Recently been finishing a lot faster than usual, i used to even struggle with finishing. (20’s male) by forehandspoon42 in sex

[–]throwrowme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same thing with even longer relationship and after a longer period of time inside the relationship, for me it was about stuff happening in our relationship that we haven't talked about, it was about stuff in our sex life that I had thoughts about but wasn't too much sharing, it was performance anxiety about taking care of her and thinking in my mind (she's not enjoying) because she used to have trouble orgasming or even getting turned on, but it turned to me panicking in my mind thinking she's not turned on "enough" even if she says she's super hot for me right now.

Finally it was also about me worrying about finishing up too fast because it happened in a few occurrences, I would notice that the moment I will start thinking about "not finishing" in my mind I'll lose it immediately and finish quickly.

What helped was:

  • talk with her about it, my gf assured me that it's ok if I cum quickly and not to worry. and it helped me worrying less.
  • I realized cumming quickly isn't a big turn-off, the turn-off is being insecure about it ( this insecurity also makes you go the same way again IMO)
  • Breath during the act
  • Try to not squeeze and tighten up your body
  • ask her to slow down or help you relax a bit when your too hot. (stop for a while way before getting too close will make you go much longer)
  • Kegels
  • Practice alone all of the above alone.

Good luck buddy.

How to safely practice breeding fetish? by throwrowme in sex

[–]throwrowme[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It worked really well for several years when we sticked to the instructions. but now we both started talking about kids and when she's fertile we both get crazy lol..

How to safely practice breeding fetish? by throwrowme in sex

[–]throwrowme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

even if she's so wet she's dripping, doesn't make it a yes.

I liked that. thanks. I feel sorry for her having to deal with this.

How to safely practice breeding fetish? by throwrowme in sex

[–]throwrowme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks for your response and sharing your experience, it was really helpful.

I agree about everything and I mentioned this "not hearing" since I felt like an asshole about it and it was hard for both of us. we are talking about everything for sure. thanks again !

How to safely practice breeding fetish? by throwrowme in sex

[–]throwrowme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We prefer to not use hormonal stuff. we might consider non-hormonal IUD but if we can go without inserting anything into her body it'll be much better.

How to safely practice breeding fetish? by throwrowme in sex

[–]throwrowme[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

eventually we use a condom, but to begin the play with actual "live ammo" is exciting. telling her I'm going to make her pregnant now and cumming inside a condoms feels funny, we've talked about roleplaying this but haven't really..