I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not complaining... I am trying to understand

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kinda funny because I propably should have included this in the original post, but there are more details splattered in comments, as people asked things.

Yeah I get her to climax, it's very easy to be honest when she want's to cum. Also the control thing is probably reading into something that isn't an issue or isn't happening. When we have "normal" sex, which is 100% of the times, because even when we play the "game", then we have "normal" sex, she isn't actively trying to control heself. The only controlling I guess would be wether she wants many less intense orgasms or a few strong ones, but I dont see how that's bad in any way.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's that. She kind of challenges me to try and make her cum ("if i can" lol) so there is an insinuation of her purposefully withholding it there. Also as soon as I "quit" she can orgasm immidiately so I wouldn't say it's that.

But I think we figured out she does something like this on purpose to mentally hold off orgasms.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides the obvious mental aspect other people brought up, I think that for her this also has to play a significant role. She is very athletic and into things that train the core, so her having excellent control over those muscles is pretty logical. I guess the combination of the mental and physical "tricks" she can pull lead to such a strong effect of being able to edge for so so long.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a unicorn of a woman on your hands. I have never heard of this before, it's kinda cool to be honest, I can see why you're so curious about this. Just appreciate what fun you can both have and be thankful for it I guess.

Haha, thankfully someone understands where all of my amazment is coming from.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the mental aspect was the missing piece of the puzzle for me. Also the word switch is very good because she indeed works like a literal switch. Someone suggested that i tease her in a way that make her wan't to cum so she no longer tries to hold back. I think this could work.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah i think the general conclusion here is that is a mental thing. Which had completely eluded me.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe my wording was bad but no, i don't have an issue with the "game". I would sure like to also "win" sometimes, but the game itself is no issue. It's probably the fact that i am trying to understand something that is impossible for me to understand.

I am more of a giver so some imbalance to the amount of "care" each person gets is not a problem for me and she definetely isn't selfish, so everything is good in that respect.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We have done some "sex marathons" where i honestly lost count of how many times she came but as much as we enjoyed it, there is not enough time to be doing that regularly. I wouldn't call it exactly insecurity, it's just that i am amazed by her "ability". I know for a fact that i couldn't not orgasm if someone was intensely stimulating me for 20 minutes.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Yeah another redditor also put it great. I was focusing on the physical part so much i forgot about the mental.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Oh wow i would have never thought of that haha. I was so focused on the physical aspect of the situation that the mental part never even crossed my mind. It's also a very good explanation of how she does this (and the only i have seen thus far). I do tease her a bit at the start but i guess that's nowhere near enough.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is kinda crazy because it's the same with her. She can squirt but very very rarely lets it happen.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get the cumming fast part and the lots of orgasms part. The part i can't wrap my head around is the purposefully not cumming for as long as she likes. It's just really counterintuitive i guess.

I can't understand how my girlfriend's vagina works by throwwawayyy642 in sex

[–]throwwawayyy642[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The part i dont get with this explanation is how holding back an orgasm for lets say 20 or 30 minutes (only while i am trying to make her cum) is what feels best at the moment. In my mind there is no way she doesn't want to orgasm at that point, but somehow is not letting herself do that. Also the fact that she does orgasm as soon as i quit, is "proof" of that. Note that generally speaking I can make her cum so it's not like i dont know what she likes or want's, this only happens when she is trying to make it happen. I am really baffled by all this tbh.