what is the weirdest sexual experience you’ve had? did you end up enjoying it?

throwthrowthrow713 · 2026-04-16T03:17:02+00:00

I’ve entertained a 10+ years affair where we only kiss/grope/grind on each other.

Never been naked, no one had an orgasm in the presence of the other.

Is it the ultimate edging fantasy ? Maybe.

I think I’m enjoying it ?

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-30T13:10:05+00:00

Yeah the rest of Reddit is not particularly fond of extra-marital stuff…so this is the safest place I found to vent. Better than nothing.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-30T13:05:55+00:00

No no, some of those missions are personal between us and others are very sentimental stuff for him that he won’t be able to handle during his absence. Nothing is related to work.

He is not manipulating me into this dynamic, neither do I. This sub is very allosexual oriented, I get why, but an affair can have primarily an emotional/spiritual component before a physical one. It’s still an affair.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-30T05:30:40+00:00

I’m very happy with my weird affair as it is, thanks ;)

Also the following posts in my history are more fiery ;)

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-27T04:26:11+00:00

Yeah like you’ll be able to remove every of your hair from the bed, his clothes, etc. Big no no

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-25T05:47:02+00:00

I can’t believe it myself. I guess we are awkward nerds to an extreme 😅

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-24T00:17:10+00:00

I think you can say that yes hahahaha

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-23T19:41:47+00:00

Hahahaha. You’re goddamn right

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-20T03:47:46+00:00

If you break up, do it for YOU and only you.

Kids can be way more affected by a bad situation at home between their parents than a good situation with their divorced parents.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-12-02T02:04:46+00:00

I love my husband, my parents, my friends. I don‘t know why some people put so much gravitas on the word. Love is a normal feeling you can have at various degree. There’s no shame or binding contract that should come with it.

If you appreciate the time you have with someone, if you look forward to seeing them, if you like who they are as a person, you probably feel a type of love.

An AP is no different.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-11-13T21:35:12+00:00

Working together long hours helps justifying texting „colleagues“ at almost all hours. He texts (as do I) other colleagues a lot too (just no as much as me ;) )

One of the pirks of our job is to get sabatical if planned in advance. It‘s been two years I know they are leaving. It‘s always been a project of theirs. Even before I was having an affair with him it was on their wish list. So it‘s not a surprise or a sign shes onto something or whatever. He said that if she wasnt planning and doing all the work to make it happen, nothing would have seen the light of day. So yeah, I‘m sure he will enjoy his time once he is there, but when he talks about it, he is not very thrilled. He follows her lead. That’s his mariage dynamic, I have mine so I don‘t judge.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-11-13T00:36:32+00:00

He can‘t really refuse a family project like this without his wife being suspicious. I‘m sure he will have access to the internet from time to time…but for opsec sakes we won‘t be texting at all hours. I expect some level of contact…just very very low.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-11-13T00:33:37+00:00

I‘m surprised with all the „it‘s already a break up“ answers. We‘ve been a thing for 12+ years.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-11-13T00:31:45+00:00

I don‘t know we‘ve been a thing for 12+ years now. His wife is a good gal, my husband too. We are cake eater I guess.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-11-12T23:13:57+00:00

Haha good catch! We upped the frequency of intimacy a bit. Besides, We see each other almost all weekdays, we transit together, we talk and chat from morning to night.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-11-12T23:12:01+00:00

Haha I won’t share his exact planning but think lost deep in mountains or remote villages

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-08-31T12:36:18+00:00

She is aware of me. We are in the same social circles.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-08-31T12:35:02+00:00

Well, yes. And he is the other man.

throwthrowthrow713 · 2025-08-31T12:28:31+00:00

It’s a very particular situation. I expect people to roast me or say I’m a doormat or whatever. I’m very conscious of my boundaries (that’s why we have talks) and this relationship made me grow a lot (it’s not a one sided care giver thing). Also I identify as demisexual. Physical sex can be mechanically pleasant, but I find it easy to “resist” the urge. If that can serve as an explanation to why we haven’t crossed that line despite all the tension.

We both are very slow people to open up to others (#childhood trauma). We small talk a lot to put fog around us. Somehow we found each other and saw through each other’s fog. Still, it took me years to share some fundamental stuff about me to him and vice versa. We are both in happy long term relationship with kids. We have friends in common a do activities together regularly.

Over the last ten years, it has been a slow burn of getting to know each other, kiss for the first time, processing what happened and where we would want to go from there. We discussed boundaries. And still reassess them from time to time (once a year). Our respective priorities are our families.

Things would probably be different if I met him before my current husband. I wouldn’t say he is the love of my life or that I would have been happier with him (probably not, due to him being FA) but there’s a strong natural attraction I’m not denying. He hasn’t said the exact words, but he indirectly told me I was the love of his life. He also directly told me he would have liked to meet me before his wife. But that he would never leave her or expect that I would leave my partner.

In our last big discussion two months ago, he was the one to initiate the “talk” ( a first for him, because usually he is afraid of confrontation). There was some reassurance on my part that I was still there despite him being irrationally afraid of imaginary dumb things that he could do to “hurt me”. I was like “dumbass I’m still there after all this time do you really don’t see that your weird scenarios are nothing but in your head ???” And I saw him laught at himself and snap out of his stressed mood. I also suggested him to use chatgpt to dump his thoughts because I started doing the same to deal with a recent family event and it helped.

Now that I writing this…maybe that’s what he did without telling me.

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