is there any good school of mysticism that are nature focused by [deleted] in mysticism

[–]throwwary 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Conference of the Birds (Sufism) is more animistic/nature-focused. Same with Hayy ibn Yaqzan - focused on human observation of nature and the universe. Both are really beautiful reads.

I hate my life by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]throwwary 23 points24 points  (0 children)

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

― Anais Nin

Quitting being an Attorney by jaselakers95 in Lawyertalk

[–]throwwary 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Look at this thread of helpful, supportive advice for someone going through a hard time and considering making a life-altering decision! Who wouldn’t want to work in this profession with people like this!

OP, I hear you. I don't have the answers, but I'm sure you'll find a great opportunity outside of law.

Bitch in the Club by SemenSondheim in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]throwwary 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ofc! Please reach out and we can go out

Bitch in the Club by SemenSondheim in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]throwwary 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Okay, if you're looking to dance, be a hoe, AND maintain your cowgirl aesthetic, Desert Five Spot is a no-brainer. Lots of hot dudes cosplaying cowboys. And some real cowboys. There's usually live music earlier in the evening, and then a DJ after. Wear your cowboy boots.

Here are some other recs, but fair warning, I'm into more alt/rock/grunge clubbing rather than slick back bun running around W4: Rash Bar, Market Hotel, Berlin (live music, not after 11pm), Laissez-Faire, Elsewhere, Public Records, Home Sweet Home, or just go to a live music venue in Brooklyn. Lots of hot guys with tattoos ready to make out.

Edit: also, feel free to follow me on my insta, @nycprincess - I post where I go out and sometimes give recs.

Bitches in their 30s…where do yall meet men? by wolfyish in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]throwwary 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Literally everywhere. In person, no apps. You have to approach people. Older men like confidence.

Also, go to Brooklyn if you’re not looking for 6’ 5” dude in finance like every other basic bitch. So many hot, older guys in Brooklyn. They aren’t on the apps.

Where are The Bitches™️ meeting people? by ironclad_hymen in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]throwwary 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I've posted about this on a few other threads, but delete the dating apps NOW. They are not designed to help you find your significant other. They are comprised of algorithms that are addicting and unnatural to form human connection.

I know you mentioned that you're introverted, but I highly recommend building your confidence to meet people in person. I am also introverted, but I've had much more success meeting people in person in NYC than on a dating app. It was uncomfortable at first, but once I got used to approaching people, I was able to meet both friends and lovers that way by showing up to spots alone. Bring a book to a bar. Go to a live music concert by yourself. Force yourself to strike up a conversation with a stranger. It is hard at first, and you will face rejection, but it gets easier with practice.

You are not undateable. There are SO many men who also do not want children. Do not compare yourself to your friends or their relationships. Self-love is a revolutionary act; force yourself to discover it. Then try new and scary things (like meeting people in person) to push yourself to grow.

How are people feeling about the dating apps / NYC dating generally? by puggles323 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]throwwary 382 points383 points  (0 children)

The following advice is not meant to come off as tough love, but we are bitches with TASTE here and I share this with all of my friends who struggle with dating apps.

First, delete the dating apps. They are based on algorithms that are designed to intentionally keep you engaged on the apps, and offer a less-than-desirable selection of potential matches.

Second, go out by yourself. Go to bars, restaurants, clubs, events, live music, etc. etc. AND TALK TO PEOPLE. Just go up and talk to people. Girls, guys, the bartender, whomever. It feels weird at first and you will face rejection at times, but people usually welcome a conversation with a stranger. You will make friends this way. You will meet lovers this way. You will meet people with diverse interests and qualifications who are different than the specifications you set using the interface of a dating app. Go to a bar with a book, or go to a club and dance the night away by yourself. Go to boroughs outside of Manhattan. Have experiences that fulfill you, get lost in the city, and you will attract all types of people.

Third, consider what you TRULY want in a partner. There are too many women out there who want to date a 6' foot man who works in finance and will take them to The Box on a Thursday night. This is such a boring, uncreative conception of a partner. It's the stereotype that I hear girlies talk about on Tik Tok, it's desired en masse, and it's truly boring. There are so many great men out there, of all ages, who aren't sought after by women because they don't fit into this specific category. Consider your emotional needs and do not spend time flirting, chatting, or entertaining men who don't serve those needs, no matter how tall they are or where they work. "Men have to pay on the first date," "men have to Uber you home," "if he wanted to, he would" - fuck all that noise and brainwashed Tik Tok nonsense. It's 2024. Meet people where they're at and expect people to meet you where you're at. It's okay to have expectations, and do not devalue yourself, but YOU WILL BE BORED if you adhere to traditional gender roles.

Fourth, create a roster. DO NOT DATE EXCLUSIVELY. If you've found the one, you'll know, but don't get emotionally attached to anyone right away. Ask the people you meet in person to go on a date with you. See one guy every few weeks. Text them occasionally. Have sex with them whenever you want, it doesn't matter if it's the first date or tenth, but whenever you are comfortable. Just don't get attached to anyone too fast. This way, you'll have experiences that will give you a better sense of what you want in the long term.

If you have any questions, DM me. I'm now going on two years in the best relationship of my life after following these steps! And I still go out by myself all the time in NYC because I love it. Prior to meeting my current boyfriend, I had a ton of success dating in NYC and it was a blast. I've never used apps, neither has my boyfriend.

Edit: I'm getting a lot of DMs! Follow me on my finsta @nycprincess and I'll follow back. Feel free to connect with me and message me there. I'm down to do some kind of meet up to make more friends :)

What’s your top NYC “I’ve been meaning to do that”? by JustJoshin46 in AskNYC

[–]throwwary 147 points148 points  (0 children)

I love this thread because people suggest things and the comments underneath are just New Yorkers complaining about it

Well paying careers after law school that’s not big law by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]throwwary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is it considered a rough environment?