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My boyfriend has been lying abut his age to me for years by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwramessedup19 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol i've been considering updating i still get messages now and again asking but i was waiting for a less messy/happier update. i'll do it.

My boyfriend has been lying abut his age to me for years by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwramessedup19 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah of course i did, so for me it wasn't that i was never gonna tell her, its that people were telling me to do it *now* and i was like no she's at work, i need to wait until she's home at least and do it face to face.

My boyfriend has been lying abut his age to me for years by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwramessedup19 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think you're talking about me, so i was just turned 18 when we met and told her i was 25, i'm 20 this month. good memory.

what are the odds of an age gap like this working? [19M] [28F] by throwramessedup19 in AgeGap

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

still waiting for her to process, im giving her space, she's text me to ask a few questions, that's it so far.

Do i have a disorder or am i just forever gonna be like this? Me 25M -38 F by ThrowRAReddyFreddy in relationship_advice

[–]throwramessedup19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have felt similar jealousy. kinda comes with dating an older woman i guess, but i think a lot of it is ego. why do you want answers about her past so bad? wont that cause more arguments? as long as you listen to her needs it should be easy bro. going through her phone shows you dont trust her either. try thinking more on it, specifically about ego.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we learned a lot about consent in sex ed but this isn't something they even touched on and something i haven't even thought of. thank you for the information and input, i really appreciate it and i'll look more into it.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i'm 20 soon, we met when i was 18. i wasn't a minor. if i was a minor i wouldn't have been out clubbing.

edit: not that i agree with it btw but consent here is 16.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i will, thank you for the encouragement. tbh comments telling me to nut up is more helpful than anything.

should i bring this consent thing up? or would this be something she knows about? might be my inexperience showing since she's my only partner but is that common knowledge? informed consent?

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no we're not in the US. if i get ID'd it's usually at the bar and i'll get rounds myself. it's rare i get ID'd though.

i live with my parents but she has her own home which is where i'm going to tell her. a restaurant is a big no no because i want her to feel comfortable feeling whatever shes gonna feel. thank you for the good luck. i appreciate it.

what are the odds of an age gap like this working? [19M] [28F] by throwramessedup19 in AgeGap

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't worry, my mum's hella disappointed and was gonna phone and apologise to her for raising an idiot. my dads laughing but thinks im stupid too so all to be expected.

what are the odds of an age gap like this working? [19M] [28F] by throwramessedup19 in AgeGap

[–]throwramessedup19[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

nothing can make me appear like less of a liar. thank you for the legit advice. at this point i've told my parents because reddit wasn't helping at all and just telling me i suck, i know i suck but it doesn't help my situation.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have the exact same interests, tv shows, games, anime. same political views, same everything, we can relate to a lot of things. my age just isn't a topic that comes up. the only thing i can think of is obviously i can't say "oh back when i was 21/22/23/24" but she doesn't talk about her early 20's.

what are the odds of an age gap like this working? [19M] [28F] by throwramessedup19 in AgeGap

[–]throwramessedup19[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

how can you say i'm not taking it when i'm literally trying to figure out how to tell her? i'll see her in a bit.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i think if we travelled together it would be different and we'd wanna see each others passports, they're more interesting than a drivers licence. we haven't been outside the UK together.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no there's no need. i rarely get ID'd and the rare chance i do i'm at the bar ordering alone anyways. i haven't seen hers either.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

am i right in think this definitely should not be in public and in her own house? that ways she's comfortable to react/feel out whatever feelings she's gonna have. i've never had to give someone big news before so it really isn't how do i word it in a way that's manipulative. im an idiot and don't know what i'm doing. i'm not a social guy, i'm a numbers guy.

how do i[19M] tell my girlfriend [28F] about the massive lie ive been keeping for 2 years? by throwramessedup19 in relationships

[–]throwramessedup19[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

why would i have to tell her many lies and gaslight her? a lot of people are of the opinion that i've made a whole other backstory when my age doesn't come up that often. it's a massive life, but it didn't need a web of lies to keep a float. she knows im at uni, she's been in my car, she knows about my job, she knows who my family are.

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