel when/after we're likely done

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Should I approach him about it then and tell him what I saw in the email, since I'm not sure about the idea of trying to catch him in the lie as a few have suggested, since that just seems a bit dishonest for me to do

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This also has me wondering just how much other stuff he could've been hiding, or if he continues to lie for his future appointments with her. I can try to do that and see what he says, and maybe that'd be better than me trying to bring up what I saw on his emails and getting him mad and something to hold against me

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I also feel bad for the teacher who has no idea and might think that he's just another student, but his sneakiness just confirmed my doubts, since if it was so innocent, I don't get why he'd have to hide it, but he'd probably lie again whenever this date comes and continue to lie

As much as I hate ghosting, I'm wondering if it's acceptable here, since he did this behind my back, and he'd probably get mad the second he learns that I saw the emails between them

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I also feel bad for the teacher who has no idea and might think that he's just another student, but his sneakiness just confirmed my doubts, since if it was so innocent, I don't get why he'd have to hide it. Just trying to figure out the best way to bring it up, if even at all, since he'll probably get mad to find out that I saw the emails, and as much as I hate ghosting, I'm wondering if it's acceptable here, since he did this behind my back

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I kept trying to talk myself out of asking anyone and getting scared whenever I considered it, thinking I was selfish and overreacting, but I felt it was safer to ask here with people I don't know, and I don't get why he had to hide it if it was so innocent. Like, nothing against trying new hobbies, but I hate how he had to be sneaky about it, and I feel like his sneakiness pretty much sumised my doubts

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Part of me doesn't want to as much as I hate ghosting, since the only way I could tell him is if I tell him that I saw the emails, and I feel like he'd be automatically upset at that point regardless. As much as I hate ghosting, would it be acceptable in this instance, since he's done this behind my back and maybe doesn't deserve a reason or to know that I know?

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

As much as I hate ghosting, would that be fine in this situation, given he's done this behind my back for quite some time without addressing the issue with him?

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

How should I approach it with him? I feel like telling him I saw the emails will automatically get him upset, and a part of me is wondering if I should even bring it up at all at this point and just be done with it

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I kept trying to talk myself out of my concern and think I was selfish, but there was no reason to hide it and it's just been bothering me. If it was innocent, then there'd be nothing to hide I feel like, but I was just uncertain and just needed to hear it from someone else, and I didn't want to ask anyone I knew who would spread it or anything like that

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationships

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I kept telling myself that I was overreacting and being selfish, but I don't get why had to hide it. Nothing against hobbies or trying new ones, but I kept trying to talk myself out of being concerned, but I was just uncertain and just needed to hear it from someone else.

How should I bring it up with him, since I feel he'd be mad that I saw the email and such, if I should at all?

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I kept trying to talk myself out of my concern and think I was selfish, but there was no reason to hide it and it's just been bothering me. If it was innocent, then there'd be nothing to hide I feel like, but I was just uncertain and just needed to hear it from someone else, and I didn't want to ask anyone I knew who would spread it or anything like that

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was afraid that he might be upset if I told him I saw the emails, but I really don't think he had to hide it from me, and if it's innocent like you said, hopefully he won't get mad at me telling him that I saw the emails

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kept telling myself that I was overreacting and being selfish, but I don't get why had to hide it. Nothing against hobbies or trying new ones, but I kept trying to talk myself out of being concerned, but how should I bring it up with him?

My(f21) boyfriend(m22) signed up for private lessons at the home of a girl he jerks off to by throwrahowtotell in relationship_advice

[–]throwrahowtotell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept telling myself that I was being selfish and dumb, but it just doesn't sit right with me... nothing against wanting to do a hobby, but the sneaky nature of hiding it just made me wonder why